Post # 1
Ok, so I have been engaged for 3 weeks. Last night we stopped by my dad’s house to talk about some wedding plans because he will be leaving to go out of the country for a month in just a couple of weeks. Everything was normal and we were having a nice conversation and getting ideas from him and his girlfriend.
And the bomb drops.
So…. My step mom looks and me after a couple of hours of talking about my wedding and she says SUPRISE! and throws out her left hand.
Dad’s engaged??? What?? This is suposed to be about me now I have to share this with her?????? What?????? I’m excited for them but really? Did they just get the engaged bug from us, with wedding in the air did it just push them to make the jump?
Please help me, I’m freaking out! I’ve been trying to keep my head on straight with wedding planning but this? What do I do? Am I being rediculous?
Post # 3
my sister’s dad got engaged shortly after her.. thankfully her soon to be step mom is so nice, and not making ANY wedding plans til after my sisters wedding in october!
Post # 4
I can understand you being a but put out that they got engaged at the same time as you, but i think you’re over-reacting. Do you think they’ve deliberately set out to steal your thunder, or could it just be that they’re in love and want to be married?
It worried me when you said “this is supposed to be about me…” Are you sure? Are everyone else’s lives supposed to stop until after your wedding? I know you’re excited about you and your man tying the knot, but let them be happy too!
And if nothing else, when no-one else wants to listen about ribbon colours or bridesmaid dress lengths or fondant icing, at least your step-mom will be right there with you
Congrats on your engagement!
Post # 5
Thank you. I understand what you are saying. I guess I am being pretty selfish. I guess I should have added that I hate this woman and was kinda hoping I could someday get her out of my life. She makes me crazy and is trying to make my wedding the way SHE wants it and will have nothing to do with my ideas for my own wedding. I guess maybe this is a good thing cuz she can plan her own wedding now instead of mine.
Post # 6
Well my FI father proposed to his girlfriend a couple weeks ago when his two sons have weddings coming up that are within a month of each other! My future brother in law is getting married at the end of july and we have our wedding in sept. Oh and my FI brother got engaged a year after my FI and I did and are getting married before us.. a month before us. It actually hasn’t bothered me much since the brother’s wedding is across the country and a completely different style.. i never really was upset about it. But when the dad got engaged i started to worry about him bringing his fiance to our wedding and it being really awkward for my FI mom- especially with pictures. I don’t think they have wedding plans yet so i am happy for them.. i don’t want people to have to put their lives on hold for our wedding.
Maybe if they are waiting to do anything with their wedding until after yours it will be okay. I can understand you being upset if you are both having showers and wedding planning meetings at the same time.. kinda takes away from your excitement. Maybe you can talk to them about waiting until after your wedding- long enough that it wont overlap any planning- Tell them that you want to be a part of their planning so maybe a long engagement would work- Or who knows they might be planning something so drastically different than you that it wont be a big deal – I would try not to get too worked up until you can talk to them about it all.
Post # 7
i think you are overreacting a bit. but think of it this way- you said she’s been trying to take over your wedding, and now she has her own to plan!
Post # 8
During the time we’ve been engaged, FI’s dad met, got engaged and married his girlfriend/now wife. I was def a little upset, but it’s his third marriage and it was a small quick ceremony shortly after they got engaged.
Now, last week I find out my stepbrother proposed to his girlfriend also last week, and they are now planning a Oct 16 wedding, two weeks before us. They were planning on a DW but now she wants a big local wedding.
So I feel the pain