Post # 1
I never post on here.. it is my first post. I do come read peoples stuff on the boards, but found this site from a friend who IS a regular poster and told me about finding good deals on wedding décor. Anyways, here is my situation. My Fiancé and I have been engaged now for about 2 months, and it came as a total surprise to me! We had a whirlwind romance staring off.. we were just friends and talked about everything under the moon from work to love and past relationships. Our friendship immediately grew into something more and we started dating pretty seriously and exclusively fast after that. Now, my fiancé is extremely honest… like, too honest haha. He doesn’t hold anything back, which has its good and bad points. The good is… he can’t hide anything from me. Case in point—he had the engagement ring all of about 10 hours before he couldn’t take it anymore and proposed. He always tells me ahead of time what he is getting me for bday/Christmas/anniversary because he just cannot hold a secret! So.. here is my dilemma. He is in a leadership/management position with his company and is in charge of hiring and training new hires. He mentions a name the other day of a woman that he and the other lady he works with hired. He says that she is a good worker, chill personality, seems like she will be a good fit. He also tells me about a guy who was just hired that is a lot like the woman… cool, hard worker, easy to get along with, etc. My fiancé tells me the other day that he thinks me and this new woman would get a long and he thinks that our personalities would really mesh well. I know she is 2 years older than me, engaged, has 1 child and that is about all I know about her from what he has told me. I agree that I am open to meeting new people.. and she seems nice enough from what he has said. He tells me yesterday that he gave her his number and said she could add him on Facebook, but he told her he wanted to hang out in a group setting and he also told her that he did not want office gossip to get started because of it. He immediately told me/asked me I was ok with that, and then he said if we hung out and I didn’t like her to let him know because he didn’t want to push the issue. So all morning, and part of last night, I have been wondering why it bothers me a little that he thinks this woman is “so cool” and has a “great personality”. I must admit.. I am feeling a twinge of jealousy! I am a cool woman lol. Am I being crazy to feel a little jealous? I do not think he is overstepping any boundaries, and he has been very honest with me regarding her ( and all of his coworkers… male and female) so I don’t think anything is going on behind my back… it is just weird to hear my fiancé kind of dote on another woman, even if it is in a work environment. Someone set me straight!
Post # 3
Um, he wants you to meet her. There are no secrets here. And she’s engaged, right? This is way over reacting. Don’t worry!
Post # 4
I think its natural and not crazy or over stepping of you to feel that way!
I agree that its fabulous how honest your man is! The only thing I find weird is that he did the whole facebook number thing and friendship screening…are you looking for new friends?
Has office gossip about your Fiance been a problem in the past?
Post # 5
Honesty is his strong point! i am not necessarily looking for friends but I am not full on the social calendar by any means. I have lived in our current town now for about a year… so I am still meeting people. I dont know about this woman and where she is from, but it sounds to me like she may be more of a homebody because she has a child? Not really sure. Office gossip towards him has never been a problem and I know and am friends with other people he works with.. including women. I do know that office gossip is a problem for other people there, but he has never been one caught in a compromising situation. I knew I was acting crazy… just needed other people to confirm it!
Post # 6
@overthemoon: Okay that makes since 🙂
I hear ya, I am relitively new to my area as well, so meeting people is a good thing. For me It’s awkward in general cause nothing is like your friends from back home and what not. Its hard to describe.
Hopefully it will work out well !
Post # 7
I actually love that he can feel comfortable enough to tell you all about her and tell you her good points too! He wants YOU to be friends with her right? That’s awesome! I love it when my Fiance can tell me “oh that chick I work with is so good at her job, probably better than most of the guys” or whatever. I’m also the same girl who doesn’t care if my Fiance thinks another girl is good looking. Like hello, do I really think I’m the only good looking person to him?
Post # 8
@Ryansgirl: Yeah, I feel the same way. My feeling is, I’m the one with the ring on my finger, and at the end of the day, I know he is telling people the same thing about me (I’ve had people at his work tell me some of the things he’s said, they felt like they knew me before they ever met. Apparently, he talks about me a lot! 🙂 ) Its comforting that he can be totally honest with me, and I know you appreciate that in him as well.
I think its really just that he is kinda all puffed up about finding someone that he thinks you will hit it off with, and wants to make sure you know how awesome she is. I think its sweet 🙂 He must think all these things about you if he thinks you guys would get along so swimmingly!!
Post # 9
Great point…I clearly have nothing to worry about. I just talked to him on his lunch break and he couldn’t wait to come home tonight and see me and said he has something fun planned for us to do tomorrow. I am such a jerk for over reacting! Plus- now that i think about it, I am pretty good friends with 2 other women who work with him, so if anything froggy started happening I know I would hear about it!