Post # 1
I don’t really know what’s typical to expect of people when you tell them you’re engaged, but I’m a little hurt that I haven’t heard back from a friend of mine. I gave her a call on Tuesday and left her a message, and in the message I told her that my partner and I just got engaged. We’ve been on a double date with her and her fiance before, and she and I generally keep in touch/get together whenever we can (which is usually about once every 6 weeks with our schedules). She’s always been someone that I can confide in and I’ve known her for about 3 years now.
I have literally heard nothing from her, which wouldn’t generally hurt my feelings, but considering my voicemail, I’m hurt that she hasn’t sent so much as a text. Am I over-reacting or being too sensitive? When I found out she was engaged (through Facebook), I immediately sent her a text message, so I guess I would hope for the same excitement from her.
Any advice would be apprciated – thank you!!
Post # 2
sw7577: Is there any chance that she is out of town or on vacation? Or, do you know for sure that she is home?
Post # 3
I almost never listen to my voicemail. When I see a friend has called, I think, “Oh, I should call her back when I have time,” and then call her back when I have some time to talk.
I recommend texting her with the news directly, calling her again, or just relaxing; she will be excited for you and will talk with you eventually.
Post # 4
Did you call just to tell her you were engaged? Because if someone left me a voicemail to tell me that (unless they were very close to me) I’d probably give it an eye roll.
Post # 5
I would second the PP’s who suggested that she hasnt received the message. If you two communicate regularly and you havent heard from her, maybe she didnt get the message! I’d just text her and ask if she got your message. If I received a VM from a friend that said she got engaged, I wouldnt give it an eyeroll like PP suggested, I’d be THRILLED for her and contact her right away with congrats.
Post # 6
Like a PP I often don’t check my VM’s.
Don’t let it bother you. You’ll obviously connect with her soon, and she will be stoked for you!! :}
Post # 7
sw7577: I bought my new phone last fall. I have voicemail, but never bothered to get the new password to set it up. So my mailbox has been full and and I haven’t bothered to fix it since September.
I’d say email, text, etc her until you reach her.
Post # 8
I never listen to my messages and I’m terrible at calling people back- I typically wait until the weekend when I know I’ll have time to chat.
Text her or try calling again!
Post # 9
I see messages from people all the time and im like “oh COOL! ill text them back in a bit” and then i stay busy and totally forget. It isn’t that i am not excited or dont want to talk to them – im just forgetful. I also am really bad with checking Voice mails lol. Granted, an engagement is a pretty big thing to slip your mind, but who knows what she has going on?
I would shoot her a casual text like you are just catching up and see if she mentions anything – if not, she may have missed your message all together!
Post # 10
I’m awful at returning calls. Don’t ras too much into this.
Post # 11
I’m going through something similar with a friend, but it’s not my engagement. It’s my wedding date. I have been trying to contact her for several weeks now and no response. I got a hold of her once and she said she was sleeping, she said to call her back later, never answered when I did. I am so irritated. I was in her wedding and got her a nice gift and was extremely supportive through her entire planning and now it seems like she is avoiding me as I go through mine. Her personality tells me the reason is most likely she isn’t happy for me, because it’s always about her. I guess the only way you will know whether she is intentionally avoiding you or just busy is going to be going with your intuition. You know her and her personality, do you think it’s that she isn’t happy for you? Is she one of those friends who always find the negative in a situation and doesn’t know how to be happy for others? What was your last conversation with her like? Do you think it could be something to do with that? If not, I wouldn’t be too concerned. I would personally call a friend back right away, no matter how busy I am, but I have friends who aren’t like that and will put me on the backburner. They want me to jump for them, but when I want to tell them something or talk, they are nowhere to be found! All depends on her pattern and personality I think.
Post # 12
Maybe your friend is unhappy or worried or overworked or having problems with her fiance. Check that she is okay before getting angry/upset.