Am I over thinking things? Will he propose?

posted 2 years ago in Proposals
Post # 2
450 posts
Helper bee

Just enjoy your relationship as it is!  You can’t make him propose and you sound like you are pressuring him.  Take a step back and enjoy what you have and let the relationship progress naturally!

Post # 3
2551 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think you should wait until December to bring it up. If by the end of the trip he still hasn’t proposed, have a nice long discussion about expectations and a specific timeline.

My SO has been working with a custom jeweler since mid- to end of spring, and he’s still waiting for one of the rings in the set. They take a long time to make, depending on the amount of detail.  He may have ordered it, but it may not have been ready for your summer visits. 

It sounds like you two are in a good spot. Waiting is hard… but long distance relationships are harder, especially with the time zones. If you really want to feel out the waters, slip in a, “Do you still want to marry me?” real sweetly in the next conversation, but change the subject quickly after his reply. It’s petty, but I’ve done that to my SO our whole relationship. I think now he just takes it as an “I love you.”  But really… I think you’re fine. 

Post # 5
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My FI is not a liar. At all. He’d fie before he lied or broke his word (old school Italian). That said, he lied his butt off in the months before he proposed. He told me he looked at rings, but it didn’t look good because of the cost. He told me several times that he probably wouldn’t be able to propose or afford my ring until next year (which would’ve been this year). I was bummed, but also excited that he had marriage on the brain. 

You know what I did? I LET IT GO. I stopped any marriage talk. I knew what he was thinking and what he was trying to do for me.

Or so I thought…turns out, a week later, his “meeting with the business accountant” was a ruse. HE WAS DESIGNING MY RING!! I still had no clue. After he got it, he hid it in our house for over a month. The whole time he kept it to himself. 

We took a day trip, Sept 7, 2013. When we got to our destination, he said we needed to talk. He said, “I love you, and I DO want to marry you. I don’t want to propose without a proper ring and I couldn’t afford a ring right now. But I got you something special anyway. I was expecting earrings or something. I unwrapped abox, within a box, within a box…when I got to the jewelry box, I still thought, earrings.

I opened the box and was BLINDED by this huge, gorgeous ring! When I finally realized it was a ring, and got my vision back, he got down on one knee and proposed. Best day ever!

My point is, even if your SO is normally honest, a proposal plan may be the one thing he lies about, and that’s OK!

Post # 7
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

MrsBagel:  Love your proposal story, so cute!

Post # 8
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Livetarnu:  yes, he is huge on fooling me for gifts 🙂

PecanPie05:  thank you! Its definitely a fun story to tell!

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