Am I overreacting?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

You are certainly not overreacting. These women sound awful! I wouldn’t want their negativity in my life either. 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Lbward6:  They don’t sound like that great of friends, so you probably won’t be losing much by ending the friendship.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

The better question is “Do you have DOORMAT stamped on your forehead”?  Seriously.  I know you have trouble acquiring women friends, but the reason they are running on and all over you is that you LET IT HAPPEN.  Learn some skills for these situations and others that will, in fact, come your way.

For example:  with the doggie thing, your reply should have been “Excuse me, but the rejection was NOT for being too playful.  YOu are most certainly NOT Cesar Milan!”  For the communication thing, a nice zinger would have been “OMG, who died and made YOU Dr. Ruth?” 

If you have doormat written on your head, ppl will most assuredly walk on it.

As for that friendship, weight it out.  Weight/counterweight.  What do you GET from the relationships with these two?  What do you lose?  Do you value these 2?  If not, cut them loose.  Start again.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

No.  Making friends is hard, but that doesn’t mean you deserve sub-par friends.  If you think you could still enjoy hanging out with them, and are willing to put up with what sounds like their jealousy…. but i don’t think you are overreacting to cut them out.  They sound kind of miserable.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@Lbward6:  I’d rather be home alone than out and wishing I was home alone. If they don’t make you feel good about yourself, arw judgemental, insulting, and poor friends, then what value are they adding to your life? You can join a book club or a sports team or any number of hobbies to meet new people. You don’t have to settle for mean girls because you feel there are no other options. 

Women can be such bitches and groups of 3 are the worst. Sorry you’re having to deal with this. With friends like that, you don’t need enemies! 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

@Lbward6:  I COMPLETELY understand! I have three brothers 0 sisters. I don’t really get along with women, they are always so catty and petty and jealous! I don’t have very many friends, only one is female and we aren’t very close. It does make me sad that I don’t have many girlfriends but it better than having awful friends! Try one more time and if it happens again say something like, “Ya know that is actually very hurtful”. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Definitely not overreacting, I wouldn’t bother speaking to them again.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Lbward6:  First step – stop calling them friends. 

 

I’m so sorry.  🙁

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

@Lbward6:  Was this said as a joke?!?  in reference to you talking about a project:  “say my life isn’t interesting and begins to talk about herself.  “

ummmmm not cool!

You can make better friends for sure!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@Lbward6:  End it. Refuse to hang out with people who don’t make you feel smart, special and like you can be your true self.

 

 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Those two don’t really sound like “friends” to me. I can’t imagine wanting to spend any time with them going forward

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Oh, OP, I understand this way too much.  I have/have had a lot of trouble making friends so I ended up with a lot of sub-par friends who never really cared about me.  This is just the type of things they would do.  It will never leave you feeling okay. 

I suggest doing what I never had the strength to do and walk away.  Yeah, it’s hard meeting new people, in a new city, with no jumping off point.  My number one suggestion, and probably the way I have met most of my true friends to this point is to find a hobby that you like.  If you are enjoying yourself, other people will enjoy being with you. 

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