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    guitargirl    October 2009   Ohio

    FH and I are way too busy to keep up with stuff around the house (we work over 130 hours a week between the two of us), so FH wanted to hire someone to clean, laundry, etc.  I am reluactant but finally agreed.  He threw out paying $15 an hour a few months ago, after some discussion, I agreed.  We hadn't found anyone reliable (although weren't looking too hard) and then we found someone who seems fine (not great, but ok) who brought up (while I was in another room) that other people she knew were making $20 an hour, and I walk back in and FH is  agreeing.   While I could have said something, I felt in a really rough spot, especially since I don't like disagreeing with FH in front of someone else.  Is $20/hour reasonable?  and am I overreacting? Thanks.

     
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    Arachna       nyc

    I think $20/hour is cheap and a good deal.  I don't think I'd feel comfortable paying less.

     
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    littlemissmoo    July 18, 2010   London, UK

    Exactly how much are you expecting her to do? It's a bit hard to judge without knowing all the details but personally $20/hr doesn't sound too unreasonable to me (at least, when I convert it to GBP...)

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    We pay about $100 for 4 hours, so I think you are in the right ballpark.

     
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    okqueenbee    Dec 4, 2009   OKC

    I think it's reasonable, but much more than that would be too much IMO, unless of course the house is huge and super-messy.

     
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    mrsmurraytobe    June 11, 2011   Atlanta

    That seems pretty reasonable and actually cheap, especially for the amount of work that she is doing. Geez, I know some babysitters that make at least $15-20 an hour just to watch and entertain children so to clean a house, that's pretty good!

     
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    2PeasinaPod       Philadelphia

    I think that's pretty reasonable. I know it ends up being a lot more in the long run, but I think the going rate, especially close to the city, is much more than that. So, I don't think you're getting a bad deal at all!

     
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    ladyox    May 16, 2010  

    Totally reasonable, we pay a little more than that but we live in LA so we pay more for everything! 

    Hiring someone to clean our house is one of the best things we've done for our relationship.  Seriously.  No more petty fights about who is or isn't doing something and no more feeling like we should be cleaning and doing stuff around the house when we really need to work or relax or see friends.  We have more time for each other now and less stress so it is worth every penny!! 

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    Seems reasonable to me.  Maybe even a little underpriced depending on what you are asking them to do.

     
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    dancergmu3    June 26, 2010   Maryland

    Seems totally reasonable to me. My parents cleaning lady charges $50 an hour, so $20 sounds fanstastic!

     
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    Rosie Girl    September 18, 2010   Montana

    That is really cheap, I think. When I was cleaning, I was getting about $50/hour

     
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    bluespurrs    August 7, 2009   South-central PA, USA, Earth

    Although I do the bulk of my own cleaning, I need help for big jobs. I lucked out - one of my former lab assistants became a mother a year ago and is currently not working. So about twice a month she comes cleans for me, $10/hr. but that's under-the-table. I either buy or fix her a nice lunch as well. She cleans like a mad woman, a realy dynamo!

     
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    Melissabegins    December 12, 2009  

    Sounds good to me.. are they licensed?

     
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    egb    January 2010  

    Everyone I know who hires people and those who do that job charge around 20 to 25$ an hour. 15 was probably not enough to get good people.

     
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    Toffee    January 15, 2011   Hayden, Id

    Well actually, we pay ours $50 an hour and she cleans for 3 hours. Granted we have a 3 floor house and she cleans 2 of the floors in the main rooms every other week. I don't know how much she's doing at your house though, so it's hard to judge it. D (our housekeeper), sweeps and mops the floors, scrups the counters/stove top, vacuums, tidies up, and cleans 3 bathrooms while she is here. She also cleans all of the rugs and bathmats.

     
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    Janna19    June 7, 2008   New York

    We pay her to clean the palce - $90 for a 2 bedroom apt.  I think she spends about 3 hours, but I don't know because I am never home!

     
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    guitargirl    October 2009   Ohio

    Thanks guys.  We have never done this, and I asked one of my friends who says she has a handyman for $20 and thought it was too much.  Did some asking around here (not in a city and cost of living is cheap here) and what I got was $15-20, so sounds like it is in line.  I think what I was upset about was that he agreed to this when that was not what he and I agreed on.  I am also irritated with this situation because there is something that rubs me the wrong way, and I can't put my finger on it.  The only concrete things I have come up with are:

    1. she smells of smoke and I am concerned the house will too

    2. when she parked, she did significant damage to our fence.  She offered to pay for it, but after knowing how super busy we are, doesn't offer to actually get it fixed but rather expects us to take time out of our busy schedules to arrange it.  So we told her to get it arranged.  (But I am not paying for her time to do that!) 

    3. didn't like that she brought up payment when only FH was there (it is obvious that he is very "whatever, that's fine" so just rubbed me the wrong way)

     

     
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    tobin      

    OMFG, really?  I should move to the US and become a cleaner.  That's over twice the NZ minimum wage! :)

    In fact, I'm a senior manager and that's more than I earn.

     

    What the hell is wrong with this country??

     

    P.S. Can you hire me as your cleaner? ;D

     

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