Post # 1
My oldest brother and his wife don’t have much money, so I’m perfectly understanding of the fact that they can’t get me gifts for Christmas. I’ve been there before and I get it. They also have two little kids now and I think the kids should be spoiled on Christmas! I still try to get them things that they like. This year my sister-in-law said she didn’t want anything – that was fine by me so I didn’t do it. My brother is always on Facebook posting about things that he wants (it seems like begging, to be honest) and he wanted this expensive boxset, so I got my other brother to split the cost with me. I bought gifts for my niece and nephew as well. Everything had to be shipped to their house in Michigan since I live 2000 miles away.
Now itt’s almost six in Michigan and he still hasn’t even bothered to say THANK YOU, by phone or by text or by Facebook, or even acknowledge that he received anything that was sent. And I’m pissed. Last year we were all in the same house for Xmas so of course he said “Thank You” after he opened his gift…but then he and his wife made a big show about the fact that they didn’t get me anything. They were leaving and my SIL said “OH, we didn’t get Melissa anything” so my brother reached into his wallet and tried to give me a $20 bill. I refused and he wound up giving me some Barnes and Noble gift certificates he’d like, won somewhere, or something. At that time I didn’t care about the lack of a gift and was really hurt by the little show they put on before leaving the house. Last year I vowed to “not get them shit” because I was so annoyed, and now I’m sitting here wondering why I even bothered in the first place.
Am I overreacting? I know Christmas isn’t even over yet but my brother has been on Facebook posting links to videos and various things he “wants” so I feel like he could have at least said something on THERE instead of calling…ugh.
Post # 3
I wouldn’t call it overreacting by any means, but maybe they just haven’t received it yet… I work with a Post Office sub station, and with the volume of mail they have it definitely has slowed mail down. So maybe with it going 2000 miles as you said, and depending on when you sent it, it may still just be on it’s way. So just give it a couple days, see if he says anything… Hope that helps 🙂
Post # 4
I don’t think you are overreacting. I have to mail gifts off to my family as well (I only buy for the kids). If I have not heard from them after about a week of the package being mailed i normally text and just ask If they have received the package, I don’t feel that by asking that I am looking for a thank you, I am only asking to make sure it did not get lost on its way there. I say if you have not heard from them in a few days just text or email making sure they got the package.
Post # 5
I think you should chill out till tomorrow. He has kids and family obligations. It’s perfectly reasonable that he would be tied up. It might be that he’s waiting till after dinner to all.
Post # 6
Are you sure that it arrived first of all? With all the people mailing things, some packages might have been delayed. I also would wait a day or two, he might be spending time with his family today and call you later or mail a thank you instead of calling. If you don’t get a thank you in a week or so, I would be pissed.
Post # 7
I also think you’re overreacting a little bit. Why don’t you call him to wish him a Merry Christmas? I bet it will come up naturally then. Hopefully they will send a card. If they don’t, THEN you can be pissed 🙂
Post # 8
Well, I checked the tracking numbers and the stuff was delivered days ago (left on porch)
I’m pretty much over it now – my brother is a really selfish person so I think I was just looking at reasons to get mad at him for that, and that reason came in the form of his non-response to the Christmas gifts. I’m not so sure about family obligations – his SIL rents the house next door and I’m like 95% certain that she was there all day chasing after his kids for him. Their visitors tend to become their baby-sitters.
If I had called he definitely would have said Thank You, though. I was just being a bitch!
Post # 9
Could you ask him something like “Did you get the gift I sent?” over facebook? He might not have gotten it…but if he did then you ARE NOT overreacting at all!