- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
About 6 months ago I was out with my FI. He was doing something so he gave me his phone to take care of. His mom sent him a text message which I opened and replied(this is something we commonly do for each other and it’s never been a big deal)
When I exited the text it brought me to the inbox screen and there was a text message from a girl, let’s call her Tracy. Never in the entire 7 years have I been concerned about his loyalty nor am I the jealous type who puts restrictions on who he can or cannot talk to/see.
But the beginning of this text message said “You make me happy stud muffin.”
I know the girl to a degree but something about it made me feel weird so I went against the reasonable part of my brain and started reading the text messages between them.
On his end they were pretty inconsequential. Nothing serious, just him chatting and such. However on her term she seemed overly friendly, calling him several sexy nicknames and telling him how much he means to her. Again to which he wasn’t encouraging her conversation but he wasn’t discouraging it either.
So I admitted to reading his texts and asked him about it. He hugged me and calmly said, “I’m really sorry you saw that and it upset you. But I have never given you a reason to doubt my love for you and I sincerely hope you won’t let something like this make you doubt me now. If you’d like I would be more than happy to remove her from my life.”
Not wanting to be the kind of girl who dictates who he can talk to(especially since I am quite friendly with my ex and his new wife) I told him he could continue being friends with her.
So here we are six months later and as the days go by I’ve realized that it still bugs me. He works with and converses with several women on a daily basis and it never bothers me but something about him talking to this girl bugs me.
Tonight he woke up around 1am like he usually does but he couldn’t fall back asleep so he went to play some video games. When he got on this girl was online playing video games as well(not an uncommon occurence) so he played with her. When I woke up around 4 o’clock he was still online only he wasn’t playing a video game he was simply lying on the couch, in a chat session talking to her. Again I didn’t say anything I just walked back to the room.
Idk if it’s because of the way she was addressing him or what but it just gets under my skin. It’s not like she’s really his type she’s loud, a but too snarky, not really feminine, has short, dark hair, lots of piercings and tattoos, etc.(not that these are bad things..just not his preference) not to mention this girl moved to California(clear across the country from us) about 10 months ago.
Am I just being stupid? Should I bring it up and tell him to stop talking to her? Is it really worth the potential argument?