- 5 years ago
I usually just enjoy the posts of others and lurk quietly, but I need some honest feedback. I’m not sure if I’m overly emotional on this or not (I am a week out from my wedding – it’s calling for rain, I’m pms’ing and expect to have my period on my wedding, and overall pretty emotional and stressed) – just to give you some background on where I’m at. I’m sorry if I get long winded with this :S
My bachelorette party was this weekend. It’s been planned since March. My only request was that all my girls make it, and that was really important to me. Bridesmaid one gave my moh 2 days in July she was available. We booked around her, as everyone else had flexibility. Bridesmaid one said that she couldn’t stay over in the hotel, as she had to be home the next morning as she had “stuff to do”. -ok, she said “not to worry, I will be there, and we’ll have a great time”.
Bridesmaid two said she couldn’t afford the hotel and would not be staying the night. When I approached her about being disappointed, and reminded her that not too long ago I attended her bachelorette and stretched myself financially to do so, she told me “I don’t understand why you’re disappointed, I’m going to be there, we will party all night, I’m just not staying over”. OK, I get it.
Fast forward to this weekend. My Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaid 3 were amazing, and organized a great night. Bridesmaid one – messaged me in the morning to say “hope you have a great night, I’m hopefully going to make it”. Then proceeded to tell me that she was unsure if she could, as she had too much stuff to do to plan a birthday party for her boyfriend the next night. I told her I would likely feel hurt if she wasn’t able to, since we did plan the event around her schedule. She didn’t show, and didn’t let me know she wasn’t coming. Bridesmaid 2, came, had dinner and left after dinner, leaving me with my Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaid 3 for the big party we had planned. Now, my Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid 3 were amazing, and I had a great night. I still can’t help to feel really hurt by my other 2 bridesmaids (there have been lots of other difficulties with them throughout too).
I just need some honest feedback (but not mean, I really am PMS emotional lol). Am I overreacting to be upset? I haven’t said anything to either of them about it, and probably wont. Just need to know if what i’m feeling is proportional to the situation.