Post # 1
DH got a new job about a month ago. In the past we have dealt with emotional infidelity and have got past it. He works with alot of older ladies and alot of younger guys. DH is in his early 20’s. He comes home the other night and starts bragging that all the guys say the older women have crushes on him. I brushed it off. Then he goes on to say that everyone calls him the “sex symbol” of the company because he wore his shirt kind of unbuttoned to wear you could see his chest hair, clean cut, and wears really smell good colone. Again I blew it off. It didn’t bother me till he started telling/bragging to his family about this. I mean the older ladies are above 40 and the guys he works with are all in their 20’s. He made a comment the other day to me that rubbed me the wrong way. I said that I’m really insecure with my body and this isn’t helping right now. He said “As long as I come home to mama at the end of the night.”He works with one of the older ladies at night.
Should I be worried?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t be concerned with the women. I’d be more concerned that your FI wants to brag about being so desirable to everyone he knows and cares about.
Post # 4
SO has older ladies that like to tell him he smells good. He gets very embarassed and turns bright red if he talks about or I tease him about it.
I wouldn’t like it if he strutted around like God’s gift to women because of it.
Post # 5
Sounds like he has quite the inflated ego.
Post # 6
@justfornow: I wouldn’t be worried about the women, I would be more worried about being with a guy with such a big ego. I think it’s so unnattractive when people brag about how often they get complimented or when they make it a point to tell anyone who will listen how great everyone else thinks they are. why? just why? so these women think he’s hot, big flippin deal. all he should care about is that YOU think he’s hot and that you love him. Period. I get that it’s flattering, I still get a kick out of men giving me attention but I don’t let it affect me for more than a few moments. I giggle to myself and then carry on.
Post # 7
@stardustintheeyes: He used to be heavier but has recently lost about 40 lbs. Could that be the reason he is bragging about it? Trust me, I think it’s a turn off when guys brag about people thinking they look good.
Post # 8
@justfornow: it could be part of it. It could be because he’s just really excited about all the new attention he’s recieving from the opposite sex. If he’s someone who has struggled with weight and his appearance than it makes more sense that he’s really calling so much attention to all the compliments he’s getting. It still would worry me though because sometimes when someone goes from not being noticed to being noticed by everyone, that can create a monster. I would just mention to him that you ar eso proud of him and that you obviously think he’s smokin hot but that it makes you a bit uncomfortable to hear him talk so much about how many ohters like his appearance. Be supportive but also clear on what rubs you the wrong way.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t be concerned about other women, but he does seem like quite the attention whore, which I would find obnoxious on a regular basis.
Post # 10
@justfornow: That explains it! The recent weight loss has gone to his head. Give him a few months of bragging time and then let him know it’s enough. You might get lucky and one of his friends will tell him he needs to chill out. LOL
Post # 11
@justfornow: Nah I wouldnt be. Im sure its just flattering!
There is a gay guy who always flirts with my SO at his job lol