(Closed) Am I overreacting? – RE: Best Men (2) – Jerks

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Blech!  This sucks.  Can he just promote the two ushers?  That seems like the easiest solution. It seems like Fiance needs to have a talk with them and tell them if they don’t have their tuxes fitted by x date then he will assume they’re no longer interested in being in the wedding.  

Post # 4
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think this is when you let it go and let your Fiance deal with it. Not to be sexist, but I always think my Fiance is mad at his friends or should be mad when they do something stupid. But half of the time, they work it out with time and space. Maybe that’s what they need. Give your Fiance a deadline to pass along to them about the tuxes and then see what happens. 

Post # 5
1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

 I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this. I’d be pissed that my friends were being so disrespectful of my new job, that they still want to party in Vegas without me and not being able to get fitted for tuxes when my wedding is 5 weeks away. Even though due to my new job and can’t make Vegas how about a bachelor party near home, I’m sure Vegas isn’t the only option.

If there’s anything to be done it should come from your Fiance. He should call them ask them if they really want to stand next to him on one of the most important days of his life. Depending on their answer he then can make the next move.

If anything friends should be supportive no matter what and not a “I don’t give a shit what you want” attitude.

Post # 8
7774 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Regarding the bachelor party and the tuxes: what jerks. Fiance needs to tell them to get their tuxes ASAP.

But I have more sympathy on the rehearsal. It sounds like they were planning to come back on Thursday night, which was loads of time for the rehearsal and the wedding, until the rehearsal got moved. I don’t think it’s fair to ask them to cut short their vacation for a Thursday night wedding rehearsal, nor do I think it’s fair to expect everyone to come on a working day morning. Assuming they get their tuxes, you might just have to live with them missing the rehearsal. So long as Fiance fllls them in on what to do (which is’t much), it doesn’t really matter if they miss that.

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