Post # 1
So I am 27 and I am thinking about a divorce after only a year. It seems the same problems are there, and I’m just not in love with him anymore. I am worried that I am at the tail end of my prime, and won’t be able to find a “quality” guy in my late 20’s. I know I’d like to re-marry, but am worried about the taint of divorce along with maybe being a little too old to not have to settle. Settling was my mistake the first time.
I am sure this question has been asked a lot, but I wanted to know if I am past my prime. Should I be worried about finding someone else b/c of my age? It really makes me super anxious. Thanks for the help and support! I’m SO emotionally overwhelmed.
Post # 3
Shoot, the best years of my life didn’t start til my early thirties! Sorry you are doing through a tough time, but chin up, there is still a lot of life left. I promise!
Post # 5
Definitely not past your prime, a lot of people find love at all ages.
Are you sure that your’re not depressed? Have you tried talking to someone about being unhappy?
Post # 6
@alexissummer: I can understand your worries… especially if you want to have kids, but I don’t think I’d let it hold you back.
As I see it, either you can try to rekindle the spark (if there ever was one), and make the marriage work… or you can get out if that’s impossible.
There’s no point in staying if you think it’s hopeless, right? I mean obviously I hope you’re trying to do what you can to salvage the relationship, but if you can’t, then it’s not fair to you or your husband. It’s almost a moot point whether you’re past your prime or not. You shouldn’t let that be the factor that lets you leave or stay.
Realistically though, you’re 27… and we’re not in the 50s anymore. Many people move back in with their parents in their 30s. 35 isn’t that old to have a baby anymore. Women are becoming established in their careers long before marriage, let alone kids. You will find someone. I suggest being single for a bit first, though… process everything, figure out what went wrong, and work on your confidence too.
Plenty of people in their 30s, 40s, and 50s re-marry. Plenty of these people have ‘baggage’ (and it sounds like you don’t really have much so that works in your favor.. after all you’re only 27!).
Good luck and I hope you figure out what’s best for you 🙂
Post # 7
@alexissummer: I hate to hear of anyone getting divorced 🙁 Do you think there’s any way you would be happy with him, or it’s definately over?
I can see the delimma, if you wait and see you feel like you’re losing precious years, but if you move on you’re afraid it’s too late for you.
I can say, for me it felt like slim pickins after 25. That being said, it’s never too late to start over, and you could just find that perfect person because even though it’s harder, it’s worth looking for.
Post # 8
If you’re past your prime then I’m really screwed. I’m 28, single, and no prospects in sight.
I understand the dread, though… heavens, believe me, I do.
Post # 9
@oec: LOL I turn 29 in a month!! Right there with you sister! I do have a boyfriend, but hey I’m older 😉
I tell my family, I’m waiting for all the husbands with cheating wives to get divorced and then I’ll have my pick of them all 🙂
Plus they’ll appreciate me more because I’d actually be good to them!!
Post # 10
HAHA thanks ALL for making me feel better. There is also always the option of a younger guy. I was thinking that could always work. HAHA
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
Oh, no! There are brides on this website that are over fourty years old… you can find your happily ever after any time in life.
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Post # 13
Oh hell! I’m 53 and feeling pretty effing prime right now! I’ve been married before -once at 19 and again at 24, stayed with him for 25 years. Got divorced at 49, met a most amazing (younger) man and got married in July. My happily ever after just started sweetie! This life is not a dress rehearsal and I believe YOU decide when the prime time is. I never should have stayed married to an abusive man as long as I did. Years went by that you never get back.Love is always out there regardless of age.
Post # 14
Past your prime? Darling, you’re just getting started! I settled at 31, Big mistake. I didn’t know myself enough to know that I could do better. I met my true lion, a man who treats me like his queen, at 41. At that age, I was totally unwilling to comprimise on the things that are crucial to me, but confident enough in myself and my power and femininity to love a man freely. The best is yet to come!
Post # 15
I feel like the issues of “I’ve been/am getting divorced” and “Will I find someone else” should be totally seperate questions and never, ever related…
If you guys havent, please at least try marriage councelling or something before you go through with the divorce….
Post # 16
@emeraldtiger: I agree with you.
If you are getting a divorce because you settled, are unhappy and there is no way to make the marriage work, then get a divorce. But you shouldn’t do the “is the grass greener?…idk, maybe I’d better stay in this marriage because I’m afraid to ever be alone” thing. It won’t endear you to any new man who may think you are just dying to get married again, and you could end up “settling” again just because you were so gung-ho about being remarried that you chose the wrong guy, again.
Find some time to be yourself and then think about finding someone to share your life with.