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No way! I think it's good to get as much done in advance as possible.
Oh geez, you are not crazy, you are hitting crunch time soon! Clearly your FI is not wedding planning expert. Plan away!
I say looking for a venue right away is a great idea, but I would wait on the dress. I went out to buy one 3 weeks after getting engaged and 3 months later had major dress regret. Spend some time to really figure out what you want your wedding to look like and do lots of research. Now, if you're one who's know exactly the details you've wanted since you were a little girl, then go for it.!
Absolutely not--you are perfectly right to be contacting venues.
I would actually say you better start planning heavily now, especially for venue and photographer. Most of the places where I live book a year in advance.
@ItsPronounced_ABear: I think I might go the Dressilyme way for a dress, so I am not worried yet! I also have read that it is hard to adjust sizing and I have been steadily losing weight for a bit so I don't want to order too soon. Thanks for the heads up though!
@soonerbride: I am assuming the same thing is standard here! I know a venue on a Tueday wouldn't be as much of an issue, but photographers generally only take a set amount of clients month/season to ensure they can devote time to editing, etc.
Thanks everyone for the reassurance! I second guessed whether or not I was jumping the gun and worried myself haha!
You're not too early. I'm getting married in August 2012 and I just barely was able to book my venue and photographer 15 months out... like I had to fight for the date with other couples.
You're not too early at all. I would get on it ASAP!
Nope, not too soon at all! My FI and I knew we would be engaged for two years before we got married. We still set a date and booked the venue within a week of our engagement.
Nothing wrong with planning ahead! :)
Definitely not - most wedding planning books I've looked at suggest booking things like that at least 7-8 months in advance, so get going asap before everything you want fills up! Your FI probably doesn't realize how crazy the wedding industry is nor how long in advance weddings get planned.
I don't think you're jumping the gun at all! 7 months isn't that long, but long enough if you start now. Although I havn't planned a wedding yet lol.
I dont think its too early at all its 7months away! Try not to bombard the your guy with all the details at once. Maybe he just feels overwelmed.
There is no reason not to start now, especially on things like venue or photographer. Being on a weekday, you should still have plenty of options, but you'll want to lock down the things that are important to you. Our wedding is at most a month after yours (and another Tuesday wedding, because the date is the anniversary of the day we met) and we have a venue, guest list (and save the dates sent out), and budget, but that's all so far. I plan to look for a photographer now that the holidays are over, and we'll have a food tasting to work on the menu next month, since the venue is doing the food. We are going fairly small and DIY for stuff we care about and can do (fiance is making the reception playlists, ceremony music will be done by relatives, I don't want a bouquet and we are having the reception in a garden) so we don't need many more vendors in our case.
I was engaged in Nov of 2010 and married this past July. Now is actually the time to plan. Some gitls plan for 18...24 months.
It's absolutely NOT too early! I got the last open date at my venue for May '12... in January '11. Things book up fast! No worries.
Nope- I am getting married the same month as you and I have been planning since June. You're behind! I wouldn't worry about being able to book someone unless you're really picky though.
It depends on your area, but 7 months away is crunch time for a lot of brides on their vendor search. We got engaged with a wedding date 10 months out. My 1st choice officient, 3 photographers, and ALL mannor home venues I checked were already booked (i got something like 6 "We're already booked" emails before I gave up on mannor homes).
We're a little less than 9 months out and we've booked: the venues, caterer, cake (cake is already designed), DJ, and I've bought my wedding dress and all the favors, as well as picked out the bridesmaid dresses. I also have an appointment the first week in Jan for Save the Date photos, a florist, and a photographer. Do as much as you can now because a lot of things like bridesmaid dress fitting, tasting, engagement photos, mailing invitations, booking hair and makeup trials, etc all tend to happen 4-6 months before the wedding.
You are absolutely not crazy. Figure out by googling how many days are left. Subtract all the hours for work, transit, exercise, eating, and chores you will be doing between now and then. Present that number to your FI and explain to him that that is the amount of time you have to fit planning into. Tell him early that it is not a cake walk. The alternative is being far, far behind on planning before you are in the position of telling him he needs to get with it and get busy.
Honey, if I had a dollar for every person that has turned up their nose and remarked, "You did that ALREADY?!" during my engagment, I'd have enough money to pay for mine AND your weddings. I've been engaged since Feb. Our wedding is this coming July. I'm a very plan oriented person. I have to have everything mapped out. Plus, I had always planned on doing a lot of DIY projects, so I knew I'd have to fit them all in and do them myself. It is seven months away now, and people are still saying, "Already?" to me. I am so sick of it, but I've learned to ignore everyone and I rarely let anyone know what I'm up to, as far as the wedding goes. I don't want to be swamped and overwhelmed at the last minute. I want to be able to relax. So, no, you are not doing anything too early. In fact, I'd encourage you to hurry and reserve a venue/photog/caterers/etc. right away!
I agree with all the other bees...start planning! I got engaged in Aug./2011 and I am planning a May/2012 wedding, so I only have 9 months to plan. You are actually very close to crunch time. Since you are having a small wedding you may not run into as many problems, but make sure to book your big ticket items soon- venue/food, photographer, dress (my dress took 5 months to come in), DJ- as these guys usually book a year or more in advance, especially if they are good. Plus- the sooner you can start making payments on things, the better bc it won't be such a big hit on the wallet at once.
@eagle: haha. That was totally us with our venue!
You are not early at all! Our engagement will be 18 months long and 16 months out some of the more popular venues are booked already. I just sent a timeline to my photographer today and she said "I would rather see this now than the night before." And believe me when I say you don't want to be the bride making programs/favors the night before. It is no fun!
Thanks everyone for the support! I am such a planned, detailed person that I need to know what happening when and where to make me sane and stress free! That being said, in one week I have now accomplished the following:
- having the contract for the venue drawn up as we speak and will be signing/depositing today/tomorrow
- contacted the photographer and today will be arranging a time to meet, see their portfolio in person (the online one looks amazing!), discuss the venue and arrange payment/ e-session/etc
- contacted the catering company and got a quote. Arranging a meeting to discuss menu options (they sent the basic quote and I want to add a few things like serving wedding cake and upgrade from the cheapest meal to a middle one), as well as using local produce and mains where possible (they pretty much stick to local, but the wedding is in the middle of the country and surrounded by farms so I think it is a must)
- fell IN LOVE with a dress and, since they no longer make it, will be ordering it online from China in 90 days when I finish p90x (hoping and praying I lose a FEW inches around the midsection haha). In the meantime, I'm going to make some appointments to try on dresses because I want that experience and want to see the sillouhette if nothing else (there are only two of *my* dress left in Canada/US and you have to buy it before you see it to try it on)
- got my sister to look at BM dresses and figure out what she wants. I am having her and another girl as MOH and BM, so I am still deciding if I want them to have the same dress or just having similar colours and style will be enough
- figured out my centrepieces and priced out how much it would cost to DIY
- figured out what I want in my boquet and just have to talk to a florist (that is a this week job)
- booked a DJ and DOC, just have to do the paperwork and figure out if I want uplighting at an extra fee
- my sister is a graphic designer and is designing everything from my thumbprint wedding tree to the programs and invites to the thank you cards. We are meeting this weekend to discuss what I am looking for in terms of feeling and colour and she will make a mock up for the invites (as those are the nearest coming) in the next two weeks and she will figure out a price from the printers based on the paper she is designing for. I trust her on paper choice, style and such-- just want to make sure it says what I like and has our romatic/vintage feel
Anyways, stress levels have dropped... A LOT since getting this all done, as you might imagine. Can't wait till the contracts are signed and I can breathe completely. Thanks for everyones support!
Also, I am slowly learning that my FI wasn't kidding when he said "It is your day-- I will tell you if there is something I really want and I will help the best I can if you want help, but as long as we get married, I can't say I care too much about the rest." So far his only requests were, when I was showing him the colours I wanted, to say "Umm... I really want the colours to be black and yellow." To which I responded *deer in headlights* "What?" And then he said "Think about it! Our entrance song could be black and yellow black and yellow black and yellooooowww!" The second one was better-- after releasing sky lanterns at New Years he thought it was so beautiful and a nice sentiment to write your wish on the lantern before releasing it so he wants to do them as favours. Only problem is our venue is in a valley surrounded by high trees, so we are doubtful it can happen.
So yeah.... haha!
@takemyhand: You are doing awesome!!!!! I got engaged on Decemeber 19th, 2010 and got married on July 9th, 2011. We did the same as you and hit the ground running!!!!
Looks like you have things under control.
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I got engaged on Christmas morning and my FI and I have talked, yesterday night, about what we want. He basically said it was my day and he has a few things he wouldn't mind seeing, but really he is okay with anything (and clarified he CARES, but he wants this to be my day and knows we have very similar styles and tastes and that I am OCD when it comes to planning anything so it will be amazing). I told him I want him to approve what I have chosen and for him to give imput and asked if I could start going ahead and he said sure. The wedding will be end of July, weekday (he really, really wants to get married on a Tuesday for some reason and I don't care as it will be a small family-only wedding with more than half the people being retired, students or work at schools so have summers off) and I feel the need to get going!
So today (see 2 days after engagement) I emailed a few venues and contacted a photographer whose work I have followed for awhile and now my FI is saying it is too soon to do all of these things! All I can think is that our wedding is in 7 months and if we don't book a venue and photographer soon, those we love will be taken or too busy!
Am I crazy?