Post # 1
Ok maybe not dislike me but…for instance
(oh by the way me fiance is the only boy out of 5, so 4 sisters)
They have a family celebration for any cause, all holdays birthdays etc and more, yet when we announced our engagement-nothing
When we came over to announce our engagement, they were all teary eyed (wondering now if was not happy teary)
My aunt who communicates with one of my future SIL asked if they wanted to throw my bridal shower and the SIL replied that they hadnt thought about it
All the sisters (except one) who I friended on FB after our engagment NEVER “like” my status. In fact, sometimes when I have pics of my stepdaughter spending time with me they have commented things like “no wonder she likes going to you, she’s spoiled over there” etc
But on the other hand, they all have careers and kids, could it be me just worrying to much? or would you see it this way too?
Post # 3
I think you are reading way to much into it. These things would not indicate my dislike for a person, in any way. They all seem like perfectly normal behavior.
Post # 4
@punkin83: None of those things really seem like indications that they don’t like you, to be honest. Many families don’t host engagement parties, and your wedding date is still a long ways off, so I don’t think it’s unreasonable that they might not have started planning your shower yet. Mine is in April, and no one started to plan it until 2-3 months before. I also think the FB stuff is benign.
Post # 5
TBH this sound like very minor issues and none of these is anything to get upset about. They can be happy about your engagement without needing to throw a party and the same goes for the rest of these things. Your ILs will be in your life forever, so learn to accept that they might express themselves differently and choose your battles.
Post # 6
Ya I agree with the other Bees; I think you are reading too much into it and they probably like you just fine 🙂
Post # 7
I’d say you are reading way too much into it.
I don’t really see any of those reasons as being a legitimate question as to them maybe not liking you.
Post # 8
Well maybe you feel they are being cold, sometimes you can get a vibe from people. But the things like liking your status on fb, or planning a engagement party or shower I don’t think it shows one way or another if they like or dislike you. Sometimes the groom’s family host a bridal shower and sometimes they don’t.
Post # 9
I agree with all the PPs, none of that behavior is unusual. I actually think the unusual bit is that your Aunt would think that the groom’s family would be hosting the bridal shower! Every bridal shower I’ve attended has been hosted by the bride’s family and her bridesmaids, so I’m not surprised that Future Sister-In-Law would have replied that they hadn’t thought about it.
FWIW my family has a party for every birthday, pet’s birthday, and holiday there is, and yet we did not have an engagement party. My sister who was engaged last year did not have an engagement party. My brother who was engaged 15 years ago did not have an engagement party. So I certainly wouldn’t think anything of that either, in some circles its just not a thing.