- 3 years ago
I have not really posted a lot on here, but I do go through posts from time to time and I really could use some help.
I won’t go into a whole lot of boring details, unless you want to know more, but her is a little back story. I have had a lot of drama with my wedding. A lot of drama with the wedding party but we managed to get over it…for the most part. I had people who were not invited to the wedding tell me that I am rude and a B****. Some of the wedding party were upset they were paired with certain people and after many complaints I changed who they were paired with. One of my mom’s cousins yelled at me on the phone and got upset later in person because I gave plus ones to who her two children who both have boyfriends and girlfriends. Plus her son does not even live with her. She is still upset because her son is bringing his girlfriend. These were just a few of the problems we have had.
Then one of my cousins might not make to the rehearsal because she has a sports match that night and then the next day she and her brother might be late for pre-ceremony pictures. They wanted me to move them but I told them if they could not make it the pictures I understand. After I stood my ground they said they would try to work around it. At this point I told my mom the next person who complains to me about the wedding they are uninvited to the wedding. I have had the hardest time putting the reception tables together and who was sitting with who. I knew my aunt (the mom to my cousins who might be late to pictures) wanted her parents to sit next to her. Originally, I could not make that happen unless I put my aunt and my uncle (my mother’s brother) in the back. Which I knew I could not do because it would have been an insult in my family to put a family member in the back. I let my aunt know and she was upset. She asked to move her parents to her table. I let her know this could not be done. Then she stopped texting me and I got a call from my uncle. He demanded that I put him with his in-laws. I told him I was not sure if I could do that and they only way I could do that was to put him in the back. He said he does not care. If his wife wants to sit next to her parents then that’s what he will have to do. I told him we shall see. He then stared saying I am an out of control bridezilla. I told him that was rude of him to say. He said again that I was out of control and hung up. Well it was not long before my grandfather started telling me that I was stupid and I should put two extra seats where my uncle was sitting. I tried to explain, the reception hall only allows 8 at a table with a few exceptions for 9. He just kept saying don’t be stupid and don’t listen to the reception hall and put 10. I at this point I just about had it.
My mom called me later that evening and told me some family members can no longer come to the wedding, so I could switch some seats around and put my uncle with his in-laws. I told my mom, her brother can sit with his in-laws as long as he asks nicely and apologies for how rude he was to me. My mom said she will see but did not think her brother would apologies. I got a phone call from my uncle today. I thought it was to apologies. He asked if I switched him yet. I said I will only if you apologies. He again said I was out of control and something must be wrong with me. I let him know I do not appreciate being talked to like that and if this is how he is going to act then him and his family do not have to attend the wedding. He said I just like to start trouble and hung up on me.
My mom is upset and says I should have been the bigger person and both my uncle and I are so stubborn. That we both always have to be right. We are going to stress my grandma out now who has high blood pressure. I told her I refuse to be talked like that. I am not a child that can be bossed around. I really don’t think I was being an out of control bridezilla but I guess I could be wrong. I am so stressed out. There is a million things we have to get done before the wedding and on top of all this I am being summoned for jury duty.