Am I Really An Out of Controll Bridezilla?

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Royal Park Hotel

I think your big mistake is letting people get the idea that they have that much choice in the matter.

I’ll just focus on the uncle – why in the hell is he so obsessed with sitting with the in-laws?  Where a bride and groom choose to seat you at a reception THEY are hosting is up to them.  You don’t just get to call the bride and demand on-the-spot seating arrangements and call her names if she doesn’t comply ASAP.

Anyone that complains about where they sit (IE, in the back) it’s pretty clear they think the wedding is “all about them.” and their status.  So immature.  Do your thing.  People like that will find any reason to pick a fight with you.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

legobride:  Holy crap. Your family sounds nuts, agree with PP, it’s not about them. But I understand trying to please everyone. I droze myself INSANE trying to do that, then I cracked and stopped caring.

Ultimtately you need to do what’s best for you guys because you’re never going to make everyone happy, someone will ALWAYS complain. My dad told me that when I was going crazy and it really sunk in and hit me like a brick wall, I realized that he was right and no matter what I did people complained, so I just did it the way my FI and I wanted. Eventually it’ll blow over, or they won’t come, which is this case might not be a bad thing.

Your uncle sounds very immature and it’s hard to reason with people like that, you did the right thing standing up for yourself. At this point if they can sit together, put them together, move on. If not, then sit them wherever and ignore them.

Sorry you’re going through this. 🙁 I would have eloped at this point! haha.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think it’s a total mistake to have people weighing in on the seating chart- I mean… Who the hell calls a bride and requests seats? This is not ticketmaster. It’s a hosted party and if they’re lucky enough to be invited they can sit where you seat them. Are they paying? No? Then they can STFU. 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

OP, I think you need to do more of the smile and nod “thanks for your input!” And then continue to plan your wedding as you think is best.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - On a Cliff Overlooking the Bay, Florida

legobride:  I’m sorry you are going through this! This is the main reason i am not assigning seats I don’t want that headache!! Most wedding in my circle only have a few reserved tables for immediate family and the rest of the tables are open seating. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter's Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Your aunt got upset because you GAVE plus ones? That has to be the first time that has ever happened, normally people are upset because you DIDN’T give plus ones! I definitely agree with the smile, nod and “thanks for your input” and carry on as you were.  You’re not being a bridezilla, they’re being unreasonable.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

Sorry, but I don’t understand why you can’t seat your aunt with her own parents? Most adults haven’t been forced into a seating chart arrangement since 8th grade. I can kind of see why they are a little peeved that as grown adults they are not allowed to sit with whom they want. It’s also best that if you don’t want to move them, then stand your ground. But if you can move them don’t make it contingent upon your uncle ‘asking nicely and apologizing’. Just be the bigger person. To be honest, things sound a bit bratty on both ends.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  MrsYokiman.
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