Post # 1
My brothers are giving me a hard time about my wedding ceremony (I have 4, I’m smack in the middle.) I want them to walk in front of me down the aisle and have my dad next to me. I want them all to give me away. I realize that it might sound like an entourage type thing but just hear me out.
Just recently I’ve become reunited with my oldest brother. I hadn’t seen him since I was 13 (I’m 30 now). He made some not great choices and is working 110% on turning his life around and he is. I make it a point to call at least once a week (he’s not driving again yet and is about 1 1/2 hours away) and keep him updated on us down here.
My oldest brother would feel too self conscience standing on the other side of me and I want him to be and feel included. He was so touched that I asked him to actually be involved, not just come. How do I explain to the other three that I’m not trying to create an entourage, I just want them all included. My brothers mean the world to me.
FYI: It would look like this:
Brother 1 Brother 2
Brother 3 Brother 4
FOB – Me
Post # 3
I don’t think I’ve ever seen that many people walking the bride down the aisle, but if it’s what you want you should go for it. Would everyone be walking at the same time, or would there be some distance between the three groups?
Post # 4
Ultimately its your wedding so if thats what will make you happy then you can do it that way..
Post # 5
I think that after you ask someone to be involved, it’s out of your hands – they have to make the decision about what they are comfortable with. I like that you are trying to include them, but maybe they just aren’t comfortable doing it this way.
Post # 6
They are guys and they just don’t get it. They probably don’t understand why you are buying a new dress and don’t just wear something you already have. Don’t worry about it!
Post # 7
@FutureMrsMc: We would all go down together but there would be a little space in between so everyone could see us. How funny. I’m going to me a Mrs. Mc too! haha.
@EvaBostonTerrier: my brothers were groomsmen at my first wedding (many moons ago) b/c my ex didn’t really have many friends. It was an extremely small affair and they were nice enough to stand up for him. Basically, their attitude is “Been there, done that”. I just thought they would understand about the oldest brother being shy and not sure how some people would receive him after all this time and would want to support him.
My wedding is not just about me. It’s about my family and his family and everyone coming together. I’ve been dreaming about this forever.
Post # 8
Personally… I think its your wedding your choice BUT are you having them walk in front of you… will your FH even be able to see you walk down the isle with 4 people walking in front of you?? or are they coming down behind you? I think there would be better ways to include them without having all 4 of them walk down the isle with you… maybe as groomsmen? Ushers?
Post # 9
Ive been to a wedding where the entire family walked the bride down the aisle -mom, dad and 2 siblings. It was sweet and everyone knew it was what the bride to do. Just go with your heart.
Post # 10
Honestly, I think it would be awkward walking down the aisle with 4 men in front of you and one next to you. Not only would it make it difficult for people to see you, you won’t be able to see your fiance, and it will make it really hard for your photographer to get pictures of you coming down the aisle. I also think it would be really crowded up where you meet your fiance.
Post # 11
I think this is a nice idea, but in reality will make the aisle look crowded and REALLY take away from the special simplicity of seeing a bride coming toward a fiancee. I also think that many people will be confused by this and it will draw unnecessary attention to your brothers and AWAY from you and your fiancee.
I would give them another role – either an usher, a groomsman, a toaster at the reception, etc. I wouldn’t let them share in your moment or steal your thunder.
Do they even want to do this?
Post # 12
Not really. It’s just that…it seemed so awesome in my head. My brothers walking down the aisle first. Then My dad and I walking in. Then when the priest asks who gives this woman away, they all say “we do”.
Post # 13
I think it might sort of look like you have a group of bodyguards in front of you. Perhaps you can find other ways to include your brothers, such as being ushers?
Post # 14
Why don’t you just have them stand up with you and come in like bridesmen? If you want to do it like you’ve proposed I would have them walk in front of you, but farther apart (assuming you have a nice wide aisle) so you and your dad are clearly visable in the middle. However, brothers 3 and 4 might not be visible. In fact, your brothers aren’t giving you away. To my mind your dad isn’t either, but that’s traditional. Your brothers are standing up with you to give their support to your marriage. I’d seriously consider having them be bridesmen, or groomsmen, if you want to be traditional. Or two on each side and they can walk in together.
Post # 15
GO FOR IT!! It saddens me to hear you say “I was hoping to” and “oh well” If that’s what you want, by all mean, you should have it. I’m just imagining as a guest how cool it would be to hear a group of men say “we do”!
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do it!!
Post # 16
When I first read your post, I totally agreed with your brothers and some of the PPs that it might look like an entourage of bodyguards. But after reading your later post, I totally agree with @bunnyfoofoo: Please do it! Could you reverse the order and have you + your dad enter first, followed by your brothers a short distance away so that you will still be the focal point? Or does that sounds totally weird…