Am I sending out the invitations too late??

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
Hostess
15072 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would think February is more than fine. I got an invite last year 6 months out, we rsvp’d, then completely forgot about the wedding. It was old friends that live only about 75 miles away but we hardly see them. We felt horrible but we did sent a huge gift and an apology. 

Post # 5
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10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

Generally speaking the range is 6 to 8 weeks BEFORE the Wedding (as most Venues need feedback somewhere in the 10 to 30 Days window before the event for final numbers.  YOU NEED TO VERIFY THIS INFO, SO YOU KNOW WHAT YOUR DEADLINE DATE IS, so you can work backwards from there allowing yourself enough time to do the tallies, make last minute phonecalls to those who didn’t send in their RSVPs etc)

For Destination & Holiday Long Weekend Weddings… it is considered acceptable to send out Invites 3 to 4 months prior to the Wedding (12 to 16 Weeks)

So if your Wedding is in May… (Your WBee Profile says May 17th) then 6 to 8 weeks would put your mail out dates in the March 22nd to April 5th range

The 12 to 16 Week Range wouldl put your mail out dates in the January 25th to February 22nd range.

Like I said, unless it is a Destination Wedding or a Holiday Weekend, you are perfectly fine mailing them out in March at the earliest.

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 6
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150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Date twin here!!! We are sending ours out toward the end of Feb with a RSVP date at the beginning of April.

Post # 9
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150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

haha good idea! We are narrowing down our choices for invites right now and have to do our tasting so we can put our entree choices on there and then we have to rush to have them printed and get them out!

Post # 10
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3223 posts
Sugar bee

@LadyMoriarty:  No if anything you are on the early side.  Invitations are meant to be sent 6-8 weeks before the event.  That doesn’t mean you can’t communicate details earlier to those that ask.

Post # 11
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3223 posts
Sugar bee

@LadyMoriarty:  That is a very early RSVP date.  It shouldn’t take you more then a few days to contact stragglers, and then get your numbers in.

The closer to the date, the better and more accurate your responses.

Post # 12
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965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@LadyMoriarty:  did you send out save the dates? She may just be used to getting the info earlier in that form but didn’t communicate it we’ll. 

either way, your date is fine. 

Post # 13
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177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@LadyMoriarty:  I am a May 25 bride and I am planning on sending at the end of Feb! Our wedding is also Memorial Day, but the idea of waiting til 6 weeks out to send invites seems crazy to me! I want my RSVP date to be April 25 (one month out) so I have time to chase down people who don’t RSVP.  I know I can count on at least some of them to be jerks. lol I dont think 12 weeks is a ridiculous length of time out to send invites

Post # 14
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1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

8 weeks prior to your wedding date is sufficient.  Sounds like you skipped STD, which is fine, but you may need to let the word spread about your wedding date.

Post # 15
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11712 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Invitations go out 6-10 weeks before the event, depending on your RSVP schedule and contract obligations (final numbers to caterers and venue).  I think sending them mid-February is absolutely fine, and sending them this early would be silly!

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