Am I stuck with my bff doing my hair?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

I guess what I don’t understand is why you continue to get your hair cut/done by someone who doesn’t give you the style you want and leaves you feeling miserable.  The definition of a best friend is someone who loves and accept you unconditionally and supports you and wants the best for you always.  Have you expressed to your friend how you feel and what it is that you want?

The fact that your BF has been talking badly about you behind your back means she is not a true friend to you.  If she cannot respect your freedom to choose to go wherever the heck you want to get your hair done, means that she does not truly love you as a best friend should  — if anything that is very selfish and judgmental behavior.

It sounds like deep down inside, you know what you need to do.  I don’t know the exact dynamics of your friendship but if a heartfelt conversation doesn’t work with her than YES — you definitely need to grow a pair and learn to stand-up for yourself and have some stronger boundaries around how you let people treat you.

Post # 3
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1749 posts
Bumble bee

Shina:  Exactly.

I can’t believe you’ve let your friend do you hair as long as you have, to be quite honest. Her behavior and customer service sound horrible. 

You’re not stuck at all. I think you should talk to her about it, and do what you need to do to for yourself. You deserve better treatment than this. Her reaction may not be good, and you may even lose her as a friend for a while or altogether, but that’s ok, even if it hurts.

Not everyone deserves support, by the way, especially when they act like that. You may be her friend, but that doesn’t mean you have to, or should, ignore her actions. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Oy vey… Please excuse the errors. I’m still not used to the changes to the editing function. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

So she doesn’t give you what you want, charges you for it, and says nasty things about you/your hair behind your back?

Why do you care if leaving her salon hurts her feelings? She’s mean and not a good stylist. A good stylist would make sure you were happy, and  a good friend wouldn’t talk crap about you. She’s making a fool out of you and charging you for it.

Find a new stylist, and don’t even bother explaining why.

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