Am I Stupid For Moving My Stuff Out Of Parents House?

posted 3 years ago in Home
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Does she have reservations about your upcoming marriage?

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Your mom sounds like she’s having a hard time letting go and now she’s trying to give you reason’s not to take all your stuff with you. Does she not believe in you marrying your FI? Youdidn’t say anything about that so I’d assume she’s suportive of your marriage. 

If you really want to take everything with you, then do so and ignore her comments. Also don’t stress yourself by boxing and moving every single thing you own 3 weeks before your wedding. Your stuff isn’t going anywhere.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Forgot to mention that it makes perfect sense to take all of your things. You don’t live with them anymore.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

ElayneRunner:  Your mum is just having a bit of a freak out, realising that your room will be empty and you really will be truly gone. Until now I’m sure it was easier to imagine that you were just away and could easily come back at any moment, now you will be 100% not living under her roof and will have a home of your own.

Just ignore her and give her the time to calm down. Make sure you write it all down to tease her in good humour later 😛 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

 She’s having empty nest syndrome. As long as your stuff was there, the idea of you growing up and leaving the nest wasn’t real to her. She could stick with the thought that you were just out playing house, and you were still going to come back home. Between the upcoming wedding and the move, she’s overwhelmed. Just smile and tell her everything will be fine. She’ll get through it, and in a year, you’ll be able to laugh about it with her.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My mother and your mother are not much different. I remember the first time I was putting clothes in a bag to keep at FI’s for when I spent the night she practically had to restrain herself from ripping the bag out of my hands! 

Mothers are just like this, you are her baby girl and you are finally actually leaving her nest! I can only imagine how frustrating it much be though while you are packing and she is nagging for you to not pack your things.

I feel though that you should have a conversation and draw a line. Even though it is hurting her to see you moving out officially she shouldn’t be saying things like you won’t be living with him too long and will come crawling back. You could always try and give her the “I told you so” rights if you do end up moving back in.

Just laugh it off when she starts but still be clear that you want your stuff with you in YOUR home. I can only imagine the disaster that would occur years from now when you come back to get your stuff after buying a house or something.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

ElayneRunner:  OH sorry I skimmed and when you said 3 weeks until you move I read 3 weeks until the wedding. 

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