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As I read through a lot of these posts I am seeing girls post their ages saying "I am 22 and I am still not engaged" I am not saying it's not ok to be 22 and want to be engaged, I think it's great. But I feel like an old Bee! I wanted to be married since I was a little girl so the wait feels like forever! I will be 29 on January 5th, is there any other Bee's out there who are my age? I feel young, but number wise on here I am an oldie! 
Also there is a lot of talk about getting engaged on Christmas because that is a big time for people to get engaged. Does anyone have any other important dates around this time that it could happen too? I have so many things coming up in such a short time that I have NO CLUE when it will happen. In jan it will be 2 years we are dating, we both want to get married in 2011 and we both want at least a year or year and a half to plan. So he knows he has to give me the ring soon so we can plan! He talks about wedding dresses that he likes for me and everything. But he won't let me be involved in picking out the ring, he says it should be a total suprise! So here are my possible dates he can ask.....which one is it???? I added a poll so I could see which date is the most popular!
Thanksgiving- have family coming up
Dec 5 our annual trip to NYC at christmas time
Dec 20 Traveling to Buffalo to visit family and watch our favorite football teams play, I am a Buffalo Bills fan and he loves the Pats....btw I LOVE FOOTBALL
Christmas
New Years
Jan 5 my 29th Bday
Jan 23 our 2 year anniversary
Valentines day
So exciting. With all those possibilities at least it will be a surprise! I think it is sweet he wants to pick out the ring solo. My FI knows I can be picky, so he definitely included me in the process.
I'm not waiting but I was 31 when we got engaged in May - hang in there - you're still young too!!! I was getting antsy but in hindsight I wouldn't change anything - it worked out beautifully. Good luck!
I'm 21 and impatient to get the show on the road; I admire you ladies who are older than me, in longer relationships, and are nevertheless waiting patiently!
Age is relative. Age doesn't mean anything. Age is just a number. I think we all feel the same things as we journey through engagements and marriages.
My bet is on your birthday. :)
29 here and older than you by almost six months exactly :P.. M also won't let me pick out the ring at all!! I have shot him email after email after email of rings that I like it's quite hilarious :D... as far as special days go...
Nov 14 - our 1 year anniversary of living together (didn't happen btw lol!!)
Dec 1 - our 18 month anniversary (doubt it)
Dec 24 - we arrive in Memphis to visit my parents
Christmas Day
Valentine's Day
and that's it.. I am thinking it will happen nearer to my birthday of July 2...
Hmmmm Crebre, my gut is telling me Dec 1st! It will be far enough away from Christmas and by the time you go to visit family on the 24th you can show it off to everyone! If it doesn't happen then, my second choice would be your birthday! I am so glad I am not the only one whos BF won't let the girl have a say in the ring. My BF is VERY traditional in that way! He knows what I don't like so I guess I am safe!!!!!!!!
I wasn't an "official" waiting bee (my husband popped the question on me in a surprise), but I didn't get engaged till I was 30. I just hadn't met "the one" before then!
I voted for your NYC trip because I'm a iittle biased and love New York. I admit I was a little surprised with the number of 21 and 22 year olds who are waiting, but I also think that it is great that they have found the man of their dreams so early in life. I guess I could have potentially been here waiting when I was 22 because we had been together for 3 years at that point, but I didn't really feel like I was waiting until much more recently
Meh @knelly we are broke lol I doubt if it is before next year to be honest with you. I secretly hope for christmas though...
I would find it harder to wait if I was older, too! When i was younger, I was always reminding myself that I was still young and to chill out =]. People get defensive about that though--I have friends who are younger than me and get all kinds of "age ain't nothing!" about it. There are so many social implications that you should be getting married in your older 20's, too, but also so many other factors. You have your lives together more, which I think plays a MUCH bigger factor in the waiting game. Like, it's the icing on the cake! 20 and 21 year olds are still typically in college and trying to figure things out! I remember having moments like that and bringing myself back to reality, lol.
I think it'll be a very RANDOM night. Like, a Tuesday dinner at home, when you have a mouth ful of macaroni and cheese. And then you'll be so surprised you'll knock your wine glass over and then you'll have a good laugh over it =]
dude im turning 30 in 4 months!!! and g**d***** i want to get hitched already!!!! before i even met my BF, i totally had this vision in my head that i'd be married by 28, leaving 1-2 years to decide about kids, because even though in my heart of hearts i don't want kids, if it was going to happen i wanted to pop them out before 30. but i also thought i'd be settled in a career and making more $$ now, but that didn't happen either. it's not that i'm not happy with where my life is right now, but like everyone else, i'm tired of waiting!!
I was also 31 when we got engaged. I will be 32 (but 1 month shy of 33) by the time we get married. We were dating 3 years when we got engaged. I don't feel old at all, I feel wise and mature and confident that I am in a much better position to handle the good and the challenging times in marriage than I would have been had I done this in my early 20's.
29 is not old!
I am 27 and still waiting there are other bees that are older than 29 so dont freak out just yet.
I was 31 when I got engaged (34 now)...but I got engaged 2 months after meeting my FI so I guess that doesn't count as waiting. I wasn't even interested in marriage prior to so I didn't feel pressed when those around me got engaged. 29 is definitely not old...your time is coming and when it does, it will be worth the wait.
I was the oldest waiting bee, I was 48 years old and waiting for a proposal.
I was 29 and 4 days because the jeweler didn't get my ring sized in time for my birthday. Once last spring while we were talking about why maybe we should get engaged soon, I listed some of the reasons why it would really be nice to have a spring wedding, I actually said, '...and my 30th birthday will be in the summer and I won't lie, it would kinda be nice to beat that." I was sorta shocked that that came out of my mouth! I know it makes no difference, but I guess my mother's old school ways have warped my mind after all!
I'm 40 and it aint' old!!! You're young!
Most of my friends didn't even get around to having their kids until their mid 30's or later actually so you've got nothing to worry about :)
I vote for Dec 5th - that's my sisters wedding day and we got engaged in Rockefeller Center under the tree!
I voted NYC too. A friend of mine works in Rock Cntr and said she sees like 5 proposals a day once that tree goes up. (FYI - her team got the tree from Easton, CT this year & she posted pics on FB last week so feel free to tell your wonderful FI's to-be that it might not be official, but it's there already so get crackin'! LOL)
@ crebre - I'm gonna guess 12/1 for you too because you'll be able to celebrate with family soon after. I like the idea of Christmas Eve too - my parents were engaged Christmas Eve & while my mom normally wears only a wedding band, she wears only her e-ring every year on Christmas Eve. I think its cute she does that.
Edit: I was 31 when we got engaged too.
29 isn't old! My friend got engaged when she was at the tail end of being 29. I still have a few friends that don't have marriage on the horizon and they are quickly headed towards 30, no biggie. It's such a personal thing, so please don't feel weird. I voted and I can't wait to see if I'm right, please keep up updated!!
Acutally I can't wait to hear about all the girls on the waiting board bc I have a feeling that quite a few will be engaged soon. From what I hear, the mister is waiting until the end of the year. So we have
Thanksgiving
Our date-aversary (Dec 18th or 19th, I can't remember)
Christmas
New Years Eve
Wow, it's kinda crazy to see how short that list is.
@dancy: that soon huh? I am shocked by how many of you are wishfully thinking this year. I just don't see it happening. I asked for a hamilton beach hand/stand mixer for our anniversary so that we can make sweets for gifts
I am 28 and will be 29 next April! However, my 26 year old sis, 24 year old brother, and 21 year old sister are all married and either have kids or are expecting. For the majority of my wait I was okay with this. Ideally I wanted to be marreid by 25 but that didn't happen becuase I didn't meet the BF till 8months shy of my 25th bday and we didn't get together until 2 years later.
@jaxx317: I am totally there with you I had a vision in my head and that just didn't happen but I mean on the bright side we do have some great guys we are with....that's priceless.
As for Dates when he could propose:
Thanksgiving (which is highly unlikely..I don't think the ring is ready yet)
December 13th (it will be 2.5years since we have been togehter)
Christmas
New Year's Eve ( could see this happening because he said we would be engaged before 2010 and the clock is ticking)
well, now I'm married, but I joined WB *as a waiting bee!
I was 28 when I was ready and luckily it happened about 5 mos later...I will say, though, that guessing the date will make you CRAZY! I thought it might happen over the 4th of July, when we were going to see my parents who offered us jewelry...and I was a big grouch when it didn't happen!
I never got the whole I HAVE to get married. I do want to get married and be in love and have romance and all, but I accept that it's okay not to be married if things just don't turn out that way. I've seen a lot of people get married just so they can be married. I'm not saying that anyone here is like that, but I do wonder at times when it seems like a person wants to rush things. Weddingbee members usually has been very level-headed when it comes to girls and guys rushing into marriage. To me, that's like the difference between being in love and being in love with the idea of being in love. You don't have to marry because you're in love, and you don't have to be in love to get married, and the brutal truth is, sometimes love is not enough.
The cool thing that I've noticed here is that WB members don't look at age so much as maturity level of the writer. I think a lot of the early twenties girls are feeling pressure of their surroundings. Average age of when people get married depends on region and if you're older than your regional average age, you might feel more pressure than someone who is at the average age and is getting worried she's approaching above average age.
In my experience, people (family and society) seems to have this notion that there's something "different" about you if you're not married by a certain age, hence the pressure to get married building as you get older. I got engaged earlier this year, and I'm 32 years old. My mom had already given up on the idea that I'll ever get married years ago. Before, she used to keep asking me about the men I was dating and family and family friends would repeatedly ask me at EVERY get-together when it will be "my turn" to be married. My standard reply was, "Never. I plan to get a dog." At first, they assumed I was joking, but as the years passed, they stopped asking, and my mother started saying things like, "Oh, there are lots of women who never get married now. It's okay to be totally independent! You don't need a man to make you happy!"
Basically, I'm saying that everyone's pacing is different because everyone has different personalities and different lives. Society can try to tell you that women have an earlier "expiration date" than men, or that being an "old maid" is a bad thing. The truth is, many things are out of our control and many things will happen in their own time, with or without our pushing. What will be will be!
Hi, all :)
First post here.
As a 31-yr old waiting (new)bee, I am here to assure you that you are not the "oldest" one!
So, chin up! (I say that for both of us :)
Hey Ladies,
Thank you for your support and your votes! This will be exciting to see who is right! As for my age, I do not think I am old at all, I was just seeing a pattern of younger bee's being the majority waiting. I haven't looked and felt this good probably in my entire life. I struggled with my weight as a kid and right now I am in the best shape of my life. I feel every year that goes by life gets better. I embrace my age and I am not ashamed to say I will be 29 in a month.
I am not also trying to get married for the wrong reason. Why do I want to be married? Plain and simple, I can't wait for the day that I get to express my love and committment infront of the most important people to me and my BF in the world. That right there is what excites me. I want to be his wife and take care of him the same way I do now. Gosh he makes me so happy!
I will end with my quote that I live by "Everything Happens For A Reason" 
29 is not old! it better not be since i'll be turning 29 next august. please say it isn't. LOL.
sometimes it's hard to pin down a proposal time...maybe it'll be a random wednesday night!
I was 32 when we got engaged, I'll be 32 when we get married. When I was 29 he and I had barely just met. Age isn't important and 29 is not old :-)
I'm 32 and will be 33 when we get "officially" engaged and 34 when we get married. So NO, you are not the oldest waiting bee. Miss Pretzel is right; 29 is NOT old.
Does it make you feel better that I was a waiting bride at 36? I just had a weird superstition about posting anywhere until I was engaged, otherwise I would have been here and waiting!
I'll be 29 in April, so we are the same age.LOL Sometimes I feel old, on here at least. IRL even though I live in the south, most ppl don't marry before 25. Not in my college group of people anyway. Most I know, it's 27 and over.
We aren't old! :)
Oh, 29 is definitely not old! 
About the dates... I'm going for Dec 20, but I'm a bit biased since it's my birthday! Seriously though I think it think it would be awesome to get engaged while on a trip, cause you have a bit of quiet before the news are out. Anyway, it seems to be right around the corner for you guys!
Oh and I'll be 27 this year... hope mamabear's stats are right! 
29 is not even close to being old! I say he is going to proposed on New Years!
29 isn't anywhere near old, and you're not the oldest girl on the Waiting board. Don't worry! It'll come. :)
I was 31 when I got engaged, 32 when I got married... and I still feel like a baby..
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