Post # 1
As I read through a lot of these posts I am seeing girls post their ages saying “I am 22 and I am still not engaged” I am not saying it’s not ok to be 22 and want to be engaged, I think it’s great. But I feel like an old Bee! I wanted to be married since I was a little girl so the wait feels like forever! I will be 29 on January 5th, is there any other Bee’s out there who are my age? I feel young, but number wise on here I am an oldie!
Also there is a lot of talk about getting engaged on Christmas because that is a big time for people to get engaged. Does anyone have any other important dates around this time that it could happen too? I have so many things coming up in such a short time that I have NO CLUE when it will happen. In jan it will be 2 years we are dating, we both want to get married in 2011 and we both want at least a year or year and a half to plan. So he knows he has to give me the ring soon so we can plan! He talks about wedding dresses that he likes for me and everything. But he won’t let me be involved in picking out the ring, he says it should be a total suprise! So here are my possible dates he can ask…..which one is it???? I added a poll so I could see which date is the most popular!
Thanksgiving- have family coming up
Dec 5 our annual trip to NYC at christmas time
Dec 20 Traveling to Buffalo to visit family and watch our favorite football teams play, I am a Buffalo Bills fan and he loves the Pats….btw I LOVE FOOTBALL
Jan 5 my 29th Bday
Jan 23 our 2 year anniversary
Post # 3
So exciting. With all those possibilities at least it will be a surprise! I think it is sweet he wants to pick out the ring solo. My FI knows I can be picky, so he definitely included me in the process.
Post # 4
I’m not waiting but I was 31 when we got engaged in May – hang in there – you’re still young too!!! I was getting antsy but in hindsight I wouldn’t change anything – it worked out beautifully. Good luck!
Post # 5
I’m 21 and impatient to get the show on the road; I admire you ladies who are older than me, in longer relationships, and are nevertheless waiting patiently!
Age is relative. Age doesn’t mean anything. Age is just a number. I think we all feel the same things as we journey through engagements and marriages.
My bet is on your birthday. 🙂
Post # 6
29 here and older than you by almost six months exactly :P.. M also won’t let me pick out the ring at all!! I have shot him email after email after email of rings that I like it’s quite hilarious :D… as far as special days go…
Nov 14 – our 1 year anniversary of living together (didn’t happen btw lol!!)
Dec 1 – our 18 month anniversary (doubt it)
Dec 24 – we arrive in Memphis to visit my parents
and that’s it.. I am thinking it will happen nearer to my birthday of July 2…
Post # 7
Hmmmm Crebre, my gut is telling me Dec 1st! It will be far enough away from Christmas and by the time you go to visit family on the 24th you can show it off to everyone! If it doesn’t happen then, my second choice would be your birthday! I am so glad I am not the only one whos BF won’t let the girl have a say in the ring. My BF is VERY traditional in that way! He knows what I don’t like so I guess I am safe!!!!!!!!
Post # 8
I wasn’t an “official” waiting bee (my husband popped the question on me in a surprise), but I didn’t get engaged till I was 30. I just hadn’t met “the one” before then!
Post # 9
I voted for your NYC trip because I’m a iittle biased and love New York. I admit I was a little surprised with the number of 21 and 22 year olds who are waiting, but I also think that it is great that they have found the man of their dreams so early in life. I guess I could have potentially been here waiting when I was 22 because we had been together for 3 years at that point, but I didn’t really feel like I was waiting until much more recently
Post # 10
Meh @knelly we are broke lol I doubt if it is before next year to be honest with you. I secretly hope for christmas though…
Post # 11
I would find it harder to wait if I was older, too! When i was younger, I was always reminding myself that I was still young and to chill out =]. People get defensive about that though–I have friends who are younger than me and get all kinds of “age ain’t nothing!” about it. There are so many social implications that you should be getting married in your older 20’s, too, but also so many other factors. You have your lives together more, which I think plays a MUCH bigger factor in the waiting game. Like, it’s the icing on the cake! 20 and 21 year olds are still typically in college and trying to figure things out! I remember having moments like that and bringing myself back to reality, lol.
I think it’ll be a very RANDOM night. Like, a Tuesday dinner at home, when you have a mouth ful of macaroni and cheese. And then you’ll be so surprised you’ll knock your wine glass over and then you’ll have a good laugh over it =]
Post # 12
dude im turning 30 in 4 months!!! and g**d***** i want to get hitched already!!!! before i even met my BF, i totally had this vision in my head that i’d be married by 28, leaving 1-2 years to decide about kids, because even though in my heart of hearts i don’t want kids, if it was going to happen i wanted to pop them out before 30. but i also thought i’d be settled in a career and making more $$ now, but that didn’t happen either. it’s not that i’m not happy with where my life is right now, but like everyone else, i’m tired of waiting!!
Post # 13
I was also 31 when we got engaged. I will be 32 (but 1 month shy of 33) by the time we get married. We were dating 3 years when we got engaged. I don’t feel old at all, I feel wise and mature and confident that I am in a much better position to handle the good and the challenging times in marriage than I would have been had I done this in my early 20’s.
Post # 14
29 is not old!
I am 27 and still waiting there are other bees that are older than 29 so dont freak out just yet.
Post # 15
I was 31 when I got engaged (34 now)…but I got engaged 2 months after meeting my FI so I guess that doesn’t count as waiting. I wasn’t even interested in marriage prior to so I didn’t feel pressed when those around me got engaged. 29 is definitely not old…your time is coming and when it does, it will be worth the wait.
Post # 16
I voted and can’t wait to find out if I’m right! 🙂