Am I the only bee not having a cocktail hour?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Would you feel annoyed or slighted as a guest if there was no cocktail hour?
    Yes : (21 votes)
    40 %
    No : (24 votes)
    45 %
    Maybe (describe in comments) : (8 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    No cocktail hour for us. Only one of the twenty plus weddings I’ve been to has had a cocktail hour. We’re just going straight from ceremony to reception. Ceremony 4-4:45, reception 5:30-11 with dinner around 6. There was really no need for us to have a cocktail hour. You’re having a long gap so you could have a cocktail hour but you’d still have a gap so it doesn’t seem like you need one. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    1463 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    What will your guests be doing during that 2-hour or so gap?

     

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    7630 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    When will the ceremony end? What will guests do in between the ceremony and reception?

    We had a 30 minute break between the ceremony and reception (in the same venue) and provided an open bar during that time. It seemed like the best choice so that the guests would be “entertained” during that time. I’m not a fan of just leaving guests to fend for themselves during gaps. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    1216 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Kazza:  No cocktail hour here. Our ceremony is going to be at 1 or 2, and the reception is at the same site so it will follow immediately. We will have snacks (cheese, crackers, veggie platters, fruit plates, etc) with champage for toats and non-alcoholic drinks (although it’s campground so some guests will probably bring their own, and we are going to ahve a few bottles of hard liqour for people to mix drinks if they want) and then dinner at like 5, with cake after.

    Well I think it will be like this, something along those lines. Still working it out, but no cocktail hour. I’ve only been to one wedding with a cocktail hour, so I wouldn’t even notice.

     

    Post # 7
    Member
    1888 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We’re not haiving one and we don’t drink, but as a guest it would be annoying if there was that awkward gap between ceremony and reception (not long enough to go and do something or get something to eat but too short to just go from one to the other), esp. if that gap is right around a typical meal time.

    Post # 8
    Member
    165 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I’ve never been to a wedding that didn’t have one, or a wedding with a gap between the ceremony and reception. I would find it odd, what are people supposed to do in between?

    Post # 9
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    63 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    I have never been to a wedding with a cocktail hour… In my circle of family and friends, everyone has a snack buffet set up while the bride and others are taking pictures… Peanuts, candy, cheese, crackers…just a lot of finger foods to tide the guests over until the actual dinner starts. Although I will say, there is usually only a 30 minute gap, max… 

    Post # 10
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    7 posts
    Newbee

    We’re having the ceremony and reception at the same place and as soon as the ceremony is over, the guests can go to the reception room where there is an open bar.  I’ve been to a wedding once where there was a 2 1/2 hour “cocktail hour” and no one knew what to do with themselves

    Post # 12
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    2529 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

    @Kazza:  unless you are having a very lengthy ceremony,  it sounds like you have a large gap between your ceremony and reception.  It doesn’t have to be cocktails,  but there should be something for your guests to do/somewhere for them to be during the gap. Otherwise,  yes,  I would feel upset/neglected. 

    Post # 13
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    2052 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @Kazza:  I think most people use the cocktail hour as the time for them to set up things and take pictures and stuff. Basically something to keep your guests busy in one area while everything is arranged in another area. 

    I dont think you NEED a cocktail hour, but if there is going to be a large gap between your ceremony and your reception, you should have something prepared for your guests to do, especially if you have out of town guests.

    Post # 14
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    1021 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Kazza:  your title and poll are different questions, sigh

    Post # 15
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    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

    @Kazza:  I don’t know because every wedding I have gone to has had a cocktail reception.

    Post # 16
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    4043 posts
    Honey bee

    @nattiejeanne:  Just curious, what will your guests do for 3+ hours? Will there be lawn games or are people expected to go home/their hotel in between? I am just curious because that is a long gap between the ceremony and the reception.

    OP, we have a very basic cocktail hour of fresh veggies, crackers and cheese and an open bar for 45 minutes. We used the time to take pictures right after the ceremony. Are they necessary? No. But it is nice if you are keeping your guests at the same location for both ceremony and reception and there is a sizeable gap between the two events.

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