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Am I the only non-card person?

posted 1 year ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Are you a card person
    Yes, of course! : (15 votes)
    42 %
    No, its just junk : (16 votes)
    44 %
    dont care either way as long as there is a gift! : (5 votes)
    14 %
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    mishelleez    November 5, 2010   DW- Bahamas

    FH and I were talking about this the other day. We are not card people. We dont care if people get us cards or not. We would rather have the $3 someone spent on the card then the card itself.

    It seems like everyone gets upset if they don't get cards are we the only ones!

    And I mean cards for everything not just the wedding but birthdays etc. FH and I NEVER get each other cards

     
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    Misstnt    October 9, 2010   WI

    Oh...don't even get me started.  Some people apparently get VERY insulted if you don't get them a card for their wedding.  Especially if you don't give it to them within a week of their wedding.  We, on the other hand, wouldn't think anything of it if we didn't get a card from someone.  I think it's a touchy subject with some people.  I say if you know they'll be upset, try to remember the card.  I wish I had! 

     
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    jo.lee    September 10, 2011   Indianapolis

    I'm a split decision. If it's a casual friend, then skip the card. If it's for my best friend, sister or FI, I buy or make cards so I can tell them how much I appreciate them.

     
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    FutureMrsSpinewiz    October 2, 2010   NY

    If they're not going to give a gift, I'd like to have a card... that way I can at least pretend they care (because I have no idea if they just bought the first wedding card they found or if they read through a whole display before choosing one).

    Of course, in all honesty, I'd rather have gifts - items, gift cards, money. lol

     
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    Mrs.KMM    July 17, 2010   Atlanta, GA (wedding in Indianapolis, IN)

    @FutureMrsSpinewiz: I'm with you!

    If they aren't going to get a gift, at least pretend like you care about the couple and are excited for them and get them a card with a nice note.

     
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    JenBabe    May 2012   Charlotte, NC

    I don't like to keep "things" (thanks to shows like Horders) but I always feel bad when I throw a card away. I would much rather someone call or email on my birthday etc. that way I dont have the guilt of getting rid of their card.

     
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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    I personally really like cards but that's because I love to spend time picking out the perfect ones and giving them to other myself.

    That said, I don't expect everyone else to be as weird as me. :)

     
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    meliss    May 31, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    @mishelleez: Thank you!!! I feel the exact same way. I thought this was one of those cultural things I just didn't get due to not having grown up in the States. Every birthday and Christmas I wonder, I'm already telling them happy birthday or merry christmas to their face, it's not like they're on the side of the world, why do I have to write it on a fancy piece of paper too??? My husband tells me that's just the way it's done and everyone expects one.

     
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    clarebee    August 21, 2010   Vienna, VA (wedding in Greensboro, GA)

    My husband hates cards so much, but I love them! I save cards from years ago!! I dont like just the card itself, but rather what someone writes in it. If I give a card to someone I always try to write something meaningful and memorable. But I totally understand where you are coming from!

     
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    afuturemrsl    July 30, 2011   Massachusetts

    I think cards are fine if you really like them. I love reading cards that are funny. My family never did cards from each other but FI's family is really into cards. Go figure.

     
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    MarzipanMrs.    June 2009   New Jersey

    I love cards.  I love buying them, sending them, writing them out, and of course, receiving them! I am a little nutso though so I don't expect everyone to feel the same. I have a few friends who I know couldn't care less so I skip them for the more mundane occasions.

     
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    HoyaLawya2010    November 12, 2011   Fairfax, VA

    Lol I love cards too! FI doesn't really understand them and thinks it's funny how I run around and get so excited about them. He says that before he met me he always wondered who shops in stores like Hallmark and how they stay open. He thinks I'm singlehandedly keeping them in business. :) I know it's totally irrational but cards are just fun.

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    I wasn't before, but my hubby is and he turned me.

     
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    Ms Sassy    January 4, 2012   Outside of Boston, MA

    I hate cards.  I don't mind reading the funny ones, but if its the long "I love you, let me count the ways one" I totally skip over, say thank you to the person (if they are in front of me) other than that-I toss it in the recycle pile.

    BF never gets me cards, if I get him a card its because it has a funny picture of an animal on it or something silly like that.

     

     
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    lovebird1981       CT

    I have never been a card person either. To me cards = clutter. All my friends know that I don't like cards, because in my eyes the card will just get thrown away the second after I read it. Letters on the other hand are totally different. I guess I feel like it takes an effort to write something from scratch vs just buying a card and putting your name in it. I know I'm bad but I equate cards with money so when I open a card and there is no gift card or money in it I'm dissapointed and just feel like you wasted $1-3. 

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I don't really care if people get me a card but if you don't, PUT YOUR NAME ON THE GIFT!

     
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    Jem    September 18, 2010   Salem, MA

    I really appreciate when someone takes the time to write out a nice message inside the card, the card itself doesn't really matter..  If they signed their name only then I toss it.  I started a box just for cards from the shower and wedding.  It's nice to look back and read all the really sweet messages.

     

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