Post # 1
Am I the only one that has PMS and ADHD, and feels like cancelling the wedding/commiting homicide at least once a month. Not to that extreme degree in reality, but getting close to it sometimes.
Let me be completely honest here. I have AHDH, and really bad PMS. The week before my least favorite visitor comes, I am more distracted, forgetfull, moody, and ache all over. This has been getting worse over the last 3 months. I am not on the pill, nor so I take meds for the ADHD. No insurance and had tubes tied several years ago. I would have thought that FI would be supportive and understanding. He is the exact opposite. I think he gets PMS worse than I do now. I asked him about going to the doctor and getting someting for the ADHD. He said I’m an adult and should be able to control it and I am just being lazy. Is it just me or is he being a complete JERK?
I know I am about to start, and planning the wedding is always on my mind, but I feel like I’m losing control of my life here. Please send me any advise y’all have for me bees!!!! I love FI with all my heart, and I know he loves me too, but for the last few days, I just wanna ring his neck/tell him off. And I know I would regret it after, because it’s my hormones talking and not me. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks in advance!!!!
Post # 3
You can always come to the bee for a little moral support. We may not always agree with everything you say, but we’ll still be here for you, ya know? I know I was in a snit today because I feel like I’m pulling all of the wedding weight.
Post # 4
I had really, really bad PMS and cramping (sorry if that’s TMI) when I was in high school. The doctor said for my PMS they could do a low-dose anti-depressant or the pill, and I chose the pill and it’s helped. I still get whiny and have to cry at least ONE day over nothing at all, but it does help.
ADHD can be improved by diet changes and medicine if you do go that route. Your FI’s comments seem pretty hurtful, and maybe he doesn’t understand your ADHD/PMS and how it affects you. Once FI understood how terribly uncomfortable I was during ‘that time’ and that my mood just swings, he’s just gotten used to saying ‘I know honey, my real babe will be back in 3 days.’ He knows I’m not intentionally mean. I really suggest visiting the doctor, if not to get on medicine for the ADHD, at least to inquire about treating the PMS and maybe making lifestyle changes to help manage and control the ADHD.
ETA: Just saw the no insurance issue. Many places have state/county clinics where you can get your pill prescription covered or at a very reduced cost. Perhaps see if you can visit a sliding-scale income or a public health clinic, I believe even Planned Parenthood does physicals and contraceptive planning.