Post # 1
I feel like so far friends and family have been very generous with Fiance and myself.. 1 family member gave us about 6K, an aunt bought like 800$ worth of stuff from our registry.. grandma about 800$ also.. I just asked a friend to be our MC for the night and he kindly declined but said he would get me an even bigger gift to make it up to me (he is very generous as well) and I responded that him being at the wedding was the best gift he could ever give me. Am I the only person that feels bad about being showered with gifts and money? (more so just money because we have a honeymoon registry).. Like IDK how to describe this feeling.. but its just.. bad.. like I am using my friends or like they feel like they need to give something. I know this prob makes no sense but I am saying it anyways. Oh- and as you can see and assume by my wedding date.. our invites were not even sent out yet. Just the Save-The-Date Cards. Please tell me I am not the only one.
Post # 3
@MrsNeutrino: I feel the same way – it makes me very uncomfortable to even talk about registries, showers and wedding gifts. My wedding is still a while away and I can only imagine that the feeling will grow as time goes on.
Part of the way I try and justify it in my mind is that I am pretty much the last one in my friends and family to get married – so I have spent TONS of money going to everyone else’s weddings. I didn’t mind spending that money at all – I looked at it as a reason to celebrate with everyone and cut loose.
Even so, it is hard to get out of the shadows and accept being the ‘persons of honor’.
I think it’s natural to feel sheepish about receiving all of these gifts – if people are doing it with love and affection, you should do your best to accept it with as much graciousness as possible. And don’t forget to send many thank you cards!
Post # 4
I hate feeling like I am asking for presents. Whenever I talk about us driving back from the wedding I’m always like “maybe we will have presents.” When I talk about my shower, “Maybe I will open gifts.” Then everyone is always like “Of course there will be gifts!” I always feel bad asking for gifts for whatever the occasion because I am a working woman, I make my own money. I feel like I can buy my own cutlery. Or for the holidays, I can buy my own Harry Potter DVD or whatever. That being said, I did LOVE registering and can’t wait to see what we get.
Post # 5
I wish I had this problem LOL we are a few weeks out with 100 people on our guest list only 3 things have been bought of our registry and we registered at 2 places with things ranging in prive from $3-$100. So far we have a new bedspread and food processor bought of it. My grandma bought me some pots for my bridal shower off my registry. I’m feeling a little disapointed 🙁 Also neither of our families have offered any financial support for the wedding. My family is not well off but his parents very much are and bought his little brother a $100k house last year paying cash! Ugh kind of makes me mad and really makes my FH mad since he is the one that does everything for his parents and his puke little bro just sponges of them. They paid for his schooling to be a teacher and he works at Walmart because he doesn’t want to get a teaching job. ANNOYING
Post # 6
Well, you created a registry so you are obviously expecting or wishing for gifts/money. Why would you feel bad when you’re getting what you wanted?
I would just enjoy the fact you have pretty amazing family and relatives who are willing and able to spoil you. If they didn’t want to spend that much, I don’t think they would have.
Post # 7
@MarryMeTiffany: That really sucks! I hope my situation doen’t turn out like this. I know my FI’s family is very cheap. So far we haven’t gotten any gifts from anyone other than some cash from my grandma.
Post # 8
We didn’t register since we have been living together for 3 years and already have everything we need, so we’ve been getting a few monetary gifts early already. It makes me feel really guilty too to recieve these generous gifts. I don’t really have any advice to give you since I don’t know what to do myself. The only thing I’ve done so far is to remind myself that these people gave the gift to us out of love and can afford to be so generous or they wouldn’t have been.
Post # 9
I haven’t registered yet but I’m sure I’ll be in the same boat. Since it’s a semi-destination wedding I was going to put in the FAQ for my website that while gifts were welcome the real gift would be people’s presence – my mother completely vetoed that! And one of my BMs is designing and printing the invites. When she offered it took all my control just to accept gracefully instead of being like “that’s too much!”.
Post # 10
@MrsNeutrino: Don’t feel bad. You’re not asking for your Grandma and Aunt to give you this money. They offered, right? I’m guessing they are so excited and happy for you and want to help you out and are glad they can. Feel blessed, accept it, and don’t feel badly about it. Bee Happy