Post # 1
I just want our wedding to be over!! Yes, I know those are awful words to say.. But I just feel like it’s getting out of hand and it’s not about us anymore. I am so happy we are getting married and I’m excited for our wedding, don’t get me wrong I am… I just feel like the stress, the guests, and the planning is becoming overwhelming and not what WE want. The guest list seems to be growing and growing and not by people we are inviting, which don’t even get me started on because their are people coming to our wedding that neither of us have ever met before. The decorations have become less and less of what I invisioned, but along the same lines none the less, but I feel like soon it’ll be completely different than what I want. I’ve had to change my shoe choice a few times because they weren’t “good enough”. There are some people I will not name that don’t understand why we are having 4 guys and 3 girls in our wedding party. If I voice my opinion I get attitude and I feel like this is my day (not to sound selfish or like it’s all about me) but this is supposed to be a happy day that my FI and I can enjoy with our family, we were to make decision on OUR wedding… and now I’m just stressed and wish that we were on our honeymoon. Am I the only one who feels this way? Is it bad? How do I get re-excited for it?
Sorry for the ranting… It does feel good to vent….
Post # 3
Oh no…I totally remember just the wedding day would just happen already so the planning could be over and life could go back to normal without this constant event looming over my every thought. its not a dreadful hope to get it over with, just a can’t wait for it to happen and move on feeling. When the day comes though, soak it in and take it slow…it really does fly!
Post # 4
Nope. I haven’t even really started wedding planning and I’m ready for it to be over. Basically, I just want to be married to FH and no have to worry about all the issues that come with planning.
Post # 5
No, you’re not alone at all. I was looking forward to the whole pia being over too.
Post # 6
I just started a thread titled “can in dare to do it my way” that addresses these very issues..
Post # 7
Thank you, ladies.. It makes me feel less of a crazy person that other people felt the same.
Post # 8
Hi hun, no you’re definitely not alone…many of us have had very stressful times during the planning process. It’s a big event! 🙂
I’ve posted this on a few other stressed bees’ threads (so I apologize for the redundency to some) but if you feel like the wedding is steering away from what you envisioned, I would stop telling people what you plan to do or asking for ideas (besides FI of course). If people ask me about the planning, I smile and say it’s going great (b/c it is now!), and if they want details I just tell them we’re working on a number of things that will be surprises on the day of the wedding. 🙂 Of course people will still share their ideas with you, as they want to be involved, make small talk, etc, and I listen and nod, but I know we already have our own plans we’re sticking to!
It has made a world of difference for me doing it this way. Hope this helps and wishing you happy planning for the next few months! 🙂
Post # 9
No, you are NOT alone in that feeling… today is the first i am truly feeling like you, wishing to be over!!! Although i am highly antecipating this beautiful day but it’s been a little too much..I KNOW i can pull this but in what state of mind and body will i reach D-day? Fiancée doesn’t have a real insight of the work and stress i’ve been living last couple of weeks.
We can do this!!!!And then relax on our honeymoon..ahhhhhhh
Post # 10
I feel that way ALL. THE. TIME.
I just want to be relaxing with my hubby and not think about all these details (and payments!) anymore.
Post # 11
You are NOT alone in feeling this way….. 🙁
Post # 12
I feel exactly the same way you do!
Post # 13
@MadTownGirl: i agree.
I had to stop telling people stuff… including my mom. I’m not a traditional person and find some wedding “traditions” unnecessary. Not everyone can see your vision. Stick with talking to like-minded people… so pretty much just FH for most things.
Post # 14
You’re not alone. I am almost 2 months away from my wedding, and I am still planning and stressing hardcore.
Talking to my FI about how I feel always gets me re-excited for the wedding when I am stressed. He brings me back to what is important and how much he loves me. One, that’s how I know I have got a very good man, and two it really help refocus me on the task at hand. Just taking a break form what I am doing.
My FI and I have been supporting each other in both voicing our opinions together on wedding issues people feel the need to control. That way, it doesn’t look like one of us does all the talking. Better yet, take the advice of the gall that posted above me: stop talking so much about the wedding plans. That’s what I did, and I am finding things are working out better. Sometimes, like with guests you don’t know, those are the things you have to suck-it-up on and get over it because it isn’t the end of the world. My FMIL invited 3rd cousins that never even seen us, but luckily not many could come and the ones that are I am seeing it as an opportunity to get to know my FI family a little better.
Good luck. Everything will be ok 🙂
Post # 15
OP: Definitely not the only one! I’m not even officially engaged and I’m already sick of it! I hate the idea of spending money (even a couple thousand), I don’t care what colors or which flowers I have or what the centerpieces look like, I feel guilty for considering asking so many people to help with DIY/planning and for hoping some wealthy relatives offer financial assistance, and thinking of the logistics of a DIY reception (tiny budget) makes me nauseous. If I thought I could get away with it, I’d have nothing but a ceremony and then walk out the door with my new husband.
Update: I think part of my frustration is that I’ve pared the wedding WAY down and it still doesn’t leave us even enough for a honeymoon…
Post # 16
There are some parts I’m enjoying, but I’m mostly ready for it to just happen. I don’t care if there are centerpieces, or if my cousin doesn’t come, or what anyone wears. This is exhausting.