Post # 1
FI’s brother and his wife have a 1 month old baby girl. We were over at their house last night and his brother handed her to me and I freaked. I’m 23 years old and I’ve literally never held a baby!
It made me seem like an asshole because I didn’t want to hold her. I’m so uncomfortable around babies and I think it’s because I was never around them growing up.
I like kids when they are old enough to talk and run around.
FI really wants kids and it seems to scare him. I think it will be different when we have our own children though.
So bees, am I the only one who is freaked out by babies? Were you ever scared of babies until you had your own? I’d just like to hear your thoughts!
Post # 3
I never handled babies at all until I had my daughter. I instantly fell in love with her. But to this day, I do not like handling babies and people know me well enough NOT to ask me to watch them! I will not even hold them voluntarily. Just because I was blessed with an uterus it does not mean I have to go gaga over babies!
Post # 4
I am!! I’m so terrified of hurting them, dropping them, doing the wrong thing in general. Those things are adorable as hell, but the scare the shit out of me.
Post # 5
@BakerBee16: That is TOTALLY NORMAL!
I was TERRIFIED of babies until my brother was born when I was 14. My career wound up being infant care!
They have floppy necks and they throw up everywhere and they seem SO FRAGILE. The best advice I could give you is to remember that babies are born after hours of being squished out of a vagina, and nothing you do is going to hurt it! Promise.
I think you definitely will feel differently about your own kids… But getting a little practice in with your nephew won’t hurt. The more confident you feel, the less scary they are!
Post # 6
Oh I LOVE babies – the tinier the better. My daughter was 5 pounds when she was born and people were freaked out to hold her. Didn’t bother me at all (and I was a young single mama at the time). Now that she is a teenager you all can have her! 🙂
Post # 7
@BakerBee16: That’s pretty normal. A lot of people are scared of holding infants because they are scared they will hurt them. And it makes sense – infants are so delecate! They can’t even hold their own heads up or control their limb movements! For goodness sakes, putting a blanket in their bed can smother them to death.
God, infants are really not that smart.
It’ll be differnt with your own kid, or with a little practice.
Post # 8
@trueblue14: I completely agree with your “just because I have a uterus” comment!
My FI thinks that I am not going to like being a mom/I won’t be a good mom just because I don’t want to hold a baby…it really hurts my feelings when he says things like this. He said I need to see it from his perspective…but I don’t like being forced into doing things (like holding a baby) if I don’t want to! And since his family knows it makes me uncomfortable, they always bring it up and basically poke fun at me.
Post # 9
@BakerBee16: My FI thinks that I am not going to like being a mom/I won’t be a good mom just because I don’t want to hold a baby…it really hurts my feelings when he says things like this. He said I need to see it from his perspective…but I don’t like being forced into doing things (like holding a baby) if I don’t want to! And since his family knows it makes me uncomfortable, they always bring it up and basically poke fun at me.
Foolishness! I had never changed a diaper or spent any time around babies until a week after my son was born (c-section, complications, got out of diaper duty). I wasn’t into the tiny baby stage with my second son either. But I happily breast-fed both for a year each. I have absolutely no interest in holding other people’s babies.
***But if you’re terrified of babies, you don’t KNOW terror until you realize your 4 and 6 year olds have gotten silent and you haven’t seen them for a few minutes. Gum and paint in the dog’s hair, Sharpie market on the hardwood floors, nail polish on the floors, thankfully washable markers all over the couch. Oh Myyyyy….
Post # 10
@BakerBee16: I had never really held a baby until I had my own. Babies scared me, they just seem so fragile! I was a little nervous with my baby for the first day, but you get the hang of it quickly!
Post # 11
I work with quite a few girls, and last year two of them had babies. When they came to a work party afterwards to show off their kids, all the other girls were fawning over the babies and holding them and I was like… ummm no. I don’t see the appeal of babies and they gross me out, and then once they start talking I have no idea what to say to them. They aren’t as smart as adults obviously, but I don’t like dumbing down my conversation. I just don’t relate to kids obviously!
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2013 - A court...
Yes, I’m scared of babies lol they’re just so delicate. But i have three younger siblings but one time I almost tripped while carrying my newborn brother. I was eight but ever since I’ve just avoided them lol. Toddlers can be kinda cute, sometimes I don’t know how to act around them but I don’t feel as nervous around them as I do with smaller ones.
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
@BakerBee16: I’m terrified of dropping babies but I think once you get used to it you’ll be okay … 🙂
Post # 14
My brothers have two kids each and I’ve never gotten used to holding the babies when they’re brand new. They’re so squirmy and delicate and they just stare around all vacant eyed and shit. I like them much better past the 2 or 3 month mark!
Post # 15
@BakerBee16: My fiancee has handled plent of babies. Me, not so much. I get very scared holding newborns. My fiancee says he doesn’t mind, but prefers babies when they can hold their own heads up. Prior to that they are too delicate. I agree with him, I’ll hold a baby once it can support its own head.
Post # 16
Nope! I’m afraid as well. They’re just so.. awkward.
I had an eventful year and held 3 newborn babies though, so I’m a bit of a pro now.