Post # 1
OK, not cirricizing anyone, but just throwing out there that I don’t really get this whole taboo of showing your FI your dress, at least in magazines – on models or on real brides to get his input. No offense to anyone really protective of their secret, but I find it strange when girls flip out about the mere possibility of their FI seeing even a glipmse of the dress. Am I the only one who feels this way?
I understand the whole notion of wanting it to be a “surprise” and for him to be in awe of you when he first sees you and has no idea what to expect, but personally, I WANT my FI’s input.
Seriously, he won’t even remember the fuzzy cellphone pic however many months from now on the day of the wedding and it will still be a very special moment, I think. Besides, you’ll have your hair and makeup done, exude that bridal glow, so it will be unlike anything he’d seen before.
I haven’t gotten my dress yet – actually have my first 2 appts in less than 2 weeks, but I have shown him ideas of what I was thinking and he actually gave me some really good constructive criticism. There was this aspect of a dress/style he really didn’t like that he pointed out that I actually agreed with and had never thought of it before, so I am really glad I showed him my ideas. I am now going in a slightly different direction with a style both FI and I love.
I’m not going to prance around my dress in front of him when I get it, but I probably will show him the cellphone pics from the stores. I want him to be excited with me. I know not everyone’s FIs are into dresses, and many will say to us that we will look beautiful in a potato sack, which may or may not be true, but since none of us are actually wearing a potato sack to our wedding, it make sense to me to share the purchase of this important garment with the person you care about most impressing.
Anyone else with me on this?
Post # 3
I was leaning towards showing my FI my dress. I agree that they likely won’t remember fuzzy cell phone pictures, etc. And when I was shopping, I really wanted a male opinion! But I ended up bringing my Dad. For some reason, I ended up keeping it a secret (probably because that’s what everyone tells you to do!) But I must say, now that the wedding’s really close, I’m glad he hasn’t seen it yet. I guess I just like the tradition 🙂
Post # 4
My Fi refuses to know anything about the dress before hand. He wants it to be a surprise!
Post # 5
I’m with you! I showed a picture of the dress to my FI, I wanted to be sure it wasn’t something he really disliked. I did ask him if he remembered it, and I as I expected he didn’t 🙂
Post # 6
mine came shopping with me and bought my dress. we didn’t really care about surprises.
Post # 7
I showed FI a photo; I wanted to be sure he liked what he saw. I know it will be a different look altogether with hair/make-up/accessories on the day of, but I wanted his thumbs up on the general concept.
Post # 8
Nope I showed him stock images from the website as well as me in the dress – I covered up my head in the pics though since I didn’t want him to see me with the veil on all decked out!
Post # 9
Mine has seen me in my dress. It was 2 sizes to big, but he got the idea. I suck at surprises! He won’t see it now that it fits me until the wedding, which is in 39 DAYS!
Post # 10
My dress is custom-made, and my FI was actually part of the design process.
We both enjoyed the experience…I wouldn’t have had it any other way!
Post # 11
Before I started trying on dresses I would show FI pages of dresses and have him show me dresses he thought was nice just so I had an idea of styles he likes but I would never ever show him my dress bc he has a good memory and I think my FI would remember…. I got a good idea of styles he liked and what he didn’t like bc I wanted to be on the same page of thinking as I went shopping for dresses!
Post # 12
@ticatica: Same here. I wanted to show him, but he shuts his eyes at the mention of my dress, haha.
Post # 13
Mine came shopping with me and picked out the dress himself. We’re not conventional or traditional at all. I’m glad he did because now I know he will love it.
Post # 14
FI doesn’t want to see me in my dress until the church doors open– we’re not even doing a “first look”, which I find kind of amusing, because he is not really a “traditional” guy at ALL. I was cleaning pictures off of my phone, and he didn’t even want to see any of the ones I tried on but DIDN’T get. I guess it’s one of the few things that he has an opinion about, as far as the wedding is concerned. He wants to wear a black tux (“I want to look like James Bond!”), doesn’t want to see me until the ceremony and wants a fantastic reception. Done, done and (hopefully) done 🙂
Post # 15
I showed him a pic of me in it the day I bought it! I knew he’d want to see it and I wanted him to see it. A few weeks later I asked him, and the only thing he could remember was “It was white wasn’t it? And there were strappy things?” I wanted to include him – the dress was partially for him anyway :p
Post # 16
I showed FI pictures of dresses on models to see what he liked and he didn’t really like anything that I loved.
So, when I went shopping for a dress, I had him in the back of my mind and ended up purchasing a dress that I thought he would like instead of what I loved.
Now I regret ever showing him anything!!!!