Post # 1
It seems everyone and their brother have been getting engaged lately. Last month, I knew of 5 different engagements in one week. And my friends who are in serious relationships seem to get a little stir crazy everytime another girl gets engaged. I completely get that, it seems natural…
But in my case, I know it’s coming eventually. We talk about our married life and kids all the time. We talk about where we want to build our house when I graduate with my Master’s and how soon we want kids (who we have names for LOL). It seems like everytime we are with his family they ask when we’re getting married and I just smile and tell them to ask him.
But the waiting doesn’t really bother me. Because I know (and he knows, and our families know) that we’re going to be together for the rest of our lives. I won’t treat him any differently if I have a ring on my finger. I’m just happy to be together, regardless of legal/offical status. Of course I’m excited to be able to call him my fiance/hubs one day, but for now, I’m realy content in waiting.
Post # 3
@BeeLadylike: *raises hand* You’ve summed up my waiting situation Whilst I do get pangs of impatience, I am for the most part pretty content.
Post # 4
I’m pretty content with waiting for the actual proposal. What’s making me crazy is waiting for someone from the English teaching program I’m on to email me back about the engagement/marriage requirements for me to be eligible for a transfer to the city my boyfriend just got transferred to.
Post # 5
@BeeLadylike: I’m content. 🙂 I think as long as you know it’s on his mind and it’s going to happen you can stay pretty cool. I only get impatient about children. That has more to do with my age. I’m 30 and I want a baby like yesterday.
Post # 6
I’m antsy with excitement, but content. 🙂
Post # 7
I’m pretty content also. We constantly plan the wedding and for our new house. He still buys me pretty things now and then just cause. I show him ring styles I like when he mentions it. I still cook his favorite foods. Our love life is pretty great too.
We’re happy and enjoying life. I never get overly excited for a “special day” and then get sad he doesn’t propose. I’m just happy we spent a special day together.
Sometimes I don’t really understand why its hard to wait.
Post # 8
That was pretty much me. In fact, the actual engagement really wasn’t a big thing for us. I just wanted to wait until we could actually start planning a wedding, and once I felt like that time was upon us, I sent him a text before class one day suggesting that we get engaged soon and his response was “That sounds like fun ^_^.”
We’re pretty non-traditional though. Honestly, it kind of blows my mind to see impatient waiting Bees, but I think I have a pretty unique perspective on marriage. I was raised by two parents who were never married but nonetheless have been together from before I was conceived until today. I guess I never saw marriage as a big priority, rather as something I’d like to do someday if it was possible. I never saw it as a prerequisite to planning a family and starting a future, so if a guy wasn’t into the idea of marriage that wouldn’t have been a dealbreaker for me.
Post # 9
I’m pretty content just waiting. Of course I would like to be engaged, but I don’t bug him about it. We’re pretty open about talking about what we like and don’t like for weddings just from all of our friends’ weddings that we go to or whenever we see something on tv. I think that’s part of the reason why I don’t care about waiting because it’s clear we’re on the same page and are open about talking about it. And we’re in a LDR right now, but we should know in a few months when it will end. (Fingers crossed for July!) I think until we have a definite end point for the LDR, it would be a little silly to get engaged. And I know he has the ring, which is exciting. Apparently for some bees knowing that he has the ring but hasn’t proposed is torture, but I’m fine with it until the time is right. And I really don’t understand people who freak out when someone gets engaged on facebook.
Post # 10
I’m fine waiting too. I waited for over 8 years before he told me we are getting married, and he’s getting me a ring. No kids for us, however.
My ring will be custom made but we have to wait until my SO can go back to work, which won’t be another 3 1/2 months. Waiting for THAT sucks, but then we’ll be able to afford to have my ring made.
All told I’ll be waiting another 5 months or so I’m guessing before the proposal happens. We only just recently decided on a wedding date which is also a wait away.
We’re getting married on our 10 year anniversary; July 4, 2014.
Post # 11
I go in and out of the waiting phases but at the moment I am content 🙂