Post # 1
Kind of ranting, but I am SURE I cannot be alone.
I am counting down the days, and not in the good way.
I hate how my stress the holidays. Over gift giving, and the expense, and being pulled in every direction.
I hate how much stress it puts on family dynamics over who will be where and when, who got what for who, who spent too much money, who didn’t spend enough.
I grew up with a tiny low key family. My FI’s family is very large and very ettiquette-y. Maybe I am just getting used to this new dynamic but it feels there is always somewhere to be, and someone who is disappointed.
My FI and I never just get to relax and do waht we wish to do for ourselves!
I have decided that I would prefer it if the holidays were without all of the presents and parties, and half hearted obligations.
Post # 3
The christmas season is very painful to me.
I am pining for new years already.
Post # 4
yes but for a different reason. firstly, this year for christmas we’re going to spend a week with my DH’s family (here in mexico but in next state) and they don’t really celebrate it particularly. we see their extended family for an hour or two and eat tamales on the 24th. thats it. so holidays here in mexico are never as fun as they are when im in england with my family (turkey, carols, prosecco etc). so i was already thinking christmas this year will suck a bit.
the main reason though is we’ve just bought a house – we get the keys on wednesday (woohoo!). its not ready at all – because its brand new it needs a boiler, taps, painting, air con units, bathrooms sorted…a million little things. and then of course we need to move in.
I’m 31 weeks pregnant and want to get the house ready, set up the nursery and move in by mid jan – 4 weeks before my due date. so being away in a different state for a week makes me feel stressed. all i hear is “tick tock tick tock what if the baby comes early”
Post # 5
I am also ready for them to be over. I enjoy seeing family that I haven’t seen in a while, but my family also thinks that every night has to be a huge get-together, and they are HUGE gift-givers, which puts me in an uncomfortable position as a poor college student lol. SO and I have 6 places to go between Christmas Eve and Christmas day, and sometimes I just wish we could sit at home and relax. Also, this will be the first Christmas since my grandma (who I was very close to) passed away, so I’m less excited about the holiday season than I usually am
Post # 6
I’ve been dreading the holidays since pretty much after our wedding.
In general holidays are a hard time for me, but especially this year because we decided to spend the holidays in MA, where we live, with DH’s family… But his mom is now refuing to come for Christmas dinner at our house and forbidding the rest of DH’s family from coming as well because she is a piece of work. We’d both rather be in CA with my family since they are more low key.
So needless to say, I cannot wait until the holidays are over and done with. :/
Post # 7
@kayl226: Your family sounds similar to my fiance’s family. They go all out for everything. We have to dress up like a fancy night out for a home dinner party, where the chef in the family cooks this uber fancy gormet mealand everyone is expecting to be on their best behavior and say hello to everyone else OR ELSE. And then we do it three more times within a week.
They give TOO MANY gifts. An uncomfortable amoutn of gifts really. The gift exchange between my just my future mother and father in law, my fiance’s siblings and us took I think 3.5 HOURS last year. I get really tense even thinking about what to ask for! And for me it overshaddows the point of the day.
I always leave the parties thinking, that was nice, but we could hae just ordered some pizza and watched movies in our jammies with everyone and that would have been more fun, you know?
Post # 8
@freshflowers: Oh, I agree! I would much rather have a laid back family gathering.. and sometimes, we do those. It was easier when I was younger, but my parents are divorced and so are SO’s, so now I feel like we have double the family functions to go to so nobody feels left out! I swear Christmas “break” is more stressful than school for me!
Post # 9
Add me to your list.
I can’t take the holidays anymore. I have yet to go shopping for gifts. I would not have bothered with decorations, but my husband loves it.
Post # 10
I’m very much a Christmas person. This year Christmas is relaxed. Everyone’s coming to us. We’re catering for 15 people, which isn’t a lot, so it’ll be good. We’ve already finished our Christmas shopping (with the exception of my work Kris Kringle and the food for day of).
There is a lot of unnecessary strain on a holiday so beautiful, and it will never go away, so I make a point to make Christmas as fun as possible. Everyone is stressed, tired and broke, so we just try to make the most of it. Normally it ends with one of us throwing our hands in the air, saying stuff it, and playing Monopoly haha.
Post # 11
I’ve been enjoying it. People are generally more pleasant this time of year, especially at work. We got our holiday bonuses this week, we boozed it up in the conference room last Thursday, and my boss has offered to help me wrap Christmas presents. Not to mention our industry slows this time of year, so my workload is less. My neighbors have been a pleasure to be around, and we’ve had this friendly competition with our outdoor decorations, that I’ve been enjoying. My SO & I have been spending tons of time together doing holiday stuff. Its been nice. I’m kind of sad that its going by so fast.
Post # 12
@freshflowers: Me!! Different reasons, though. This is my first year working retail over Christmas. That coupled with choir is just exhausting. I rarely get to see FI between work/rehearsal/performance/sleep. I actually got sent home from work on the last day of the most recent concert series because I was too tired to be there. The boss said to go home! They have since stopped scheduling me on concert days. I wish it wasn’t necessary, but it’s just so much. Not many people realize just how exhaustive real singing is. I leave rehearsal sore and sweating coupled with my feet and ankles hurting from being on them at work all day, awful.
Other than that, I really do love the holidays. I love seeing family and giving presents to everyone. FIs family lives 5 minutes from mine, so normally we’ll do lunch with mine and dinner with his for holidays. When making plans for this year, I just told my parents we can’t go ridiculously far away because I wanted to see the inlaws too and FI wants to see them.
Post # 13
All I know is that if one more pissed shopper cuts me off in their car because they’re in such a rush I will scream.
Serioisly where do all these drivers hide the other 11 months of the year? A person can’t even grab a jug of friggin milk without getting attitude from at least one miserable person.
I try as hard as I can to be out there with a smile and being gracious but it wears on a person after all.
*swears for the bajilluonith time in a row that Christmas shopping wi be done in November next year*(never happens)
Post # 14
@freshflowers: Stop stealing my thoughs! I agree 110% with everything you just said. And if you’re not all gaga over the holidays then you’re a horrible scrooge/grinch. I hate winter already with it’s dark and dreary days and Christmas just makes it that much worse. Although I do enjoy New Years Eve. I haven’t put up a single Christmas decoration this year yet. Our families have agreed to go easy on the presents this year though and FI and I just buy each other stocking stuffers. My mom is coming to my house (on the 22nd) for Christmas for the first time (I usually go there but my step dad and I aren’t on speaking terms anymore) so it will be my first time ever cooking holiday dinner and I’m 28! My FI is a chef though so I’m not stressed about that at all. We will be spending Christmas Eve and Day with FI’s family at his grandparents. Their house is large so it can accommodate everyone comfortably but it’s still overwhelming to be around so many people and to be partaking in traditions that I’m not used to.
Post # 15
Nope. I’m counting the days until it’s all over.
Post # 16
@freshflowers: I agree 100%. Fi and I had a little white lie to get out of xmas day but shit fell through b/c his parents delayed their trip so now we have to go to obligation dinners. THen there is the expense and the gifts. Just ugh, I know I sound like a grinch but I am so over it