(Closed) Am I the only one who doesn't want a traditional bachelorette party?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Do/did you want a bachelorette party?
    Yes, a traditional one that includes bar hopping and the works! : (25 votes)
    11 %
    Yes, but something more low key like a girls night in : (116 votes)
    50 %
    Nope, don't want one at all : (71 votes)
    30 %
    Other (will explain below) : (21 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    806 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    i agree with you, i would love just a spa day with the girls, i go out from time to time but i dont want that for my bachelorette party..

    Post # 4
    1116 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I didn’t want the “traditional” bachelorette party either.  I am an older bride, I don’t drink…soo me and my girls went to NYC for a Broadway show, dinner and brunch the next day.  It was sooo great!!  And there were no penis shaped anything!

    Post # 5
    443 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I don’t want the traditional party….my dream bachelorette party was to go to a local spa and enjoy the day there with family and friends…But then I found out they won’t book large groups! What!!!! UGH. But oh well.


    Instead we are going to go out for dinner at a local mexican resturant and have some drinks. Then we are going back to my sisters and having an adult sleepover with lots of junk food, drinks and movies (especially MAGIC MIKE! LOL) I am really looking forward to it because its not the traditional bachelorette party of bar hopping and getting wasted (I don’t enjoy bar hopping either, and I hate getting drunk! I have aweful weeklong hangovers LOL).


    I hope your family and friends are able to respect what you want. You are the BRIDE afterall!


    Post # 6
    7462 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    We wet to dinner and stayed in a nice hotel for my bachelorette party. My friends and I aren’t drinkers or partiers.

    Post # 7
    1737 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I am with you 110%. Drinking, bar-hopping, and plastic penises are not anywhere near my idea of a good time. I would be profoundly uncomfortable with a bachelorette party like that.

    Fortunately for me, two of my bridesmaids (the two who would love to embarrass me with a blinky penis necklace and who knows what else) live out of state and wouldn’t be able to attend a bachelorette anyway. Another bridesmaid is my underage sister, and the fourth is my broke-ass sister who can’t afford to plan anything. So I got off easy, whew.

    I am taking my bridesmaids for manicures the day before the wedding. That is my bachelorette party. Just gonna relax, bust out a bottle of champagne (sparkling grape juice for underage sis), have some girl talk, and get our nails all pretty for the wedding 🙂

    Post # 8
    1071 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We are doing a co-ed bachelor/bachelorette weekend in vegas.  We have a ton of mutal friends and we just want to go and have fun!

    Post # 9
    2556 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t want a traditional one either, I think.  A little lower key & I would love to have a weekend getaway with the groom and his boys, as well. 

    Post # 10
    466 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I have made ground rules that there is to be no penis paraphernalia and I would really just like to go out and have a nice dinner, drinks, etc. Nothing crazy!

    Post # 11
    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I live in East, TN. So we are going to Knoxville for mine. I didn’t want the “traditional” either. We are having a lingerie party here in Kingsport where we live that day. Then that afternoon, we are driving to Knoxville. It’s about an hour drive. My dad used his Marriott points to get us a room, which is amazing and we are all so thankful. We have planned on a nice dinner, and then go see a band play afterwards. No, getting wasted or bar hoping, just some fun girl time. We are staying the night, then heading back the next day. But we plan on stopping in Pigeon Forge/Gatlinburg for some shopping! Our favorite. I am exicted!!

    Hopefully, you will figure out what you want to do! Good Luck!

    Post # 13
    9142 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    I don’t need a “last single night out” before my wedding.  I stopped doing those when my FH and I became exclusive two years ago.  I just don’t have the need to go out and act like a fool for other people’s humor nor do I want to suffer the headache and hangover the next day.  But I am almost 30 and most of my friends are married with kids so maybe I am just in a different crowd.

    Post # 14
    2183 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

    I just had a spa day with my girls. It was just what the bride ordered the day before her wedding. After that, my best friend (MOH) and I separated from the others (they had other obligations- totally fine), and had a late dinner. I really treasure that time I had with her.

    Do what makes you happy, and be happy you’ve got such close friends to share this time with.

    Post # 15
    1737 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Tarheelgurl: Hey, they can still go bar-hopping – just without you 😉 honestly though, I would do exactly what you said: decline politely. If they already know you’re not comfortable with the idea and they try to do it anyway, that’s on them. You don’t need to make yourself uncomfortable for their entertainment.

    Post # 16
    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Other we had a spa day at Glen Ivy Hot Springs Resort. Lounged poolside with drinks, played in mud, had massages and did other stuff. It was a lot of fun.

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