Post # 1
I just went to a bachelorette party not too long ago, and although I know the bride had fun (and I’m happy she did). It reinterated for me that I do not want a bachelorette party, or at least not a traditional one. I left my clubbing days behind after my first year of college. I don’t go to bars, and have never liked them. The whole “let’s get everything shaped like penises and embarrass the bride” doesn’t appeal to me. Neither does going up to random guys and asking for things like “suck for a buck” or “hey can I get a condom for a dare my bridesmaids made me do”.
If anything a relaxing spa day is my idea of a perfect bachelorette party, but no one seems to agree with me. Not even my ultra conservative mother who says I should at least go out to a bar and get drinks with my bridesmaids. Am I really alone in feeling like this? Are there any bees out there who do not want a traditional bachelorette party or a bachelorette party at all?
Post # 3
i agree with you, i would love just a spa day with the girls, i go out from time to time but i dont want that for my bachelorette party..
Post # 4
I didn’t want the “traditional” bachelorette party either. I am an older bride, I don’t drink…soo me and my girls went to NYC for a Broadway show, dinner and brunch the next day. It was sooo great!! And there were no penis shaped anything!
Post # 5
I don’t want the traditional party….my dream bachelorette party was to go to a local spa and enjoy the day there with family and friends…But then I found out they won’t book large groups! What!!!! UGH. But oh well.
Instead we are going to go out for dinner at a local mexican resturant and have some drinks. Then we are going back to my sisters and having an adult sleepover with lots of junk food, drinks and movies (especially MAGIC MIKE! LOL) I am really looking forward to it because its not the traditional bachelorette party of bar hopping and getting wasted (I don’t enjoy bar hopping either, and I hate getting drunk! I have aweful weeklong hangovers LOL).
I hope your family and friends are able to respect what you want. You are the BRIDE afterall!
Post # 6
We wet to dinner and stayed in a nice hotel for my bachelorette party. My friends and I aren’t drinkers or partiers.
Post # 7
I am with you 110%. Drinking, bar-hopping, and plastic penises are not anywhere near my idea of a good time. I would be profoundly uncomfortable with a bachelorette party like that.
Fortunately for me, two of my bridesmaids (the two who would love to embarrass me with a blinky penis necklace and who knows what else) live out of state and wouldn’t be able to attend a bachelorette anyway. Another bridesmaid is my underage sister, and the fourth is my broke-ass sister who can’t afford to plan anything. So I got off easy, whew.
I am taking my bridesmaids for manicures the day before the wedding. That is my bachelorette party. Just gonna relax, bust out a bottle of champagne (sparkling grape juice for underage sis), have some girl talk, and get our nails all pretty for the wedding 🙂
Post # 8
We are doing a co-ed bachelor/bachelorette weekend in vegas. We have a ton of mutal friends and we just want to go and have fun!
Post # 9
I don’t want a traditional one either, I think. A little lower key & I would love to have a weekend getaway with the groom and his boys, as well.
Post # 10
I have made ground rules that there is to be no penis paraphernalia and I would really just like to go out and have a nice dinner, drinks, etc. Nothing crazy!
Post # 11
I live in East, TN. So we are going to Knoxville for mine. I didn’t want the “traditional” either. We are having a lingerie party here in Kingsport where we live that day. Then that afternoon, we are driving to Knoxville. It’s about an hour drive. My dad used his Marriott points to get us a room, which is amazing and we are all so thankful. We have planned on a nice dinner, and then go see a band play afterwards. No, getting wasted or bar hoping, just some fun girl time. We are staying the night, then heading back the next day. But we plan on stopping in Pigeon Forge/Gatlinburg for some shopping! Our favorite. I am exicted!!
Hopefully, you will figure out what you want to do! Good Luck!
Post # 12
@HeyKaraoke: Ahh! This is EXACTLY what I want to do. I’m only having two bridesmaids and my Maid/Matron of Honor in our wedding party and two of them live in the US which is where we are getting married. I just wanna go out to the spa the day before the wedding and have us all get our nails done and hang out before the big day. So yeah, I don’t really have to worry about my bridal party. But I know FI’s family loves weddings and all the events associated with them. And they have a habit of inviting all the female members of the family out to bachelorette parties, which is what has me worried. I don’t want to be rude, but if I walk into a room full of fake penises and they tell me they are throwing me a bachelorette party full of bar hopping, then I’m gonna have to politely decline. The sad thing is, despite me telling Fiance and his family that these events aren’t my cup of tea. I can see one of them still trying to pull something like this off possibly.
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I don’t need a “last single night out” before my wedding. I stopped doing those when my FH and I became exclusive two years ago. I just don’t have the need to go out and act like a fool for other people’s humor nor do I want to suffer the headache and hangover the next day. But I am almost 30 and most of my friends are married with kids so maybe I am just in a different crowd.
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I just had a spa day with my girls. It was just what the bride ordered the day before her wedding. After that, my best friend (MOH) and I separated from the others (they had other obligations- totally fine), and had a late dinner. I really treasure that time I had with her.
Do what makes you happy, and be happy you’ve got such close friends to share this time with.
Post # 15
@Tarheelgurl: Hey, they can still go bar-hopping – just without you 😉 honestly though, I would do exactly what you said: decline politely. If they already know you’re not comfortable with the idea and they try to do it anyway, that’s on them. You don’t need to make yourself uncomfortable for their entertainment.
Post # 16
Other we had a spa day at Glen Ivy Hot Springs Resort. Lounged poolside with drinks, played in mud, had massages and did other stuff. It was a lot of fun.