- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
I swear Bees, sometimes it feels like I’m the only person at my job or who I’m around that ever has drama in their lives. Maybe it’s just because I CONSTANTLY am dealing with crap from my inlaws … or it’s because no one else shares their stories… but either way, it’s frustrating. Sometimes it just feels like nothing can go right in my life, and is always being held back. DH and I try to do stuff around our house to better it, ask for helping getting things accomplished from his parents … and end up being screwed over because they have to do something with his spoiled brat of a younger sister, or are trying to track down his older half sister.
My DHs older sister [the half sister] is a real piece of work. She’s 30, has 3 girls who are 5, 7 and 8 .. is separated from their father… and is currently in jail awaiting her trial. This time it was because she stole from my inlaws house while we were all on vacation in TN over the 4th of July and they actually pressed charges on her. She’s been on the run since then, with a warrant for her arrest from failure to appear in court. We just found out last night that she got picked up in the early AM of Saturday… and had to be taken to the hospital to have her stomach pumped because she swallowed an entire bottle of Oxycotin. We also found out she sold her car to some random people for $1000 to get drug money and promised to mail them the title. She doesn’t have the title, it’s in her father’s name, therefore he kept the title. This is about the 14th time she has stolen from DH’s family … she’s taken her sisters clothes, money from DH when he was younger, her mom and step dads wedding rings, guitars of DH’s and his dads, taken their grandfather to the bank and had him take out money for her without anyone else’s knowledge, and in my opinion the most despicable.. stolen her recently deceased grandfathers identity before the death certificate was filed to purchase $1000 worth of gift cards for herself… and yet this is the FIRST time his parents have ever actually pressed charges on her, depsite knowing and having proof it was her in the past.
When DH and I first started dating, she was in jail .. she got out about 4 months into our relationship.. and their mom threw her a party. my MIL ALWAYS puts her infront of everyone else, and it’s so frustrating. SIL and I share the same name [which is equally frustrating] and MIL always refers to me as “Danielle #2” .. and while I have tough skin and don’t generally care.. after almost 4 years, you would think I could just be danielle, not #2. Anytime we need help with anything and it would require DH’s mom or dad, we are always brushed aside and forgotten about, because they’re busy doing this for either one of his sisters… it’s like we’re being punished for being responsible and rarely asking for help. Take this weekend for example.. we asked to borrow my FIL’s truck to transport a fridge we’re being given from my grandmother’s estate … and FIL told us no, because it is SIL’s [the younger, non thief] birthday party and he has things he has to do for the party. Fine, not a big deal … but then he proceeded to call us selfish for even asking because its “her day” … uhm, last time I checked, its not her actual birthday, AND the party isn’t until 7 that night… we asked to get the truck at 8 am, and would have it back by noon at the latest. How is that being selfish? Oh right, my in laws expect us to not have a life when little miss spoiled has something planned. We’re supposed to drop everything for her, even though she NEVER comes to anything at our house when we invite her.
really this post is just more of a rant about how crazy my SIL is and how I’m sick of being pushed to the side for actually being married to the “good child” … and feel like I’m the only one who ever goes thru this. My brother is married with a child, and my parents don’t treat us any differently .. and neither does our extended family. I guess I just don’t get why some people get so wrapped up in two of their 3 children that they hurt the 3rd but “leaving them alone because they don’t need help” .. we might need constantly need their help, but some positive attention would be nice to ya know?
Does anyone else have to endure anything like this?
and btw, most people I tell about my SIL … don’t believe me lol .. or tell me that my life should be a Lifetime movie haha.