Post # 1
No seriously, sit on your side. I’m sorry what? You want to sit somewhere else?
Well you can’t.
Am I incredibly weird for not being into the whole “families are joining as one, choose a seat, not a side” thing? I think it’s so sweet for other couples, but picturing it at my own wedding weirds me out. It shouldn’t, but it does. What’s worse is that the sides will be really uneven if I don’t let people sit where they want. Something like 80% of guests will be on my side. But I still do NOT want those sides mixing… just…. no… Too many personalities.
Am I alone in this? Anyone else being a little dictator about seating arrangements during the ceremony?
Post # 3
I don’t like it because after Pinterest it showed up in all these wedding photos. I honestly find it pretty cheesy. I’m on the side of “I just don’t care, sit wherever the hell you want”
Post # 4
I think it’ll look strange to see all of the guests on my side… well mainly all of the guests. I have something like 2 1/2 times the amount of people coming than Fiance does just because of my huuuuge family. But that’s just my opinion, so I’m letting people sit wherever they want instead of a specified side.
Do what you wish. No one is going to bash you for going more traditional.
Post # 5
I ran out of steam and energy by the time the wedding rolled around so I didn’t even consider the issue of seat vs side. We had no signage up and I have no freakin’ clue if anyone was down there directing people to the appropriate side. Based on overhead photos, it looked even so I’m happy. LOL
Post # 6
To me it’s not about a cute little saying – it’s about being considerate towards your Fiance and how he will feel to see 80% of the guests sitting on ‘your side’. I’m quite confused by your point about personalities – they’re just going to be sitting watching the wedding ceremony, not engaging in debates.
Post # 7
@Asia: “No, seriously. Sit on your side.” HAHAHA, That made me LOL.
Post # 8
We stuck with the traditional bride and groom side, I don’t care for the mixing personally.
Post # 9
@Asia: I want all of my guests to sit wherever they would like, however, I do not like the “choose a seat, not a side” wording. I feel like it is almost admonishing the guest. I like the idea but not the wording. We went with one that says something along the lines of, “Friends of the bride and friends of the groom, please sit together, there is plenty of room.” Cheesy yes, but at least it doesn’t sound like you are demanding your guests not “choose sides” like it is some sort of argument.
Post # 10
I won’t be doing it, but simply because I guess I just don’t really get it. Like, if I’m going to a wedding where I’m only friends with the groom for example, I imagine our mutual friends will be sitting on one particular side, probably the grooms side. I’m not going to go out of my way to sit with other guests I don’t know (brides side) just to mix it up. Nor could I picture like say one of my aunties going and randomly sitting with FI’s family who she doesn’t know instead of her family. I do get the thought process behind it, I just don’t find it logical I guess.
Post # 11
I didn’t vote because I only have one block of chairs (other side of the ‘aisle’ is a garden) 😛
Relatedly, though – I’ve been to two weddings recently where the venue didn’t set out enough chairs for all the guests at the ceremony. At one, guests were able to grab some extras and everyone was seated before the bridal procession started, but at another, a few people arrived at the last minute and had to stand for the whole ceremony. This was at a fairly fancy venue, too (and it wasn’t a matter of ‘extra’ guests showing up, the bride had last-minute no-shows!) – I would be sooooooooo upset if, as I started walking down the aisle, I noticed some of my guests didn’t have seats!!!
Post # 12
Almost all of our friends are mutual friends and I don’t want them worrying about picking a seat. We’re inviting teachers from high school etc that know both of us. Our families are friends, siblings, etc so they should be able to sit wherever they want and feel most comfortable.
Post # 13
We didn’t bother saying anything, people just sat wherever (family had reserved seats that were on “sides”) on their own. I would personally sit wherever it looked like there was the most empty space as a guest…
Post # 14
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
It will look odd to have 80% of your guests on one side of the room IMO. Why do different personalities matter during the ceremony? People won’t be talking, they’ll be paying attention to YOU getting MARRIED!
Of course I’m speaking as one that didn’t have to deal with this issue, our ceremony and venue were at the same place and people were seated at their dinner tables during the ceremony.
Post # 15
who cares! Sit where you want – I don’t think you need a sign saying where to sit. Plus, people don’t always remember what side is what and it differs among cultures/religions (Jewish tradition is bride on right/groom on left). Secular weddings I have been to it’s probably been split evenly by what side the bride is on. At our wedding, everyone was mixed in – not by design or a sign it was just the way it was. I was a bride not a seating dictator.
Also it depends on your venue, too. We got married in a hotel, there were even amounts of chairs on each side, so there’s no way that all of “my side” could sit on one side of the room. If you’re getting married in a church wiwth tons of seating this is obviously different, but anywhere else will likely have equal seats on each side. Would you really set up 80 chairs on your side and 20 on his? That will looks ridiculous.
Post # 16
I really don’t care where people sit, but I really hate the cheesy “choose a sea not a side” signs that are all over pinterest.