Post # 1
I am getting married next week and am both ecstatic and sad at the same time. I am 25-years-old and have lived with my parents my whole life. I have never even went away to college. Now that my wedding is getting near, I feel so…sad. Not sad about getting married, but said about leaving my home, my parents, my bedroom, bed, dog, everything! Sad about this part of my life ending! I have so many happy memories of living with my parents. For me, this is an overwhelming change. I know this probably all sounds so corny, and I will only be moving about half an hour away, but it still makes me sad. I’m even sad about going on my honeymoon and being even farther away from my home for ten days! And my father will even come into my room once in awhile and start crying because he’s sad, too! I feel so bad at the same time because randomly I will start crying in front of my FH, even when he’s talking excitedly about our upcoming wedding, I just start to cry! Please, please tell me I’m not alone and that this is normal!
Post # 3
Awww, I’m sorry dear! I’m not sad, FI and I have lived together going on 5 years now. But I think it is COMPLETELY normal to have the feelings of anxiety and sadness about leaving a life you’ve been used to for 25 years. I’m also extremely close with my family, and when I first moved away for college I was excited and sad. And often there were times that I felt sad and wanted to be home once I was gone.
But, eventually, I got more and more used to my “new-life” outside of my parent’s house and became more independent, And soon, my college home was home.
It will feel that way with FI eventually. Just let time run it’s course. I promise it will all be okay in the end. And 30 minutes isn’t too bad! It could be much, much worse.
Chin up! I hope you feel better soon.
Post # 4
@HoosierBelle: Oh dear, I think it’s totally normal whenever a major life change is impending. The important thing is that you are in touch with how you are feeling and just letting it ebb and flow. Don’t force yourself to feel happy or put on a show. The sadness will pass, and how lucky are you that your FH is excited for your wedding?!
Please keep us updated. I hope you feel better soon * LOVE AND HUGS *
Post # 5
Awe I feel for you! I moved out with FI when I was 18 and I’m still getting over it (I’m 20 now) Even though I live less than 10 kms away from my parents I still moved out of the house, farm and town I’ve lived in all my life. I also left my fire dept. because of that and it was HARD! I ended up getting a job back in my hometown, rejoining my fire dept. so I’m back at my home almost everyday but it doesn’t change the feeling.
The thing to think of is, you are starting a new chapter in your life and it’s not like you are completely giving it all up. Your family still lives there and you are welcome all the time 🙂
Post # 6
A new chapter in your life will begin…You’ll say goodbye to another part of your life! Your feelings are completely normal, but just try to look at the future. Do not fear the future, save your memories of the past 25 years in your heart! You’ll be fine. Good luck!
Post # 7
This is totally understandable… I moved across an ocean to be with my fellow and I definitely get sad about it sometimes. But all in all its worth it. Good luck!