Post # 1
We took our e-pix about a month ago and since then, our photographer has been busy out of town with other clients. She had promised us pictures sooner but we haven’t received them yet, minus a few teaser shots. I’m feeling upset/annoyed/unhappy/insecure for the following, probably ridiculous, reasons:
1) She posted/blogged one of her out-of-town clients just now, but our shoot clearly came before them. Now, I’m not a photographer, but I would think you would do it in chronological order since you need to get these photos back to clients in a timely manner. I’m not sure if she is even planning to blog about us, but generally speaking, it looks like she blogs about the majority, if not all, of her clients. I now feel really insecure like we are unattractive or didn’t photograph well or had a terrible session. It didn’t help that I read this post from A Los Angeles Love (http://www.alosangeleslove.com/2010/08/what-to-look-for-in-photographer.html). Now granted, we are not obese or old by any means (my street size is a 4 and I’m in my late 20s) but I am plagued with self-doubt.
2) I think she sort of half-a$$ed our session. She is known for offbeat shoots with awesome DIY props and we didn’t have any of that. I also have a background in editorial/design and there were things in our photos I would have edited/Photoshopped and she didn’t do that. I’m not saying “Please make me a size 00” but some of the pictures came out very harsh with the lighting and there are some little details in the setting that didn’t photograph well that could be edited out. I think about 1/2 of the photos I’ve seen so far are awesome, but the other 1/2 are like “What the heck was that?”
Post # 3
@lilbluebird: I cannot imagine that it has anything to do with your being unphotogenic. I’ve seen engagement shots with couples of all shapes and sizes, and they always look wonderful.
Post # 4
Firstly, I’m sure you’re very photogenic. I think anyone can be. Good portraits come from capturing the emotions of the person being photographed, and I’m sure your love for your Fiance shone through in the photos. Don’t worry about that. 🙂
If your photographer really half-a$$ed your session, then shame on her. Hopefully that’s not the case and she’s just slow about posting–maybe she hasn’t finished editing your photos yet and so she blogged the couple she ended up finishing first? But even if this one lady feels critically about your shoot, it’s your day and your relationship, and try not to let her opinion matter.
Post # 5
I don’t think it’s about you being unphotogenic. It could be that she decided to blog about the out of town couple because it provided a different background and diversity to her portfolio.
Post # 6
One of the things that I realized when doing my first engagement session is that it is really up to the couple to style the shoot and provide props. If you have an idea, the photographer is certainly willing to go with it, but it’s usually not part of their package to provide signs and such.
I also don’t think photographers blog all of their sessions.
Post # 7
@lilbluebird: I’ve been having the same thoughts lately, but at the same time I realize I’m not being entirely rationale. For example our photog posted a pic of a wedding he did the day after ours on FB but not ours. Stupid thing to worry about but I was tellng myself it was because I wasn’t as attractive.
Post # 8
Hmmm, how do I say this without sounding harsh……well, I have seen many blogs and photography websites featuring people who definitely were not MODELS and were not technically “publicity worthy.” I’ve seen people who are not traditionally good looking or model thin featured on wedding photography blogs many a times.
I don’t think it has anything to do with you hun.
Post # 9
@louisianablue: That’s what I’ve figured out. I know for a fact she creates a lot of her props as she posts pictures of the building/creation process but I shouldn’t have relied on her to provide x,y and z and should’ve sourced everything I wanted myself. I also assumed she blogged all her sessions but Fiance agrees with you that perhaps she only blogs the ones she is proudest of or the ones that she actually did provide DIY props for.
@Natalieh86: That’s another thing that happened too! The weekend immediately following our e-session, she posted up one picture of a wedding she attended on FB and had a handful on her Instagram feed as well. She posted up a picture from our shoot on her Instagram feed, but then deleted it a few hours later. I think that this was the starting point of my insecurity in thinking that maybe she didn’t think we were “worthy subjects”.
@Legallyblondiebride: I agree with you that I’ve seen a lot of blogs with people of all shapes and sizes, including my boudoir photographer’s who includes women of all sizes in her album (and I really liked that about her). However, and again, I realize I’m very likely over-analyzing this, our e-session/wedding photographer’s portfolio really only seems to include her families and couples that look like they were lifted straight out of catalogs (just like what A Los Angeles Love posted).
@lovelyowl89: The emotions part is kind of what worries me too. I’m not a PDA person at all and I was very tense/nervous IMO at the beginning. My boudoir photographer is used to this type of thing so she was really good at posing me and telling me how to look and relax but my e-session photographer is not as hands on as I needed, I think.
Post # 10
Sounds like she is not very professional. I am sure that it is not you. It is our job to make you feel good about yourself, not bad or worse by any means. I guarantee that you are photogenic. Our work is ready usually within a week (weddings 3-4 wks), so having to wait a month for and E-shoot is ridiculous, IMO.(no matter how busy you are). I am sorry to hear your bad experience. DO NOT take it personally, you are perfect, I am sure. Remember, no one can make your feel inferior without your permission… Hang in there.
Did you book her for your wedding too???
Post # 11
@lilbluebird: I am truly sorry for your negative experience. Take care. I hope your wedding is wonderful!
Post # 12
Did you specifially ask for the props? I have several props, but I don’t bring them out unless a client asks for them. They don’t always fit in with every session that I do, and I don’t bring along random things that wouldn’t fit a couple’s personality. For the most part, I leave it up to my clients to bring what they want, unless they ask for me to bring something specific they’ve seen me use in the past.
As for not blogging, I don’t blog every session. I’d spend half my life just blogging if I did that. Here’s the thing – there’s a common saying that you should only show what you want to shoot. It’s like one fellow photographer told me when asked how they always get such well-styled clients, they said…..
I have my fair share of people who show up in jeans/white shirts and that’s fine because that’s waht they want to wear. BUT, it’s not what *I* want to project for my business, nor do I want to get in the habit of all my clients showing up dressed that way. It’s not my style. They’re a lovely family, and it was a lovely session, but it’s not one I’m going to blog.
Is there anything about your session that was different than others? Aside from that you didn’t have props? Was it a location that you don’t normally see on the photographers blog? I know personally I’ve shot weddings in locations that I’ve hated. I won’t blog it, because I don’t want to get inquires to shoot in that location. My clients get their files, and if they want to post them online they are welcome to it.
I wouldn’t worry about it, but if you are, just ask your photographer when you can expect to see the images on the blog?
Post # 13
Did you sign a model release? Typically a photographer won’t put something online unless a model release or some sort of agreement in the contract you sign states it’s okay. If you didn’t sign one, that may be the reason why there are no photos online.
…Or it could be a variety of other reasons. Maybe she put up the photo and realized there was something additional about it that needed to be edited (some sort of distracting background element perhaps?). Maybe she then got caught up with it and it reminded her of something else she had to do..etc etc. I’m sure it has nothing to do with you, is the main bulletpoint 🙂
I don’t blog shoots in chronological order. Hell, I have a couple’s shoot from October and a bridal shower from March I still need to blog but I’m waiting for the right time. The right time being a completely arbitrary decision on my part.
And +1 for what @starfish0116 said about props. Actually +1 for everything she said 🙂