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In situations like this, I think it is always better to be gracious on the outside even if you are seething on the inside. If you confront your FBIL and proclaim this "your week", all anyone is going to remember is you making a scene and being a bridezilla. However, if you have a beautiful wedding and are a gracious bride and congratulate the happy couple, people will always remember your lovely wedding long after the post-it marriage has bitten the dust.
Grin and bear it takes on a whole new meaning when you're getting married, right? Best of luck, don't let it drive you crazy! You're getting married to the love of your life, and no one can take away from that!
i totally think that you deserve to be upset. BUT like you said this couple obviously is super immature and are drama queens. I do think that it is YOUR special day though and nobody will be paying attention to them when it really counts. Also, if you think about it.. they'll actually be receiving "laughing-stock" attention (since they're so crazy and there's not even a ring on her finger or anything!) vs. good attention (which you will be getting). Good luck to you. You're an angel for putting up with that.
Honestly, I don't see what the big deal is. So what if they are on again and off again? So what if they post their love/affection on your wedding week? That to me does not take away from your wedding. If they had gotten married this week, then I could see anyone getting upset, but getting upset over their status on fb? That seemed childish to me. You have a wedding to plan, focus on that and don't log on fb if that bothers you.
You have wayyyyy more/better things to worry about this week than this. It's facebook just let it go. It's "roll your eyes" worthy but don't flip your stuff about it cause it's not worth it AT ALL.
You're having one of those moments we all have at some point or another (you're a liar if you say you haven't!). You should feel irritated... lol, I would, but now that you've vented I'm sure you'll feel better. Don't feel ridic. You've got a lot on your plate and these two are clearly retarded... So just sit back and laugh at their drama and enjoy the upcoming event!
You have every right to be irritated and upset by this, as it sounds dramatic and annoying. But I don't think you have any right to "put an end to it" or ask your FH to do so. If your FBIL and his girlfriend want to play house and call each other "hubby and wife" that's their business. It may make they seem ridiculous, but it doesn't sound harmful. They're probably just jealous of you and your FH because you guys have a stronger relationship and you're actually making it official with a real wedding as opposed to playing house. I say just take the high road and let them be. If they are really in a toxic relationship, as you've described, they will self-destruct soon enough without any help from you. Just focus on your wedding and don't waste any energy on their antics. Good luck!
i'm sorry, but first and foremost, you get a day. not a week.
that said, i do think you're overreacting. you shouldn't worry about a facebook picture or what your fbil is doing. its his life and he'll have to deal with whatever consequences happen, not you. just spend your time focusing on getting married. the focus will still be on you and your fi because it's your wedding day, not theirs. so just let it go and be happy.
I am sorry lady. I think you should just ignore it and focus on enjoying your wedding next weekend. From the sounds of things, they will be broken up in no time and it will not be worth the stress.
I guess everyone else is entitled to have their own drama whenever they please, and they don't have to schedule it around your wedding. At the same time, if you know for sure that they're creating this drama purposely on your wedding week, then you should just chalk it up to immature in-laws and do your best to brush it aside. Don't waste your energy stressing over them when you have plenty of other things to stress about this week.
Don't worry, when it comes to your wedding day, you are the only person everyone will be thinking about!
They've been in a relationship for years and you think that they don't like each other and are only together because of your wedding? :) I think it's possible they are a bit more into each other than that.
Seriously, them using the actual words wife and marriage might well be related to you and FH getting married and thus putting the topic on their minds but it has nothing to do with your wedding! It isn't taking any attention away from you. No one cares what they put on their facebook in relation to your wedding. I mean, your FMIL isn't thinking of your wedding 24/7 but she is thinking about it a lot I bet and your FBIL lovey doveyness isn't taking anything from her attention on your wedding. The only thing that I can imagine taking attention away would be if FBIL and his gf broke up loudly so you should be happy they are getting along. :)
Good luck and focus on your day!
there is nothing you can really do about this. Just ignore it and enjoy your wedding.
If something of this small tiny magnitude could take away anything from your wedding date, then, gosh, I don't know what to say - that's just sad. Your wedding is the day you marry the man you love most in the world. No one. No batshit drama. Regardless of how crazy you think it is. Could EVER take away from that.
First off - I never said they were together because of my wedding.
Secondly - today we are at FH's grandmother's house visiting for FH's birthday and we arrived at the same time as FBIL and his girlfriend. My FMIL greeted us "Hi almost married lady" and kissed me, and then turned to his girlfriend and responded "Hi married lady"
Yeah - thirdly - apparently my FBIL has told FH that she started all of this, forced him to do it and posted it on facebook 100 percent because of my impending wedding.
So - yeah - it's irritating.
And I just had a clear reminder as to WHY I dont bother to post on here anymore.
I'm sorry that FBIL's girl is being such a witch, but at this point you just need to see it as what it was to most people that saw it...a joke. It was done in poor taste as it was simply to make you PO'd, but that's exactly why you should let it go. She's just jealous that your relationship is working and hers is horrible.
I'm sorry thats she doing that, sounds like shes a self absorbed drama queen... she is def. doing this to get under your skin and is obvilously jealous of the fact that your getting married. dont let it get to you girl, its your day and everyone will be concentrating on that. and in a couple weeks, people wil realize that shes not married and they will realize that she did it bc shes immature... she wl look like a fool. dont stress about it, and have a AWESOME wedding!
Facebook and Myspace ruins relationships..
I would be mad too, but you know deep down that it's all Bull Sh** so the hell with them
I would enjoy my day and not give into their little game. You have better things to worry about I would hope
Facebook and Myspace ruins relationships..
I would be mad too, but you know deep down that it's all Bull Sh** so the hell with them
I would enjoy my day and not give into their little game. You have better things to worry about I would hope
I would be annoyed too, but it does sound like they're very immature, which explains a lot. I've learned that it's always better to be the bigger person in petty situations like this (their pettiness) as you'll come out looking classy and they will not. Plus, they are soooooo going to break up - again. I also tend to think that maybe FMIL feels the need to over exaggerate with your FBIL because based on your post, it seems that he does not have his life as together as you do. Maybe she is insecure about his lack of maturity and it's her way of convincing herself that he is more grown up than he actually is.
Also, you did not say that they were together because of your wedding, but you did say that you KNOW that they are doing this because of your wedding. To me that's pretty close to the same thing.
As far as it being very clear why you do not post on here, do you mean that sarcastically? I'm just wondering because you did ask for honest answers, and 99% of the responses were positive and supportive, clearly stating that you probably have better things to worry about and you should try to forget it and enjoy YOUR and your husbands very special day.
I think that the wedding stress is starting to get to you and some things that would irritate you slightly beforehand is now getting a little blown out of proportion. I dont think you are being crazy...your FBIL's girlfriend may be...but that is not what you should be worrying about right now IMO. Just concentrate on your wedding stuff and dont worry about others and whats going on around you.
All I have to say is to brush this off and move on because while it is annoying I am sure you have other things to worry about than buy into thier petty behavior.
Tag yourself in it! Then it can be about you! lol sorry that might be a stupid idea but for some reason it was the first thing I thought of doing. Good luck though! =)Dont worry everyone but your FMIL is probably not so excited about their relationship.
I understand how you would be upset but I think you should just breathe. While as a bride I totally understand the "it's my week" your wedding is only 1 (2 if FBIL is in it) day for them. Unless they make a huge deal out of their "post it ceremony" at your wedding or reception I would have to say let it slide. If you are worried they will make a production at your wedding and take the focus off of you and your FI then tell FI your fears, that it's your day and you've waited so long and don't want them stealing your thunder. Maybe he'll say something to FBIL or you can ask him to.
So sorry this is happening but right now just focus on your big day and finally getting to marry the love of your life!
Sorry to hear about all the drama.
Best thing you can do is ignore it, and act as graceful as possible. Everyone seeing you in your dress will pull back the focus really quickly.
Enjoy your week!
As soon as your day comes, no one will remember about your FBIL and their rediculous attempt to get attention. Just enjoy your day and don't let them upset you. If they did this because of your wedding then don't let them win by getting upset and angry. Good luck girl!
"And I just had a clear reminder as to WHY I dont bother to post on here anymore."
& I think we just got a clear reminder why you shouldn't post here anymore. It says in the title of this post "Am I Totally Wrong?" That's a question. & I think you got your answer even if you don't like it. Sorry. I agree it's probably irritating & annoying but its FB; you should just roll your eyes @ it & get on with with your wedding Day.
I wouldn't worry about this anymore than you already have! I'm so sure everyone sees this stuff for what it is, an attention seeking ploy. They're obviously not happy and I'm sure they're fooling no one. You and your FH are happy so prove it, enjoy this week and the wedding and laugh the rest off! :)
"And I just had a clear reminder as to WHY I dont bother to post on here anymore"
You asked for people's opinions. You asked if you were overreacting. And people responded. Did you just want only responses that agreed with you?
Personally, I think you are overreacting. It's Facebook, it's a stupid picture, who cares? If they did this last week, would you say they were ruining your "wedding month"?
The wedding stress is probably just getting to you and this seems like a bigger deal than it is. Just take a step back and focus on you and FI and ignore petty stuff like this.
i totally understand why you are annoyed/upset... but don't let them get the best of you... honestly, just let it roll off your back as if it's nothing. getting you upset is part of their getting more attention. and they don't deserve it.
this is your week, your wedding day and their immature behavior won't do anything to get in the way, unless you let them!
I can definitely see why this is bothering you, b/c it would bug the heck out of me too. It sounds like this girl is extremely immature. It does seem though that your FMIL really likes you a lot and is excited for the wedding.
I say, hold your head up high, and grin and bear it. Show her that it doesn't bother you. She's doing this to get a reaction out of you, and the more that you show you're focused on your wedding and the fact that she's making her BF say they're married doesn't bother you, the less she's going to do it. And even if she does keep at it...you're the one that's going to have the piece of paper at the end of the week showing that you're married...not her. So you can rub that in her face! Muhahaha!
I totally understand why your upset. But take a step back and breathe. You're right, this is your week. So enjoy it. Put their silly games out of your mind. When it comes down to it, no one will remember their post-it marriage in ten years, but they will remember what a beautiful day your wedding was!
I totally understand why you would be upset, but like many others have stated, the girl is (most likely) jealous and immature and this was a last ditch attempt to garner some attention before your big day comes. Don't stress about it, it's totally not worth your time. Enjoy your day/week and how wonderful your wedding day will be!
OMG facebook is sooo overrated! Forget about it! She is is crazy, you said it yourself! Just focus on your day and being happy!
But please don't be mad at everyone's feedback..you did ask for our opinons on the situation!
It's facebook...and obviously they are losers...so just ignore them! Just try to focus on the important things in life...trust me by tomorrow everyone will forget what they wrote on facebook...heck on 2 weeks everyone will forget about your wedding...its true...so just remember what this all is really about....you being united with the man of your dreams:-)
Good luck!!
Which would you rather have: your relationship or theirs? In the end, it's not about who got married first nor is it how they got married. You get one day, not a month and not a year. Let them be attention whores all they want, it's a reflection of them, not you.
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I feel like I have totally flipped a switch. My fiance and I pushed up our wedding from October to March for practical reasons. We are getting married next weekend YAY. My FBIL has been in his really rocky relationship for a couple years now, one of which he was gone studying in Italy for several months, they were apart and LDR in which she dated other men, many other men.
So I am on facebook Yesterday and see a post that they are now, in the style of Grey's Anatomy, "Post-it married". Now they have not gotten engaged, they are not married, they just moved back in together after he had to leave her after she was completely crazy and threatening to kill herself, flipping out, over drinking, self medicating etc.
So they literately just moved back in together last week, now they are "post it married" and today she took a picture of a post-it he left her this morning on the bathroom Mirror "I love my Wife" with wife underlined a couple times and posted it on facebook, in which my FMIL actually pressed the like button.
I know I am being totally irrational but I am so upset by this. It is 7 days before our wedding, they're over there playing house and pulling in all this attention to themselves. I want to SCREAM, this is MY week, I have worked REALLY hard to get here, and my FH thinks I'm being irrational. Am I? They're both a little bit younger than us and I KNOW that this is because we are getting married, I mean HELL they barely get along!!!
Please tell me if I'm being crazy. I want to cry and scream over this, I want FH to put an end to it, now, but no... nada.