(Closed) Am I weird for feeling like this?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
7568 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I don’t understand how they are copying you…are you telling them your ideas? If so, stop. Ask your friend to stop too. Problem solved. 

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think you can control the choices others make. It sucks they seem to be “copying” you but there’s honestly nothing you can do about it. I wouldn’t care much about the venue, because depending on where it is, two weddings can look completely different in the same venue.  I’m getting married in the same venue as my sister (granted that was 5 years ago) but our weddings are going to look completely different.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I say this with love: yes, that’s weird.  Let it go.  If you were going to have guests in common, I could understand being annoyed (but I’d still advise to not let it bug you), but really, they’re not “stealing” your ideas.  There are only so many ways to throw a wedding, and people do similar things at similar venues all the time.  It’s nothing personal.

 

Post # 8
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4609 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Just ask your friend to not mention your plans to the other couple if you are annoyed. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@malouloune:  I would just stay quiet about your wedding plans. I understand You want your plans to feel unique and if “coincidentally” they are doing the same, it takes the fun and enjoyment out of your ideas. 

Post # 10
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507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Eh- let it go and just come on here and hope you get bee’s that will let you vent sans judgement.

We all focus so much on wanting a special/perfect/etc. day while planning that we lose sight of reality/whats important. The weddings will have nothing in common barring you being related. The baby stress zilla is just rearing its little head.

Stay pretty, stay calm, and keep us posted on the fun stuff you’re planning for y’alls big day!!!

Post # 11
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235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Honestly i can relate.

My cousin is getting married in feb, my good friend is getting married in march,and i am getting married in april – all at the same venue!!!!!

It sucks and i wish it wasn’t the way, but unfortunately our city had a devastating earthquake and we lost a lot of venues, so there isn’t much to choose from.

I was a bit hesitant to get married there but at the end of the day, its my wedding and their weddings will be totally different, so i wouldn’t worry about it. Although its hard 😉

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I guess it would minorly get under my skin if I truly believed the couple picked the venue after knowing it was my preferred venue. Really, though, nothing you can do but let it go. Your wedding will be unique & lovely because it’s yours. I assure you, you’ll truly believe it’s the better of the two regardless, so don’t let it ruffle your feathers.

Post # 13
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138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

And Focus on what makes you and your groom who you are, so that when your guests walk into your wedding they can say with conviction that the wedding theme was so you…IF someone else copies take it as flattery

Post # 14
Member
5015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’d be upset too and I would not tell them one more thing about your wedding.

Post # 15
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1400 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It’s understandable that you want your wedding to be unique and that you feel resentful, since these were your ideas first. I’m thinking of that episode of the office where Pam is at Phyllis’s wedding and Phyllis has stolen ALL the ideas from Pam’s now-called-off wedding hahah… anyway, if you don’t like it, stop sharing your plans/potential plans with anyone other than FI. Be vague when people ask and answer with things like “You’ll see in July!”

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I totally get where you are coming from – you put all this work in, and feel like someone else is taking advantage of you. However, it’s likely that the other couple may have done the same research and found the same place on their own (or would have, even if you hadn’t found it first). I would give yourself a minute to feel upset about it, and then move on! Make your wedding about you and your fiance and what you guys want, and try not to worry about other people and what they are doing. 

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