Am I wrong?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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245 posts
Helper bee

Yes.  You’re in the wrong.  If there was no drama.  Why continue the falling out by not visiting your SIL… I assume your brother’s sister.  Especially when your husband wants to go.  What’s the big deal?  Even if you don’t like kidyou why don’t you just go to see how the sister is.  Giving birth is tough….

Post # 4
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1490 posts
Bumble bee

@Shoppe:  Well, as a fellow person who dislikes children I can understand your plight. I’m with you on this one. People wave a new baby in my face and I’m like “yeah, okay?” They show me pics and I’m like umm???  I try to muster up the right thing to say but it always comes off sounding bad anyway, and by now most of the people in my life know how I feel about kids.

 

What type of falling out did you two have? Does your FI know about this? If he did would that change his mind about going to see the kid?

 

Ya might have to suck this one up(as much as I hate to say it) and sit there and watch as everyone tripps over themselves to see the new kid. You can sit safely in a corner, bring a cheap gift and call it a day.  Although I do suppose you should interact with th emother a little.

Post # 5
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1865 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Yes, you’re in the wrong. That child will eventually be your nephew even if its just by marriage. It’s obviously important to your fiancé so suck it up and go. 

Post # 6
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842 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Shoppe:  yea, sorry but you’re being ridiculous. It’s selfish and petty to not want to see your FI’s and yours, for that matter, niece or nephew. You’re a part of their family now and a baby is a huge life occasion that should be acknowledged and celebrated. I would be hurt and annoyed if I were your FI too. You need to suck it up and go see the baby. 

Post # 7
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7193 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Shoppe:  You are in the wrong. A baby is a major life event and you should visit. You don’t need to do much: ask how mother and baby are doing, wish them well. Otherwise stay in the background while the two brothers talk.

Post # 8
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752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m not into kids either but you’re 100% wrong. You say he shouldn’t refuse to visit your family because “they didn’t do anything to him” but you admit that your SIL didnt do anything to you either. 

Post # 9
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450 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yes, you’re wrong. Obviously you being there is important to your fiance. You’re willing to cause a drift between both of your families over this, when you admit that there was no drama between you and SIL. That just seems immature to me.

Post # 10
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693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

This isn’t about the baby.  This is about family and making an effort to become part of your FI’s family.  This baby will be YOUR nephew at some point.

Post # 11
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682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Hes probably super excited about being an uncle and wants you to be excited with him, it’s a big event for his family (your family now too)!  My DH is about to be an uncle and you should’ve seen how many baby clothes HE bought for his sister on our trip.  He’s so excited for his sister, and I’m not such a huge fan of other people’s kids but I can’t wait to meet the little one and be an aunty.  I’d say suck it up and visit, I know I would be pretty insulted if my future SIL didn’t think enough of me to come and say hi after I had just given birth.  They’re family, and they’re going to be in your life a long time!

Post # 12
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2715 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Shoppe:  Just pretend you think the baby is cute – it’s not that difficult

Post # 13
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491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Yup, you’re wrong. If my SO reacted that way to a new member of my family, that might actually be a deal breaker for me. It is a big deal when someone has a baby, whether you like it or not. 

Post # 14
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7070 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

You should suck it up and go. It’s really rude not to – that’s his sister!

Post # 15
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2879 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

Hate to have to agree with PP but you are so wrong and acting really childish.

You need to suck it up and go! 

Post # 16
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1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

If there really wasn’t any drama that made you two stop speaking then I’m not sure what the big deal is.  He is excited, you should be excited for him.  This is your family now and you should try not to burn too many bridges.  This isn’t only SIL’s baby but it is also his brother’s baby and you should respect that relationship and be with him even though it isn’t on the top of your list of things to do.  I’m sure he has gone places he didn’t want to go to for you before you should do the same for him.  Suck it up and be a good fiance and put his wants above yours for right now.  Go and say the baby is cute, make polite conversation and then leave, it’s not really a big deal.

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