Post # 1
So my fiancé SIL and I have a falling out. Its a long story but there was no drama or anything. We somehow have decided to ignore each other and its not a big deal since we live 2 hrs away. She just gave birth recently and I could careless. My fiancé keep bugginh me to visit the baby But I really don’t want to. Seriously, I don’t see what’s the big deal. It’s a baby. I hate kids. I don’t know what to do when I see a baby so whats the point of visiting. I’ve seen tons of pictures on facebook. I know how the baby look. All babies do is sleep and cry. Yet my fiancé thinks its rude that I dont come visit with him. He even said that if I don’t come see the baby, he will not come visit my family or hang out with my friends. He said he could careless for them but he made an effort to come all the time. However, my point is my friends and family dont do anything to him. I hate that he would throw all my family and friends under just because I don’t want to visit his freaking nephew.
Post # 3
Yes. You’re in the wrong. If there was no drama. Why continue the falling out by not visiting your SIL… I assume your brother’s sister. Especially when your husband wants to go. What’s the big deal? Even if you don’t like kidyou why don’t you just go to see how the sister is. Giving birth is tough….
Post # 4
@Shoppe: Well, as a fellow person who dislikes children I can understand your plight. I’m with you on this one. People wave a new baby in my face and I’m like “yeah, okay?” They show me pics and I’m like umm??? I try to muster up the right thing to say but it always comes off sounding bad anyway, and by now most of the people in my life know how I feel about kids.
What type of falling out did you two have? Does your FI know about this? If he did would that change his mind about going to see the kid?
Ya might have to suck this one up(as much as I hate to say it) and sit there and watch as everyone tripps over themselves to see the new kid. You can sit safely in a corner, bring a cheap gift and call it a day. Although I do suppose you should interact with th emother a little.
Post # 5
Yes, you’re in the wrong. That child will eventually be your nephew even if its just by marriage. It’s obviously important to your fiancé so suck it up and go.
Post # 6
@Shoppe: yea, sorry but you’re being ridiculous. It’s selfish and petty to not want to see your FI’s and yours, for that matter, niece or nephew. You’re a part of their family now and a baby is a huge life occasion that should be acknowledged and celebrated. I would be hurt and annoyed if I were your FI too. You need to suck it up and go see the baby.
Post # 7
@Shoppe: You are in the wrong. A baby is a major life event and you should visit. You don’t need to do much: ask how mother and baby are doing, wish them well. Otherwise stay in the background while the two brothers talk.
Post # 8
I’m not into kids either but you’re 100% wrong. You say he shouldn’t refuse to visit your family because “they didn’t do anything to him” but you admit that your SIL didnt do anything to you either.
Post # 9
Yes, you’re wrong. Obviously you being there is important to your fiance. You’re willing to cause a drift between both of your families over this, when you admit that there was no drama between you and SIL. That just seems immature to me.
Post # 10
This isn’t about the baby. This is about family and making an effort to become part of your FI’s family. This baby will be YOUR nephew at some point.
Post # 11
Hes probably super excited about being an uncle and wants you to be excited with him, it’s a big event for his family (your family now too)! My DH is about to be an uncle and you should’ve seen how many baby clothes HE bought for his sister on our trip. He’s so excited for his sister, and I’m not such a huge fan of other people’s kids but I can’t wait to meet the little one and be an aunty. I’d say suck it up and visit, I know I would be pretty insulted if my future SIL didn’t think enough of me to come and say hi after I had just given birth. They’re family, and they’re going to be in your life a long time!
Post # 12
@Shoppe: Just pretend you think the baby is cute – it’s not that difficult
Post # 13
Yup, you’re wrong. If my SO reacted that way to a new member of my family, that might actually be a deal breaker for me. It is a big deal when someone has a baby, whether you like it or not.
Post # 14
You should suck it up and go. It’s really rude not to – that’s his sister!
Post # 15
Hate to have to agree with PP but you are so wrong and acting really childish.
You need to suck it up and go!
Post # 16
If there really wasn’t any drama that made you two stop speaking then I’m not sure what the big deal is. He is excited, you should be excited for him. This is your family now and you should try not to burn too many bridges. This isn’t only SIL’s baby but it is also his brother’s baby and you should respect that relationship and be with him even though it isn’t on the top of your list of things to do. I’m sure he has gone places he didn’t want to go to for you before you should do the same for him. Suck it up and be a good fiance and put his wants above yours for right now. Go and say the baby is cute, make polite conversation and then leave, it’s not really a big deal.