(Closed) Am I wrong? Blended family help

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think that letting him have alone time with his sisters is the right choice.  Sorry its hard for your husband to realize. I do want to say that you are amazing for taking in these children, and I’m not really sure what else to say

Post # 4
2701 posts
Sugar bee

@MrsSl82be: <

Everything she said

Your son needs time alone with his sisters and you are a wonderful mom to go out of your way to do so for him.

Post # 5
4824 posts
Honey bee

I think you both are. 

I think its important for each child to have visits with their respective families alone, but a sibling is a sibling whether foster, adopted, step, 1/2 and sometimes life happens and maybe you need to bring another of your kids to lesson the “load” at home. 

However, most importantly is how your sons sisters feel about it. Would they be comfortable if another sibling came? Would they enjoy it? Would they like to meet your DH’s kids that are similar age?

I think its important everyone meets and gets along, but I think a BBQ should be planned in advance and everyone comes, including moms/dads and all siblings.

Post # 6
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I also dont think its wrong to not want to take the other children. It would be distracting to have the other kids even if they did not have ADHD. Just like they have a chance to spend personal time with bio family members, so should your son.

Post # 7
6825 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Why would you take children who are not siblings for visits.  They are not related by blood so I see no need on it. Your son as you said doesn’t go on the other visits. I think you FH needs to realize this time is for your son and his sisters not the other children.

Post # 9
376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t see why you would bring the other children unless something fell through with a sitter. His sisters deserve time with their brother and shouldn’t feel like babysitters for the other children. Maybe your husband just doesn’t want to be alone with all the other kids because its a big responsiblity? If thats the case, get a friend to go over and help. Or tell him to man up 🙂

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