(Closed) Am I wrong here? (Somewhat of a vent…) (Kinda Long)

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1351 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@FutureMrsFord1087:Um are you sure you’re not me?!!? This story is very similar to what happened to me. Went to try on dresses, 7 out of 8 girls accounted for, one really shady one still hasn’t gone to look at it. All the sudden dress shop calls & dresses are being discontinued we have to order by Aug 1. Shady still hasn’t gone to look at it and says it’s because she was in the hospital with a 4000 wedding bill. I call/text/email shady BM. I was willing to spot her the $170 (that she knew about 2months previously) She’s all on facebook posting about going to this barbq, going to Alabama to watch fireworks etc. So, I emailed her teliing her it’s not going to work. She acts like I never told her anything? So, no you’re not wrong. You’re thinking ahead and how she’ll never be involved and you have to do what you have to do! I have NO regrets now. I’ve moved on with the girls who actually want to be in my wedding and never looked back! 

Post # 4
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2701 posts
Sugar bee

UHHHH… I have no idea why she would react like that other than the fact that she is upset about the pressures of being unemployed/having kids. And in that case shady BM, welcome to the real world. IMO she should have let you know months ago she couldn’t afford a dress so you would have had time to help her or find someone else. It isn’t as if the expenses of life, children, and being unemployed creeps up on you, they’re always there. Sorry you’re dealing with this, I don’t think you acted inappropriately.

Post # 6
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17 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I actually work at David’s Bridal, and I know that our dresses are not expensive! and we have TONS of different payment options! You are not wrong what so ever!I think you did the right thing by finding someone else! Did you let  shady BM know yet? It sounds to me that she was just blaming you, to try and take the blame off of herself! You did the right thing and to top it off you made everything convenient for your girls! (Im currently dealing with the same thing, so I understand lol) Its a good thing you kicked her out…cause with how she is currently acting (and your being nice and making everything convenient) who knows how she would have acted the week before, day before and day of your wedding!

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