Am I wrong not to fix the programs?

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I go ahead and redo the programs?
    Yes, just change them. : (5 votes)
    8 %
    No, they were inconsiderate. : (57 votes)
    92 %
  • Post # 3
    9526 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I voted no. I don’t think you need to re-do them. But I also don’t think you should be pissed at them. Yes, they should have worked things out earlier, which is annoying, but it’s not worth getting all riled up. Just be glad that they’re coming and don’t worry about the program and move on. 

    Post # 4
    4441 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @CuteAsAButton:  Personally I would have put the RB on the program and then if they couldn’t make it I wouldn’t have cared.  But it doesn’t matter, you have other things to worry about with 2 weeks to go!

    Post # 5
    7630 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I wouldn’t be too upset but I also wouldn’t redo them…not because they were inconsiderate but because it’s not that big of a deal and you’ve got lots of other stuff to do. 

    Post # 7
    8850 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    @JenGirl:  +1.  Yes it was inconsiderate of them, but it’s SO not worth getting pissed and having a little one-up by not putting his name in the program.  I wouldn’t bother fixing them, but not to “show them”.

    Some of the best advice I got when I was getting married was to just LET THINGS GO.  Otherwise, the planning process and wedding itself is going to be marked by a lot of stress and pissiness, and that’s what you will remember.  Don’t you want your memories to be ones of you being excited and happy, not angry and stressed about little details that went wrong or people who were rude?

    I asked my now-husband to tell me when I was getting stressed about something that ultimately didn’t matter – late RSVPs, fiddling with the seating chart a thousand times, exact layout of centerpieces, etc – since often it’s hard to identify that behavior yourself.  And I would say, “You’re right, it’s not that big of deal in the scheme of things, why am I letting this ruin the moment?”

    Not to get all preachy on you, but it honestly made my experience a thousand times better and everyone was so glad/impressed by a happy non-stressed bride.

    Post # 8
    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @CuteAsAButton:  Are they printed yet? If not,  you should re-do them. If they’re already printed, I wouldn’t worry about it.

    Post # 11
    7654 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @CuteAsAButton:  I say don’t change them, but you shouldn’t be pissed about the situation. Stuff happens, and some jobs really don’t get back to you as soon as you put your time in, so I think this is an honest situation. Just leave the programs as they are becuase there is bigger stuff to concern yourself with.

    Post # 12
    582 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I voted no, but not because they were inconsiderate.  I think you shouldn’t re-do them because I’m sure you have 100 better things to do and spend your money on.  Realistically this kid is a kid, and he’s not going to care if his name is in the program or not. 

    Post # 13
    122 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I think them not telling you is inconsiderate. im sorry you are in this position, and hope you sort it soon

    Post # 14
    2562 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Don’t reprint! At this point, it’s a waste of money.
    Don’t even worry about it (and certainly don’t bring it up to anyone in your family)

    It’s just a ring-bearer… it’s not like the program is the credits to a movie! 😛
    Everyone will see the ring-bearer, know who he is (if not by name, by looks) and congratulate him later.

    It will be fine.

    Post # 15
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @CuteAsAButton:  I wouldn’t bother changing them. Quite frankly, no one is going to keep them except for you and perhaps your close family members. I wouldn’t waste money on something that will end up thrown out. Plus, it wasn’t your fault. You can’t wait forever for someone to make a decision.

    Post # 16
    957 posts
    Busy bee

    I wouldn’t fix them. If he mentions something about him, you tell him the truth. He got back to you too late after you had asked for an answer earlier. His loss.

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