(Closed) Am I wrong? (Nwr)

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@ImaStarr:  You two get a lot of headaches – do you just not like each others families? LOL

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

This sounds like a potential health issue. Your parents shouldn’t be offended you don’t want to stay in a moldy bedroom that is making one of you feel ill.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly, I would just get a hotel.  Some people are just more sensitive to certain smells than others (my youngest brother is like that) and I don’t think it’s fair to make your FI suffer through it.  You can still spend plenty of time with your parents, it’s just going to take a bit more effor.

 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Is there somewhere else in your parents house you two can stay?  It sounds like mold and if it’s giving FI headaches then I can see his point.  

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Well, it might be weird but do you think he could stay in the hotel and you could stay at your parents’ house?

While it’s not cool that he gets sick from the room it’s also not cool that you don’t get to spend as much time with your family.

Or if you’re staying two nights, maybe one night you stay at the hotel and one night you stay at your parents.

Its lame I know but its compromise.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@mchitt329:  This thought also crossed my mind ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@RunsWithBears:  +1

I am glad my SO lets us stay in a hotel when we visit his parents!

Post # 11
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Newbee

@ImaStarr:  I know it feels insulting to go to a hotel, but as someone who gets blinding headaches from mold and mildew, I can’t imagine your poor FI suffering through another long visit. You need to speak to your parents, this could have a serious impact on their health.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

This sounds like a health problem :/ I get where you’re coming from, but if he gets headaches from the smell, that’s not really fair to ask him to stay in that room. Is there any way you can get a blow-up mattress and maybe sleep in the living room instead of the bedroom? Maybe that way he wouldn’t be subjected to a possible headache ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

If this were just an issue of him not liking staying at yoru parents I would say that he should just get over it. But this whole mold issue makes it different. It is actually causing him physical pain to stay with your parents, so I say stay in a hotel until the mold issue is resolved. Maybe this will motivate your parents to get the room treated. But I would discuss this with your fiance and tell him that you are going to agree to a hotel but that you want to spend as much time as possible with your family. So no lolligagging around the hotel room getting ready for an hour and a half. Get your butts over to your parent’s house and spend time there. Treat the hotel room like your bedroom. Only go there to sleep.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

IMO that is a health concern. If your dad doesn’t get it checked out, they shouldn’t be offended that you aren’t staying there

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

This is a potential health issue. Even if you suspect mold, you shouldn’t be in that room. That stuff will screw up your lungs faster than you can say, “Holy crap, mold!”

I’d stay in a hotel. Clearly you’re both being effected by the room. Family is great, but it’s not worth risking your health. Your parents should be taking this a lot more seriously.

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