Post # 1
Earlier today, a bunch co workers and I got together to have lunch. Two women, three men, with another gentleman to meet us later. The later gentleman showed up, and apologized with a “sorry i was late, guys.” My female co worker came unglued! “I’m not a guy, so do not address me as such!” Add few a more choice phrases, and you get the picture. She looked forward to me for support, but I wasn’t the least offended by the comment.” Should I have backed her up?
Post # 3
…what?!?! Your female coworker was totally out of line. “Guys” is usually considered gender-neural when addressing a group. Whenever I’m out with my female friends I refer to the group as “guys.” It’s slightly a regional thing (more common in the north-east and mid-Atlantic) but I think it’s common enough that no one should be offended.
Post # 4
@Araya: Not at all..I see nothing wrong with anything he said.
Post # 5
Yeah, I say guys all the time, when referring to my friends who are also girls…. She was a little out of line.
Post # 6
Your female coworker needs a good backhand across the face lol. What a ridiculous thing to get upset about.
Post # 7
NO, I wouldn’t be offended either. Your co-worker sounds crazy. He obviously wasn’t implying that you guys (haha) are of the male gender.
Post # 8
Your co-worker needs a hobby, if this is the kind of thing that occupies her mind.
Post # 9
I could have not resisted responding with, “you mad, bro?”
Post # 10
@Araya: no you’re not wrong! All this hypersensitive sexism / feminist shit is really getting old and drives me insane!
good for you OP!!!
Post # 11
I would give a blank look back to her. I think it’s fine to call a group of women “guys.”
I do hate the use of the words “mankind” instead of “humanity” and any time when someone uses “man” for “person” or “he” for “he or she” (hey, sounds like you forgot 51% of the population!) but “guys” is not the same thing. To me it just means, “hey there, people I like!”
Post # 12
She should be so lucky to be considered “one of the guys” the guys at my last job forgot I was a girl so many times. Theyd call me over to show me a hot girl, tell me stories I should never know, do things in front of me that a person should never see. If sshe’s offended by that she needs to re-evaluate her life.
Post # 13
She would REALLY hate French, where a group of people, even if it is 99 women and 1 man, is addressed as if the entire group were masculine!
Post # 14
I can’t imagine getting offended by that comment!
Post # 15
@Araya: Sounds like she needs to take the stick out of somewhere. It really isn’t a big deal, he clearly said it in passing and wasn’t purposely trying to offend her.
Post # 16
@Araya: Your coworker was being ridiculous. It’s a common phrase, everyone calls people “guys.” Even if you are a giant feminist who hates the fact the masculine phrases can refer to everyone (which I personally do not see a reason why it should matter), there is a way to deal with that, and being a bitch isn’t a good choice. And going off on some guy who obviously is just doing what he (and everyone else) was brought up with, without trying to offend anyone, is bitchy.
If it is something she is bothered about, she could have calmly and kindly explained that to him instead of exploding. You did the right thing by not promoting her behaviour and response.