Am I wrong that I was not offended?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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1266 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

…what?!?!  Your female coworker was totally out of line.  “Guys” is usually considered gender-neural when addressing a group.  Whenever I’m out with my female friends I refer to the group as “guys.”  It’s slightly a regional thing (more common in the north-east and mid-Atlantic) but I think it’s common enough that no one should be offended.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Araya:  Not at all..I see nothing wrong with anything he said. 

Post # 5
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1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Yeah, I say guys all the time, when referring to my friends who are also girls….  She was a little out of line.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Your female coworker needs a good backhand across the face lol.  What a ridiculous thing to get upset about.

Post # 7
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2575 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

NO, I wouldn’t be offended either.  Your co-worker sounds crazy.  He obviously wasn’t implying that you guys (haha) are of the male gender.

Post # 8
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729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Your co-worker needs a hobby, if this is the kind of thing that occupies her mind.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I could have not resisted responding with, “you mad, bro?”

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@Araya:  no you’re not wrong! All this hypersensitive sexism / feminist shit is really getting old and drives me insane! 

good for you OP!!! 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

I would give a blank look back to her. I think it’s fine to call a group of women “guys.”

I do hate the use of the words “mankind” instead of “humanity” and any time when someone uses “man” for “person” or “he” for “he or she” (hey, sounds like you forgot 51% of the population!) but “guys” is not the same thing. To me it just means, “hey there, people I like!”

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

She should be so lucky to be considered “one of the guys” the guys at my last job forgot I was a girl so many times. Theyd call me over to show me a hot girl, tell me stories I should never know, do things in front of me that a person should never see. If sshe’s offended by that she needs to re-evaluate her life. 

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

She would REALLY hate French, where a group of people, even if it is 99 women and 1 man, is addressed as if the entire group were masculine!

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I can’t imagine getting offended by that comment!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Araya:  Sounds like she needs to take the stick out of somewhere.  It really isn’t a big deal, he clearly said it in passing and wasn’t purposely trying to offend her.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@Araya:  Your coworker was being ridiculous. It’s a common phrase, everyone calls people “guys.” Even if you are a giant feminist who hates the fact the masculine phrases can refer to everyone (which I personally do not see a reason why it should matter), there is a way to deal with that, and being a bitch isn’t a good choice. And going off on some guy who obviously is just doing what he (and everyone else) was brought up with, without trying to offend anyone, is bitchy. 

If it is something she is bothered about, she could have calmly and kindly explained that to him instead of exploding. You did the right thing by not promoting her behaviour and response.

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