Post # 1
Both sets of parents are splitting the cost of the reception down the middle. Groom and I are not dancers at all. We’re mostly into rock, so are my parents (although we intend to include plenty of popular dance songs for our guests). We thought my MIL was on the same page as us, but it’s come to our attention that my SIL is convincing her to put a lot of hip hop on our playlist (MIL doesn’t like that music but somehow she’s being very convincing). It’s not unreasonable to have a little in the sense that it’s more dance oriented than some of our classic rock choices, but I don’t want it to be an ongoing theme throughout our reception. No offense to people who like it, it’s just not what either one of us likes to listen to. The DJ is waiting for us to give him a playlist. Should I politely ask SIL to butt out? I feel weird complaining to MIL because she is paying for half of it. Is it wrong for the bride and groom to have final say in the playlist? What would you do?
Post # 3
I would just edit the playlist before I handed it over to the DJ.
Post # 4
why is your MIL talking about your playlist? I’d just take over with the DJ
Post # 5
We didn’t even provide a real play list. I think we submitted a list of 10 or so ‘must play’ songs and DO NOT PLAY list and then gave him a general guideline of what we were looking for in terms of feel, but not specific songs and let him take it from there.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
From attending a ton of weddings this is what I’ve learned: the bride and groom are generally too busy to dance. T least for a large portion of the reception Your guests will dance and I can pretty much assure you no one will dance to rock. Hip hop/ top 40, though I TOTALLY get why you don’t love it, is more suited for a wedding.
I would ask SIL to butt out purely becauuse it’s not her place. But yes, I would let them play hip hop. Trust your DJ.
Post # 7
I’d play whatever will keep people dancing, and that’s usually the popular hip hop type songs from the radio. I was just at a wedding where the bride’s father kept requesting a lot of rock songs, and it totally emptied the dance floor every time. Lots of people were highly annoyed because it really killed the fun vibe of the party. Don’t get me wrong, I love rock, but I just don’t think a wedding is the place for it.
Post # 8
I absolutely agree that the majority of the music should be what people can dance to, that’s what a party is for. But she is requesting straight up gangsta rap and I really don’t want to hear that at my own wedding. I probably didn’t specify that in my original post. There’s a big difference between dance and gangsta.
Post # 9
Just talk to the DJ and explain to him the different music preferences that you have vs. your MIL (or SIL in this case). Tell him that you would prefer to hear more of X, but maybe he can intersperse a little bit of Y for the guests that like it better. Don’t let your SIL or MIL dictate something in its entirety, but at the same time, be considerate to what your guests/the people paying would like to hear.