Post # 1
I am getting married on May 29th. I am personally planning every last detail with little help from anyone. The ONLY thing that my fiance has to do is to make sure his mom gets to this country for the wedding which requires her to have a visa. After months of my proding him (& her) his mom finally had an interview at the embassy for this Thursday. I was so happy and we sent her everything she needed to go apply for the visa. Well, she texted my fiance today and said that she changed her appointment to be March 27th…..over a month from now and only two months before the wedding! (which if you don’t know much about visas is not a long time) So now there is a strong possibility that she will not be approved and not to mention the fact that plane tickets will be probably double the cost. We have been engaged for almost a year!
I am annoyed for multiple reasons: first, that she changed the date, I don’t feel like she is making ANY effort to come which kinda hurts my feelings considering I have never even met my FMIL. And I am annoyed with my fiance for not having any control over the situation and for not standing up for us! I really want her to be there and I know there is a chance that she still might be able to but it is just added logistical stress that I thought was going to be over this week. Am I am B&%# for being so annoyed? Oh, I should mention that she has not given a real reason why she changed the date and my fiance just isn’t into questions to get the scoop…men!
Post # 3
Nope, I would be annoyed too! Can you get him to talk to her?
I mean, in the end…you want people there who will support you, right? I hope that she can provide this support, but if she’s only going to provide stress…
Post # 4
You have every right to be annoyed. No ANNOYED. Make that ANNOYED!!!!!
I certainly hope, for your sake, that she senses the importance of getting this taken care of in a timely manner. My fingers are crossed for you!!
Post # 5
Ugh! I have tried and he tells me not to worry about it. It is just not my personality to let that go it is important to me (and him) that she is there but this is just silly. There was SO much time to take care of these things and now we are leaving it to the last minute?? I totally don’t operate that way! 🙂
Post # 6
@Jushackett: I hear ya! I’m ultra-organized, especially when it comes to super important things. I’m sure it’ll all work out, so try not to let it worry you too much.
Post # 7
I think if nothing else they shouldn’t be adding to your stress by leaving thier one task to the last minute.
Potentially sounds like she may either not realise how long it will take or she may not want to come….have you talked to your FI about this?
Post # 8
ARG! Yes, you have every right to be annoyed!!
However, don’t dwell on this. Like someone said to me: ” The people who truly want to be there will make it happen and you don’t need to worry about it. At the end of the day, you will be married to your love” Honestly, just that bit of advice has gotten me through a LOT.