Post # 1
Hi Wedding Bees
I am fairly new to this site and have been reading through lots of posts and have realised I don’t get some of your Americanisms for example what does Darling Husband actually stand for- darling husband?
I also love how America doesn’t seem to have some of the same wedding traditions as we have. Am I right in thinking that the men don’t wear tails but normal suits to weddings? Where do couples normally go on honeymoons- do you stay in the USA?
I am intrigued …
Post # 3
I think it actually stands for “dear husband,” but that is more of a wedding website thing than an American thing – I’ve certainly never heard anyone say it in real life!
A lot of people leave the country for their honeymoon. The Caribbean is an especially popular destination, as it is close and affordable.
Where do English couples tend to go?
Post # 4
We went to a nearby bed and breakfast straight after the wedding. But over Christmas we’ll be honeymooning in Cozumel.
Post # 5
Traditionally, I think most guys wear a tuxedo – that’s one step down from tails, but still more formal than a suit. It is acceptable to wear a regular suit, though – it’s totally up to the couple.
My husband wore a regular suit, and our groomsmen wore dress pants, a dress shirt, and a tie – no jacket. (They were very grateful as it turned out to be 33 C that day).
Post # 6
The site acronyms just take some deciphering. Darling Husband is dear husband, darling husband, etc. There’s a list somewhere but I don’t know where to find it.
At the weddings I’ve been to (midwest US, towns of 200 to 250,000 people), the attire is highly variable. Are you referring to guests or the groom/wedding party? I’ve seen everything from tuxedos to blue jeans.
I had a honeymoon in the US, but many of my friends traveled to somewhere close-ish and tropical (Mexico, the Carribean). A couple went to Italy.
I think it varies a lot by region and local culture. Tell us about your area!
Post # 7
I’ve been to black tie weddings where men have worn tails but I think as PP’s have mentioned, regular tuxes are more the norm. We’re going to Jamaica for our honeymoon.
Post # 8
@sarahbabs: British honeymooners usually go further afield on honeymoon than a normal holiday (and spend more) with The Maldives, Mauritius, Mexico, The Caribbean and South East Asia all being popular destinations.
Post # 9
A lot of people stay in the US for a honeymoon because the country is so large, but a lot of people will venture to Hawaii which is thousands of miles away from the mainland. However, people will go to places like Mexico (a bordering country) or to the Bahamas and Virgin Islands. These places tend to be more popular, than say, the UK or what have you.
Darling Husband is an internet thing, not an American thing. It’s “dear husband.”
As for suits, men here don’t wear suits with tails. They will usually wear a tuxedo:
or a normal suit.
Post # 10
@British_Bride: My fiance wants to wear a full tuxedo for the wedding even if we end up having a more casual theme. If I mention that grooms in England wear coat tailed suits he will think that is extra fancy and ask me to help him find it!
I love hearing about different traditions, what are some that are carried out in England?
Now I’m the one intrigued…tell us more!
Post # 11
@British_Bride: No men do not wear tails nor hats, just tuxedos or formal suits that to me look like regular suits haha.
Also, our bridesmaids are adult women, not children. We call them flowergirls.
I honeymooned in my state, in Williamsburg, which is incidentially named after King William III of England! It is an old English establishment from the colonists and home to the College of William and Mary, named after King William II and Queen Mary II, the 2nd oldest college in the USA after Harvard.
Post # 12
@LuvMySailor: Is that where Colonial Williamsburg is? Not sure if that’s spelt right. I’d love to go there!
Post # 13
@wifeyoneill21: British weddings tend to be longer than US ones, starting ealy-to-mid-afternoon and stretching to midnight and beyond.
Post # 14
I think the British (in general) have more formal ceremonies than Americans do. Isn’t it much less common to get married outside in the UK? I could be wrong.
Post # 15
Here they are, and what they stand for ABBREVIATIONS – ACRONYMS
This is not an American thing – it’s a wedding website thing! LOL (laugh out loud)
Common Wedding Abbreviations
- AA – African American or Alfred Angelo
- Boyfriend or Best Friend – Boyfriend or Best Friend
- Bridesmaid or Best Man – Bridesmaid or Best Man
- Bridal Party – Bridal party
- B-pics – Boudoir pictures
- DB – David’s Bridal
- Darling Husband – Dear Husband or Darling Husband
- DOC – Day of coordinator
- Destination Wedding – Destination wedding
- Engagement Ring – Engagement ring
- Engagement Party – Engagement party
- E-pics – Engagement pictures
- Flower Girl – Flower girl
- FH – Future husband
- Fiance – Fiance/e or “Future Intended”
- Father-In-Law – Father-in-law
- Future In-Laws – Future In-Laws
- Future Brother-In-Law – Future Brother-in-law
- Future Father-In-Law – Future Father-in-law
- Future Mother-In-Law – Future Mother-in-law
- Future Sister-In-Law – Future Sister-in-law
- FOG – Father of the groom
- FOB – Father of the bride
- Girlfriend – Girlfriend
- Groomsmen – Groomsman
- Honeymoon – Honeymoon
- Justice of the Peace / JOP – Justice of the Peace
- LDR – Long Distance Relationship
- Mother-In-Law – Mother-in-law
- MOB – Mother of the bride
- MOG – Mother of the groom
- Maid/Matron of Honor – Maid/Matron of Honor
- MUA – Make-Up Artist
- New Husband – New Husband
- Not Wedding Related – Not Wedding Related
- Out of Town – Out of town
- Ring Bearer – Ring bearer
- Rehearsal Dinner – Rehearsal dinner
- SO – Significant other
- SDR – Short Distance Relationship
- STD – Save the Date
- TTD – Trash the dress
- VIP(s) – Very Important Person, referring to wedding party and immediate family
- WIC – Wedding Industrial Complex
- WB – Weddingbee
- Wedding Party – wedding party
Other Commonly Used Abbreviations
- BUMP or Bump – Bring Up My Post (Please use sparingly.)
- By The Way – By the way
- DIY – Do it yourself
- ETA – Edited to Add
- CL – Craigslist
- DINK – Dual Incomes No Kids
- FWIW – For what it’s worth
- GL – Good luck
- Get Together – Get Together
- Hope This Helps – Hope this helps
- IIRC – If I Recall Correctly
- In Honor Of – In honor of
- IMO – In my opinion
- In My Humble Opinion – In my humble opinion
- IRL – In Real Life
- KWIM – Know what I mean
- NSFW – Not Safe For Work
- OP – Original Poster (on Weddingbee thread)
- Pictures In Bio – Picture in bio (referencing a personal bio created on Weddingbee)
- Public Service Announcement – Public service announcement
- PP – Previous Poster(s) (on Weddingbee thread)
- SFW – Safe For Work
- Thanks In Advance – Thanks in advance
- Too Much Information – Too much information
- Thank You – Thank you
Common Baby Related Abbreviations
- AF – Aunt Flo (i.e. period)
- BBT – Basal Body Temperature (used to calculate a woman’s fertile days)
- BC – Birth control
- BCP – Birth control pill
- BD – Baby Dance (i.e. have sex)
- Boyfriend or Best Friend – Breastfeed
- BFN – Big Fat Negative
- BFP – Big Fat Positive
- CD – Cycle Day
- CD – Cloth diapers
- CBFM – ClearBlue Fertility Monitor
- CIO – Cry It Out method
- CM – Cervical Mucus
- CS or C/S – Cesarean section
- Dirty Delete – Dear Daughter
- DPO – Days Past Ovulation
- DS – Dear Son
- DTD – Do the Deed (i.e. have sex)
- EWCM – Egg White Cervical Mucus
- FRER – First Response Early Result (pregnancy test)
- HPT – Home Pregnancy Test
- IC – Incompetent Cervix
- IC – Internet Cheapies (pregnancy tests)
- IUI – Intra-Uterine Insemination
- IVF – In Vitro Fertilization
- KU – Knocked Up
- L&D – Labor & Delivery
- LMP – Last Mentrual Period
- LP – Luteal Phase, the medical name for the two week wait; after ovulation, before you start your period
- LPD – Luteal Phase Defect
- LO – Little One
- MC or M/C – Miscarriage
- NFP – Natural Family Planning (as a birth control method)
- NTNT or NTNTC – Not Trying Not To [Conceive]
- O – Ovulation
- OB – Obstetrician
- OBC – Oral Birth Control
- OPK – Ovulation Predictor Kit
- PCOS – PolyCystic Ovary Syndrome
- PCOD – PolyCystic Ovarian Disease (another name for PCOS)
- PG – Pregnant
- POAS – Pee on a Stick (ie take a pregnancy test)
- PPD – Postpartum Depression
- RE – Reproductive Endocrinologist
- SA – Semen Analysis
- Stay-At-Home Mom – Stay at home mom
- Stay-At-Home Dad – Stay at home dad
- Stay-At-Home Wife – Stay at home wife
- SD – Step Daughter
- SS – Step Son
- SX – Symptoms
- TCOYF – Taking Charge of Your Fertility (book by Toni Weschler about natural methods to achieve and avoid pregnancy)
- TFW – Two Free Weeks (meaning you can drink or what not because you know you aren’t pregnant)
- TTA – Trying to Avoid
- TTC – Trying to Conceive
- TWW – Two Week Wait
- US or U/S – Ultrasound
- VBAC – Vaginal Birth After Cesearean
Post # 16
It seems like there is more variation in the American wedding than the British wedding, and more variation in the British honeymoon than the American honeymoon.
Understanding that British laws set forth a lot more restrictions on who can perform your ceremony and where it can be held, and that British culture is a bit more strict on what is expected when you host a wedding explains why we see so much more variance in the American weddings. While many British brides might love the idea of marrying on a boat or in a garden, the Council might not allow it; fewer venues approved as wedding sites means more competition for those venues which means less opportunity for the bride and groom to dictate the day’s events. In other words, if everyone is fighting over the same venue, the venue is more able to say “we only do weddings when you book the whole venue for the entire day.” Plus the British wedding has been an all-day, all-night affair for hundreds and hundreds of years, whereas the American wedding has only even been around for less than 300 years. Less history = less of an ingrained tradition = more opportunity to throw out the book and do your own thing.
The British honeymoon is more likely to be to some place that we Americans consider exotic: Egypt, Africa, the far East, the Mediterranean islands, and so forth. The British, like most Europeans, are far more likely to travel, given their proximity to continental Europe, Northern Africa, and the Near East. Many countries far from England used to be part of the British empire and may still even be part of the Commonwealth. British citizens travel and even relocate easily between countries as far as Australia, and it’s fairly uncommon for any English person to not have a passport. Americans, by comparison, are more reluctant to travel, at least by air; we are a car-centric culture and the number of people without passports is pretty shocking. We tend to honeymoon closer to home: Mexico, Hawaii and the Caribbean being among the most popular. Plus there’s the geographic reasons that keep Americans closer to home: in the same amount of time it takes to get from London to Hong Kong by plane, I’ve barely made it from the Continental US to Hawaii or Alaska.