american wedding??

posted 3 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 3
3047 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@valyintheworld: My husband is Canadian, I’m Swedish and we were married in Sweden this summer. So obviously it was all very Swedish, but we tried to incorporate Canada/North America as well! Some examples:

Ceremony in English (except from psalms)

Walking in to Pachelbel’s Canon in D

Having favors (we don’t have that in Sweden) – Canadian Ice Wine

Serving Canadian snacks & playing some Canadian music

Post # 4
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think weddings have evolved SO much–they’re no one “right” way to do it!

Post # 6
5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it’s ok to pretty much have whatever kind of wedding you want to have!

As for parents contributing… well if they offer, that’s lovely, and if they don’t, that’s ok too- just host the wedding you can afford to pay for on your own.

Our sequence of events went a little something like this:

Morning of the wedding I had my hair and make-up done, then went to the venue where my BMs were getting ready and I finished getting ready there.

The guys were in their area getting ready as well.

Guests were seated in the ceremony area, then the GM/ushers escorted the grandparents and parents to their seats, groom and best man went to the altar.

The GMs & BMs walked down the aisle together, then my MOH, followed by the flower girl (we didn’t have a ring bearer, and our flower girl didn’t drop flowers- she blew bubbles)

I was escorted in with my dad on my left and my step-dad on my right.

We had our ceremony- reading by officiant, our own vows, followed by traditional vows, then ring exchange, then kiss!

We hosted cocktail hour upstairs in the reception hall for our guests while we wrapped up the photos. (Open bar, fruits/veggies/cheeses/crackers)

We made our entrance to the reception, had our first dance, then father-daughter dance, then mother-son dance.

Lunch was served, we ate first, then went table-to-table to greet our guests.

By the time we made our rounds, it was time to do the bouquet & garter tosses, followed by BM & MOH speeches, then the cake cutting.

Then people pretty much danced, hung out, socialized, until the reception ended.



Post # 7
3047 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@valyintheworld: We got married in Sweden because that was easiest on my grandmother. She’s almost 85, so obviously we didn’t want to risk her not being able to make it by having the wedding somewhere else. My husband was all in favor of this as he really wanted her to be part of the day. He also brought up the thing about a wedding being on the brides home turf – so perhaps that’s more of an American tradition? I know I could easily have gotten married pretty much anywhere in the world from an emotional viewpoint, but Sweden made most sense logistically (brides maids, best man and flower girl all lives there as well – as does the rest of my family). 

As for peoples reactions about us having it there – well, some of our Canadian friends couldn’t make it due to the distance. Sad but something that I think it’s hard to avoid when it comes to DW. My MIL also complained about the cost of the trip, but she complains about everything so that was expected. In the end, my husbands parents, godmother, sister and sisters partner made it and that was what was really important to him. If I were you, I would sit down with your partner and look into the guest list – then have the wedding wherever you think most people will be able to attend.

Oh, one more thing. For us the entire wedding (rings, flights and honeymoon included) was around $18000. We would have had a hard time getting as nice a day here for the same price. Sweden is SO much cheaper for weddings than Canada. So look into reception costs for both Italy and California!

Post # 10
1548 posts
Bumble bee

@valyintheworld:  the whole on the brides turf isn’t a tradition I am familiar with, usually the couple pick a central location acxording to the venue and  the theme they are going with (an example would b destination weddings). Depending on the ethnicity and religion African Americans “jump the broom” while Jewish break dishes and Catholics hav communion so it all defer in that aspect. other than that weddings are EXACTLY like the movies, over the top and intertwined with etiquette and tradition. 

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