(Closed) Amount of Involvement

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1747 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

With a month left, do you still have your bridal shower and bachelorette or did that already take place (if you chose to have them)? If you didn’t invite them to those things and they didn’t ask, I would assume that the whole “get involved” ship has sailed. There is really nothing for them to do and it’s not like you should ask them to help you with all the last minute errands if they haven’t done anything so for or offered their help.

Some people are best left at a distance and if you’ve exhausted every option of trying to be friendly with them, it’s best to just keep it civil at this point.

Post # 6
3182 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t think they are any set rules.  If you would rather them show up to the wedding, I think that’s fine.  That’s about what we are doing.  


Post # 7
12 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012

youre not obligated to involve them especially if youre not close to them. i feel your pain. stand your ground

Post # 8
2263 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have a bad relationship with them, so the farther they are away from me, the better! 

 They are showing up to the wedding, my shower is from my friend/mom and they are unaware it is even going on. Also, my bachelorette is being thrown by my friends,it’s a girl friend only night and they’re not invited either. 


I would say if they offer to do anything, let them (if you have a good or at least neutral relationship)

If they don’t offer just invite. 

 I think it’s okay to pick whatever involvement YOU want them to have. Pick whatever makes you happy or less stressed. It’s your day or your parties and you don’t have to invite anyone you don’t want to. It’d be a nice gesture, but you don’t have to do anything. 

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