Post # 1
It’s pretty short..some of y’all may have read it already, but apparently the author has gotten some heat for writing it. I don’t necessarily agree or disagree with her, but would love to hear what people think about her opinion! I did catch myself chuckling a couple of times though.
If you’re interested, here’s an interview with her talking about the article:
Post # 3
Hmmm, I think that’s geared more towards women who aren’t yet in a long term commited relationship. I think the general ideas apply, but only to those who are still “in the market”, not for anyone who’s found “the one” and is just waiting for him to come around.
Post # 4
@Wonderwoman217: I totally agree
@SecretBee23: I thought it was pretty funny. I think she makes a lot of really valid points, but as wonderwoman217 said, I think it had more to do with women who aren’t in committed relationships rather than not being married. This reminds me of “He’s just Not That Into You” 🙂
Post # 5
@Wonderwoman217: I agree. I think def for those without a SO. When reading it, I know soooo many women (and quite a few guys) that fit into all those categories, actually, most of my completely unattached friends fit into those categories.
Post # 6
One of my facebook friends posted this to her wall with negative comments about the author (most of these things apply to her, unfortunatley she can’t see it). I agree it’s not for people in relationships that are headed towards marriage, more towards the “on the market” gals who are ready for marriage.
Post # 7
I enjoyed this article. Thanks. I think you all are right – it’s a bit more for the single gal who doesn’t realize he’s not into her.
This is my favorite line:
“I know it seems unfair that you have to work around a man’s fear and insecurity in order to get married — but actually, it’s perfect, since working around a man’s fear and insecurity is big part of what you’ll be doing as a wife.”
We’re learning communication strategies right now… well, he is. I’m learning patience. 🙂
Post # 8
Glad y’all enjoyed it! I agree as well that it’s geared toward the single girl who doesn’t ever pick the right guy..but unfortunately I feel like the type of girl it’s talking about is also the one who won’t realize that it’s describing her.
Post # 9
That is hilarious and spot on. Totally not directed at women who ARE with someone they want to marry. It’s basically a giant wake up call: “Hey! You have to be nice and think about someone else for once!” I, for one, loved it.
Post # 10
LOL! I know quite a few women who are married with those traits, but I do tell it’s geared towards women who are single. But if you want to learn how to get married, no better person than one who has been married thrice. 🙂 She said marry, not stay together.LOL
Post # 11
I like the article, but I have to admit… I have/had some of those qualities, and I’m married to a wonderful guy….
So it makes me think that there’s a bit of a compromise that has to go on. Yes, I toned down some of my “bitchyness” and “selfishness” when I met my DH, but I didn’t really do it consciously. I did it because I met a great guy, and suddenly getting my way all the time didn’t seem that important anymore.
However, I also think that he had to accept me, along with my periods of bitchyness and selfishness. They still sneak in there sometimes, but he has learned to embrace it. Hopefully those women have enough positive qualities that their SO can overlook their flaws.
Post # 12
I think it’s spot on and I think that CanAmBride’s comment was right on as well. Compromise and acceptance. Plus, it’s kind of funny that the women who get mad about the article are the ones whom it applies to.
My favorite line: “Probably because for them marriage involves sacrificing their most treasured possession — a free-agent penis — and for us, it’s the culmination of a princess fantasy so universal, it built Disneyland.” LOL
Post # 13
Interesting. I kinda liked it! I just might be passing this on to a friend of mine…
Post # 14
I think she makes some interesting points and some of the things she lists, I agree with. But I found the article a bit tacky. Maybe I’m old… LOL
Post # 15
I really liked this article, but it makes me wonder–why did she get divorced so often, too? Hmm.
Post # 16
@Mrs Hedgehog: haha..yeah, I’d be scared to send this to anyone..in fear of them catching on that I’m calling them a selfish biatch!
@ellabee: I think she’s probably describing herself!